Monthly Archives:

May 2024

Come On Girls!

“Without the Heart, there can be no understanding between the Hand and the Mind.”

Thirty-five years ago, Madonna released the second single off her ‘Like A Prayer‘ album – ‘Express Yourself’ – an instant slice of iconic grandeur, and one of her rallying anthems that would withstand the test of time. (Witness its acoustic, and surprisingly touching, rebirth in her most recent ‘Celebration Tour’.) 

This was a defining song of the summer of 1989 – and while that summer comes and goes from my memory all these years later, I remember this song playing on the radio waves, along with the waves of the ocean, and the waves of heat that beat off the sand, off the pavement, off the stone and tar of our garage roof. Such heat coming amid such a sick beat. 

Only summer could handle a banger like ‘Express Yourself’.

And only Madonna could handle seering the summer of ’89 into my memory. 

Continue reading ...

A New Sensational Obsession

Listen to Laufey and see if you’re obsessed about this as a lovely summer soundtrack for a summer that will be dreamy and blue and sadly whimsical. Fittingly entitled ‘From the Start’, this is actually an echo of a previous post, so it’s more of a continuation of things pink, and a little pointer of where things are headed. Our official summer theme is about to be revealed – and if you know (and a few of you already do) then snap your fan and keep it secret, keep it safe.

Don’t you notice howI get quiet when there’s no one else around?Me and you and awkward silenceDon’t you dare look at me that wayI don’t need reminders of how you don’t feel the same

 

These lilies have been getting in on the act, splashing their flashy selves across the garden centers, and completely out of place at this early stage of the gardening season. Still, they are pretty, and prettiness is its own mystery and solution. 

Continue reading ...

#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series

Sooner or later we will all – every last one of us – be cancelled

As the world turns. 

#TinyThreads

Continue reading ...

Dazzler of the Day: James Phoon

Star of stage and screen, James Phoon is crowned as Dazzler of the Day thanks to advance buzz on his upcoming season of ‘Bridgerton‘. Is this the year we finally sign up for Netflix? I’m not fully convinced, but James is pushing us in that direction. Check out his Insta here and then watch the new season if you’re lucky enough to have Netflix. (I do realize I’m one of the last people in this country to not have it.)

Continue reading ...

Bittersweet Broadway Return – Part 2

“And so with the sunshine and the great bursts of leaves growing on the trees, just as things grow in fast movies, I had that familiar conviction that life was beginning over again with the summer.” ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald

The majestic art nouveau style of La Grande Boucherie provided a pleasant backdrop for our dinner before the final show we were seeing, ‘The Great Gatsby’, and memories of Dad surfaced during the meal, as they had during the whole weekend. While Dad wasn’t a part of our Mother’s Day weekends on Broadway, he was always there waiting for us when we returned. He had also accompanied us for various shows over the years – I’d seen the original production of ‘Sunset Boulevard’ with him, in keeping with my insistence that anyone who meant anything to me see that show, and I still remember his enthusiastic cheering at the end of the song ‘This Time Next Year‘. I missed seeing that smile, but I was comforted by memories of our last visit to NY together to see ‘Come From Away’. Dad had already begun his decline, but he rallied and walked around with us, having dinner and enjoying the show, hearing aids and all. 

Mom and I shared a wonderful dinner, amid large vases of flowering cherry tree branches and soaring ceilings, starting with this delicious tuna tartare. It rekindled a memory of a dinner at La Grenouille, reminding us of previous jaunts in the city. As annoying as NY can be, it makes up for it with elements of enchantment that cannot be found elsewhere. 

After dinner we wandered a block or two over to the Broadway Theatre, where we finally got to see the jewel of our Broadway weekend – ‘The Great Gatsby’ – and while I was mixed on my reaction, it certainly conjured the atmosphere and opulence of the Gatsby environment. That’s enough for a substantial bit of magic. 

It was a good ending for our return to Broadway, and a nice embrace of a happy tradition, even as it was made possible by bittersweet events. Being with Mom for Mother’s Day weekend was a gift in itself. The next morning we took the train back home, where Andy was waiting with an early Mother’s Day dinner. 

The backyard was ablaze with the blooms of lilacs – the sweet perfume a reminder of spring and renewal, and starting over again. A Mother’s Day worthy of the beauty and grace of my Mom. 

“So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.” ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald

Continue reading ...

Bittersweet Broadway Return – Part 1

When Mom and I had to put our annual Mother’s Day weekend trip to Broadway on hold when Dad’s health declined to the point where she couldn’t leave him alone, I made my peace with it because I knew that as long as we weren’t going, that meant Dad was still around. This month we were able to return to our tradition, and there was something bittersweet about it all – and something healing and caring about it as well. As we traverse the first year without him, we are finding our way around milestones like Mother’s Day and doing our best. In this case, our return to New York formed a lovely distraction, as well as moments ripe for remembrance. 

We arrived to a gray day of rain and midtown congestion – oh that congestion is real – and ended up exiting the car ride early because we saw it would be quicker, even in the rain, to walk eight blocks rather than wait half an hour to make the same distance. Welcome to NY, which has only gotten more annoying since last we visited. That was a whopping five years ago, leaving plenty of time for change. 

Rather than try to squeeze in three or four shows, we settled on two, prefaced by two dinners and buffered by some shopping and a walk in Central Park. On this first day, however, after a brief bit of shopping in the rain, we settled in to a sushi dinner at Fushimi before our first show – ‘The Who’s Tommy’.

Having never seen the original Broadway production, or the source movie-musical material, this was my introduction to ‘The Who’s Tommy’ and it was a visually-spectacular, if slightly convoluted on plot and storyline. It’s certainly a dynamic and energized show, and it makes the most of current technological projections and video effects. Its rollicking score is one of the main strengths, and the music manages to lift a meandering narrative. We walked back to the hotel through the bombastic Friday night which was just getting underway.

After an early excursion to the re-opened Century 21 (not worth the trip downtown) we took the subway to the Upper West Side, arriving at the edge of Central Park. On this beautifully sunny Saturday, we took our time walking through the park, then doing a little more shopping. When the city starts to feel too loud and claustrophobic (twin evils of necessity when attending shows on Broadway) breaks in Central Park have always provided a welcome respite from the heaviness. It set us up nicely for a little break before our last dinner and show of this trip…

Continue reading ...

Blue Evening and Moon

A song for a blue night, when the moon winks at you from behind a bank of clouds. In this glorious spring section when the danger of frost has mostly passed, when we can finally relax a little when it comes to the lingering question of whether winter might reach back and clobber us once more. I think we can let that guard down for another year. Let us find resolution in this lovely little song.

Spring nights can make for the most magical nights, when the wind is right and the moon is light. All promise rests on the hope of a warm breeze – it is the promise of summer, peeking around these clouds like the moon

Continue reading ...

The Prepopulated Post

There is safety and protection in the way I’ve designed this blog to work. Pre-populated and scheduled posts allow me to do a week’s worth of blog posts in a few hours, then simply hit-and-run on my social media outlets when they go live. It gives the appearance of constant and consistent self-promotion, of an ongoing presence, even when I’m not here. More importantly, it lends distance to my posts, and distance lends enchantment

Distance also gives a rosier outlook when I don’t feel like writing, when I don’t feel like doing anything. That gives this place a slightly skewed slant, try as might to be brutally honest, a skewed view that gleams and sparkles when my soul doesn’t feel like shining. So you won’t always know when I’m actually hurting, or when I’m actually bothered, or when I’m actually feeling anything. It’s safer for the soul that way, and that’s why I make it look easy

That’s also why I respect those of you who do it all without complaint, why I honor your work, and your willingness to take it all on in silent and stoic fashion. 

Think of the swan, gliding so gracefully upon the water, and then think of all the movement that goes on beneath the surface. Swans must be ferocious and fierce to feign such fabulousness

Continue reading ...

Shades of Summer on the Horizon

More hints of a quiet summer to come, this is a color that looks to feature prominently, and I’ve already given away too much so that will be all I can say on it other than listen to Lana, listen to Laufey, eat your macarons, and watch ‘Marie Antoinette‘. It’s not that deep, it’s not that serious, and that’s the way summer should be

Continue reading ...

Poised on the Precipice of Taking Flight

The latest trailer is out for the first of the ‘Wicked’ movies, and it further establishes the potential of what this could be. This one brings out a bit more of Galinda’s performance, and while I’m not the biggest Ariana Grande fan, she seems to be impressively slipping into the pink witch’s magic. 

“The real thing about evil,” said the Witch at the doorway, “isn’t any of what you said. You figure out one side of it – the human side, say – and the eternal side goes into shadow. Or vice versa. It’s like the old saw: What does a dragon in its shell look like? Well no one can ever tell, for as soon as you break the shell to see, the dragon is no longer in its shell. The real disaster of this inquiry is that it is the nature of evil to be secret.” ~ Gregory Maguire

Continue reading ...

Dazzler of the Day: Helen Zia

“No one is truly equal and free until everyone is equal and free.” ~ Helen Zia

This Dazzler of the Day crowning feels like a superfluous and almost frivolous honor compared to the work that Helen Zia has done for her entire life. Activist, journalist, and freedom-warrior, Zia has dedicated her life to advancing justice for Asian Americans and LGBTQ+ community members, and all the various intersectional spaces where marginalized people exist. It’s a war she has waged since the 1980’s, and sadly needs to continue now more than ever. Check out her website here for further evidence of her brilliance.

“There are many lessons to be learned from refugees and migrants that can contribute to the understanding needed to navigate the global tectonics to bring people together, not drive them into flight.” ~ Helen Zia

Continue reading ...

A Most Fragrant Duet

This is probably the most exquisitely-perfumed week in the garden, as the lilac trees and lily-of-the-valley plants are in full, fragrant bloom, crossing the sweetly-scented height of their potency – each carrying on the slightest of breezes, and each glorious in their singular way. For Mother’s Day, we sent a bouquet of each with Mom to bring home (more on that fun weekend to come). In the meantime, both of these flowers conjure happy memories of springs long gone but never forgotten

Continue reading ...

Ferning Up

This appears to be a day of green, as we follow the green light of Gatsby with this ferny post exemplifying the splendor of the Ostrich Fern. It is the best time to appreciate the unfurling fronds of this fern variety, as they are at their freshest and most chartreuse hue. They will happily retain much of this color throughout the season, though if it’s a hot and sunny one without ample water these will begin their burn-out in late July. The trick is to keep them watered well for as long as possible, as you can stave off the turn, but you cannot stop it once it begins. As in so many other instances prevention is key. 

Along with their stunning shade of green, ostrich ferns also provide great architectural interest in the garden, with their magnificent fronds, particular in the early unfurling stages. Once opened up, they arch gracefully – surprisingly stalwart in wind and rain – though they will get tattered if brushed by branches or wayward wanderers in their space. Such beauty doesn’t come without a bit of carefulness. 

For now, all is freshness and verdant promise – the very best qualities of any fern worth such ample space in the garden (and the ostrich ferns will demand a decent stretch of space and then completely claim it, particularly if there’s a steady source of water). 

Spring is in full effect, even if it’s been a bit on the slow side. Summer will likely simply click on without any transitory relief and we will simply have to go with the flow. You know you can do it.

Continue reading ...

Dazzler of the Day: Harry Sisson

With his crazy-popular TikTok account (and tributary social media accounts), Harry Sisson is one of the next generations most vocal supporter for democracy – and at a time when our country very much teeters on its own destruction should the GOP come into full power, voices like Harry’s will be necessary to see us through these turbulent times. He earns this Dazzler of the Day for his relentless speaking of truth, and encouragement to keep our democracy working. 

Continue reading ...