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August 2020

Mock-Up of a Margarita

Certain cocktails simply can’t be made into mocktails – the martini, for example, or the Manhattan. They rely too heavily (in these cases solely) on alcohol for taste and make-up. There are other cocktails that lend themselves to virgin versions, those with some sort of mixer or other liquid accoutrements. The Virgin Mary is a great example of this, and in this post I hope to show you that a margarita can also be one of these, even if there is no tequila or cointreau in it. 

Fresh lime and lemon juice lends it the requisite tartness and flavor, while a secret ingredient gives it a spicy tang. For me, a margarita has always been about the salt rim anyway – once that is in place you may not even notice the lack of liquor

I found the following virgin margarita recipe online, and tweaked it a bit. The secret ingredient is pickle juice, though I used the juice from some pickled jalapeños instead, because I enjoy a little kick to my margaritas. 

VIRGIN MARGARITA
  • 1 oz. fresh lime juice
  • 1/2 oz. fresh lemon juice
  • 1/4 tsp. agave syrup (or simple syrup)
  • 1/8 tsp. pickle juice or jalapeño juice
  • 3 oz. lime seltzer or tonic

Shake up all ingredients except seltzer in a shaker with ice, pour over more ice into a margarita glass rimmed with salt and lime, then top with the seltzer or tonic. It’s amazing what that secret ingredient can do to trick the tastebuds. 

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Blasting and Blaring into the Sky

Notoriously difficult to photograph well, at least with my amateurish abilities, the beauty of the angel’s trumpet has never quite translated completely here. Coupled with its magnificent and potent fragrance, the majesty of these potted plants must be seen and experienced in person to do it true justice. 

Towering over all of our container plants – and the fig trees have definitely given it a run for its money – this Brugmansia specimen is only in its second year, but they grow so quickly in the heat and humidity we’ve had this summer that it exudes the stature of an elder plantsman. 

Its magic is most wondrous as night falls, and its flowers glow in the gloaming as they begin to emit a perfume that scents the entire yard, floating over the pool in enchanting fashion. It will linger into the first light of day, and if you get up early enough and tip-toe into the backyard, you can find the intoxicated bees still languidly buzzing about, drawn to its sweet aroma. 

Alluring and captivating, it casts a summer spell unrivaled by any of the other container plants we have growing. 

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The Wisdom of a Tiny Dragon

From the fiery mouths of dragons… 

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Still More Sunbursts

A midday treat featuring the brilliance of the cup plant. Finches, hummingbirds, bees and butterflies have all flocked to these magnificent blooms. A thousand little cheerful orbs call out to be worshipped, and the world is powerless to resist such charms. These beauties have been going strong for a full month, fostering the beautiful bustle of all the aforementioned visitors. 

Summer is still riding high, delivering the punch and pizzazz for which it is rightly renowned. The world may have dimmed a bit, but summer doesn’t seem to mind. If anything, it’s glowing a little brighter these days. Nature will have her pretty way; in the end she always wins. 

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Moody Summer Days by the Pool

The summer of 2020 already feels like a ghost. 

Hollow, ephemeral, transparent – like the strange way airs seems to bend above hot asphalt. 

Is it all really happening like this? I find myself wondering… is it all really unfolding this way?

And then I feel the sting of a mosquito or the slice of razor grass and those little pains indicate that yes, I’m still alive, yes, we are still living, yes, life is still happening with all its minor annoyances and hurts. 

Without a summer party theme, we traverse a season rudderless, floating adrift without the guidance of a get-together, and maybe that’s why everything feels a little lost. 

And so, let us play some music. To make a memory, to make the moment matter, to demarcate this time in a happier way than news reports or school worries or office video conferences. This is Oscar Patterson and his ‘Backyard Blues’ from ‘A Summer in Munich.’

It joins our other summer songs from 2020 such as ‘Starry, Starry Night‘ which kicked the season off to an uncertain and somber start, as well as ‘Second Night of Summer‘ which pretty much explains itself. Summer makes music sound better somehow; I can’t explain it any other way. This year, songs take on a different gleam, shimmering in moments mostly of solitude, and in all honesty, there is more silence that informs this particular season than music. There is something telling in that. Telling, and peaceful, and welcome. We needed the break. The world needed it. To get better.

We are not there yet. And so, let us fill this summer day with more music

Bobby Hutchinson and ‘Recorda Me’ give us some summer soundtrack solace, for when the summer nights wrap their warm winds around the shoulders, leaving sweet invisible kisses and whispers of sweeter days. 

This is music as perfect for a sunny day by the pool as for a cool and rainy night hinting at the fall to come. It works both ways, touching on all emotional extremes, allowing for myriad interpretations and moods. And what is summer but one grandly elaborate mood? In this year, perhaps more than any other, the moods are variable and wild, swinging and shifting, tempered by the sun or trampled by the rain. 

Sunlight, water, and wind play in the pools of a backyard summer, wishing their way around the world in a single day. 

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How to Swallow

This swallowtail butterfly has been doting on our two enormous clumps of cup plants, a reward on a par with the hummingbirds and finches that have been visiting as well. A sight for satiated summer eyes, it’s always worth a quick run outside to see this gorgeous creature fluttering about and flitting from bloom to bloom. 

Is there something more beautiful about something that is so fleeting?

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A Fiery Floral Starburst

Remark the fiery starburst of the simple coreopsis! Its flower power may be small of stature, but its coloring is red-hot of glory. In a single bloom, an entire summer bursts into beautiful flame. Whereas an entire five-foot stand of bluish hydrangeas fades into the early evening background, this little blossom burns like a fire, stealing all the focus of the day and night.

I admire its ability to be heard despite its smallness. So many of us are screaming out to be noticed these days, and this little performer refuses to be silenced. It reminds me of this city tomato or this backyard petunia. Survivors come in all shapes and sizes, and just because something is pretty doesn’t negate its power or performance. 

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This is not entirely my fault…

In fact, I would argue I had absolutely nothing to do with the unfortunate closing of Albany’s Pier 1 Imports, because a single pillow incident like this simply does not have the power to take down an entire store. Still, there is something vaguely karmic about this whole sad situation, because I believe a store’s management takes its lessons from the very top, and this sort of poor customer service surely accounts for something.

Anyway, maybe if they’d sold me the pillow I wanted things would be different. In all likelihood, they wouldn’t, but I’d like to believe that karma still works some wonders in the world. As for the longstanding Pier 1 Imports on Wolf Road, it’s a bittersweet goodbye. You’ll have to find your wicker papasan elsewhere. 

 

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A Simple Hard Truth

“I think I know – we see it around us every day – the spiritual wasteland to which that road leads. It is so simple a fact and one that is so hard, apparently, to grasp: Whoever debases others is debasing himself. That is not a mystical statement but a most realistic one…” ~ James Baldwin

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Michelle Obama is the Heart of America

This may very well be the most riveting and inspiring speech I have ever seen in my lifetime. Fittingly, the only other speech that I recall (because I honestly am not usually moved by political speeches) was also given by Michelle Obama at the DNC Convention when her husband Barack was running for re-election. She was electrifying that night. But it was nothing compared to this speech, at this immense moment in history, when the world balances precariously on the razor-thin line between good and evil. Ms. Obama rose to that occasion in stunning, breathtaking fashion, and her words should be heard and read in the history of our country. Take the time to watch it – it’s that good. It’s that necessary. It’s that important.

“Donald Trump is the wrong president for our country. He has had more than enough time to prove that he can do the job, but he is clearly in over his head. He cannot meet this moment. He simply cannot be who we need him to be for us.” – Michelle Obama

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The Dill Dip Recipe

The first time I remember eating dill dip and rye bread was at a party at the Ko home. It was summer, and one of Suzie’s older brothers had graduated. They were so much older than us that their stories and lives operated on a level beyond what our focus could hold. We found our own fun, exploring the gardens and the carriage house, behind which chickens used to live. There was an element of danger to them, lending excitement to the lower driveway, and as our parents mingled with their friends, we passed the time near the big rubber tire filled with ice and soda cans. A red and white checkered tablecloth fluttered in the wind, and on it stood a round rye filled with dill dip. Alternately hiding under the long table, and popping up to pop some bread an dip in our mouths, we did what kids did and blended into the background, literally disappearing beneath the food table while adults did what adults did – the mystery of which I’m still not sure I’ve figured out. 

Ever since that day, dill dip and rye bread has been a favorite party food, something I serve faithfully at all our gatherings – a classic slice of Americana that I’ve spread about to friends and family. It’s one of those dishes that I’ve toyed with taking a break from, but that would cause a revolt, and sometimes it’s easier to acquiesce than try something new. 

This summer, without a gathering or opportunity for making it, I found myself missing its tangy creamy richness, so I made a quick batch and sat by the pool nibbling on it and remembering parties of the past. Here, at long last, is the simple recipe I use. It can be changed up and revised as you see fit – this is what has worked for me. The key is mixing it up and tasting it AFTER it’s had a chance to sit and meld. 

DILL DIP
  • 1 package cream cheese (softened – I leave it on the counter for a few hours)
  • 1 container sour cream
  • 1/2 cup mayonnaise
  • 1 Tbsp dill weed
  • 1 Tbsp Herbes de Provence 
  • 1/2 Tbsp dill seed
  • 1/2 Tbsp garlic salt
  • 1/2 Tbsp freshly ground pepper
  • 1 tsp. fennel seed (to echo the rye bread)

Combine all the ingredients and mix well, then chill. Taste after a few hours to adjust seasonings as needed. Carve out a round rye bread, saving and roughly chopping the bread for dipping. (I usually get a couple of loaves of rye bread for dipping, and double the recipe for parties. We eat the leftovers for breakfast the day after a get-together.)

Summer demands the indulgence of nostalgia

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A Cleome Recap

I haven’t intentionally planted any cleome for the past few years, yet our front yard has always had a few self-seeders that have come up faithfully. Actually, the past two years I’ve spent pulling out more than I’ve let remain, so this season, along with the late start and then sudden onslaught of summer, we’ve only had a few make it through the mulch. I’m glad they did, as they are providing some new florals for the second half of summer. On with the weekly recap…

The essence of gorgeous.

Fire in summer.

Summer means watermelon

I love Kamala Harris

Summer hair, don’t care!

No company, only comfort food

Summer lounging.

Summer nostalgia.

Mr. Sassy was born this month.

Summer Speedo experimentation

Savoring Saturday.

Tomato fail, typical of 2020.

A Sunday setback that wasn’t.

Hunks of the Day included Tom Ellis, Sean Basil McGiver, Chasten Buttigieg, Craig Conover, and Michael Strahan.

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A Sunday Setback That Wasn’t

A few days ago I had a difficult meditation. It wasn’t anything traumatic or tough in an emotional sense – I was just finding it difficult to deepen my breath and focus my head. Random thoughts skittered and scattered across my mind, and try as I might to banish them, it wasn’t possible for at least ten minutes. I was trying to fight them – something you don’t typically do in a meditation. It’s often best to acknowledge those thoughts as they enter your mind, then let them pass by in their own time, which acknowledgment usually hastens. 

For whatever reason, that wasn’t happening. I thought briefly of ending the meditation early, as it seemed pointless when the mind was racing, going against the very notion and reason for meditating, but I kept at it. I eased up on the deep breathing until it became comfortable again. I allowed the thoughts to present themselves, no matter how annoying or mundane or bizarre they were.

My breathing deepened. The crowded compilation of worries dispersed. The bright clarity of meditation revealed itself again, and as I lost myself in such beauty, the phone chimed the end of the 23-minute session. 

Some meditations take longer than others to click. In the very beginning of my meditation journey, I didn’t find that sense of clarity and release that I can find more often now. My meditations were only five minutes back then – such was the length that I could stand to sit still. Once in a while, I’d lose myself and get a brief glimpse of the expansive peace and calm that seemed to be the goal, and these little peeks at something greater kept me going. 

Every few days and weeks I’d increase my sitting time by a minute, and it became easier and more natural to sit in the lotus position, to not only seek but also to find that elusive sense of peace and calm. That doesn’t mean I can always locate it. Like the other day, sometimes it proves itself furtive and difficult. It brought me to the point where I entertained the thought of giving up, just for the day, just for that meditation, yet I kept going, pushing through those moments when it seemed futile. Little failures offer the opportunity for little improvements. And that’s how we get to where we want to be, or at the very least a little bit closer. 

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Tomato Fail

They had such great promise. They started out so well. And they, like most things in 2020, ended up being a big-ass failure thus far. These photographs of our tomato plants hide the sad fact that before any of the ‘Early Girl’ or ‘Giant Beefsteak’ varieties have reached ripening stage, their lower portions rot out – just the bottoms, and in every single fruit that gets red. After researching it online, it seems that this is blossom end rot, which is not a fungus but a physiological disorder based on a calcium imbalance. 

A physiological disorder based on a calcium imbalance? Are you fucking kidding me? Growing tomatoes shouldn’t have to be this complicated. That’s part of the reason why I’ve taken it all in stride, like other incidents from this disappointing year, chalking up the failure to the general suckiness of 2020. Blossom end rot is not the end of the world. The end of the world will be the end of the world, and we may very well be there. So I shall focus on the cherry tomatoes.

Our cherry tomato plant is doing quite well, producing red fruit, and an abundance of it. Andy consistently did well with cherry tomatoes, both here and at his first house. Next year, I will work only with the cherries. Their foliage remains handsome, while the bigger varieties have started getting spindly and raggedy. Gardening leaves us with such lessons. Failures and successes and all that comes in-between. 

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Savoring Saturday

Certain plants, when they bloom, bring about a sense of melancholy, no matter how pretty or innocent they may otherwise be. That’s the feeling I get whenever the Japanese anemone opens in mid-to-late August. It’s a tell-tale signifier of the fall to come, an incontrovertible fact of the quick passage of summer, hastened day by day from this point forward. Like the goldenrod that must be beginning its graceful nodding beside highways and country roads, it’s a symbol of the waning summer, and always a rather sad one at that.

On this particular Saturday morning, however, I’m turning that around and focusing on the joy, working to savor these blossoms, and thinking for the first time of how they are reminiscent of the blooms of the dogwood tree – a lovely little reminder of when the season was just beginning. Savoring is an important component of happiness, and after being awakened by the shrill screaming of neighborhood chainsaws (the drawback of being one of the only working people on the street who only gets two days a week to sleep late) I made the effort to turn the day around with this moment of savoring.

Though it begins with these slightly mottled petals of pink, the flowers of the Japanese anemone will eventually pale to an almost white color, a ghostly echo of the creamy sepals of the dogwood blooms. There’s a beautiful symmetry to that, and nature can always be counted upon to put such magic into effect.

As for the dwindling days of summer, let’s choose to focus on the sun and warmth at hand, to savor and make the most of the seasonal happiness. There will be more than enough time to dwell upon and deal with fall after it arrives. 

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