A Morning Story

Morning glories have come to signify the inevitable arrival of fall, no matter how far away it may actually be. Yes, I said the f-word, and it’s no longer something to be feared. In fact, as I approach my 49th year on earth I am faced with the irrevocable realization that I have, hopefully, moved into the autumn era of my life. I say hopefully because if I don’t make it to a ripe old age I may have been living in winter and just not have realized it in time. There’s something deeper in that than I care to analyze right at this moment – it’s enough just hinting at the fall of one’s life

Back to the morning glory. It is the old-fashioned blue variety that I have always favored, and of course that’s the variety that hasn’t grown for me. Instead these powerhouse pops of strident color, what everyone thinks embodies me, have been reseeding and creeping into the garden no matter how many times I pull them out. When they surprise me with a late-season bloom, I’m usually glad a few get through. 

Looking deeper into the glowing throat of a bloom, I glimpse a bit of the fall… and a glimpse of the future

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Olympic Spotlight: Jack Laugher

Any Olympian who has an OnlyFans account deserves the Olympic Spotlight, and perhaps a Dazzler of the Day. On this evening, it’s the former, and the spotlight shines on Jack Laugher for reasons further explained in posts like this and this and this

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Dazzler of the Day: Grant Holloway

Hurtling toward Olympic glory, Grant Holloway is leaping over hurdles and charging his way into medal land at the Paris Olympics. Tonight he earns his very first Dazzler of the Day crowning thanks to his impressive performance on the track in Paris.

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A Bashful Beauty

This Rose of Sharon was a gift to my Mom for her front yard, and it has come up and started its bloom season thanks to all the heat and rainfall that Amsterdam has had lately. A member of the Hibiscus family, the Rose of Sharon is one of those ubiquitous shrubs that often gets overused, but its happy colors and ease of coaxing into bloom make it worth growing. This variety is not as common, so it takes pride of place at my Mom’s garden. I love how the bloom of the featured picture hides bashfully behind a leaf – a coy, shy bit of beauty in a summer of quiet healing

While my Dad was always the family’s main gardener during my childhood with his vegetable expertise, Mom knew her way around the annuals. Her garage-side garden of impatiens was a simple but spectacular summer tradition. In her current home, she’s made the gardens her own. I’ve given her a few more Rose of Sharon plants, as well as a couple of lilacs that are still trying to take hold in the rather inhospitably-humid summer we’ve had this year. She’s also been able to grow the spectacular love-lies-bleeding plants that Dad used to grow from seeds he gathered one year in Ogunquit. That’s something I’ve never been successful at doing. 

Next spring we’ll look into refining the gardens she has now – a pine tree that my brother planted too close to the patio needs to go before it becomes unmanageable, and an unused fire pit will have to be repurposed as well. I’ll advise her to take photos and write down measurements now, so we can remember when snow is on the ground and we are desperately leafing through flower catalogs hoping for a hasty return of spring and planning for the next season of the garden. 

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Olympic Spotlight: Cole Hocker

The battle was supposedly between Jakob Ingebrigtsen and Josh Kerr, but it was American Cole Hocker who ran away with the gold in the 1500m race. Proof that bluster doesn’t always come in first. Oh, and he broke the Olympic record too. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Gabby Thomas, Take Two

Two-time Olympic medalist, world champion, and Harvard graduate, Gabby Thomas is truly a Renaissance woman whose talents know no bounds. The work and commitment any one of those accomplishments requires is mind-boggling to me – to do all three, and do them better than everyone else, is the stuff of those rare icons who earn a second Dazzler of the Day. She aims to add to that with her performance in the Paris Olympics. (See her first Dazzler of the Day crowning here.)

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A Poignant Scent Memory: Azure Lime by Tom Ford

Most of the Tom Ford Private Blends I’m fortunate enough to have come with memories of certain moments or specific sections of select seasons. When Andy got me ‘Azure Lime’ for our anniversary last summer, it came just as my Dad was entering his final days. I was torn over whether to wear it to those visits and the funeral, because I knew it would become part of those memories, and I’d never be able to dissociate it from such dark times. Then I realized that marrying those days with my favorite cologne maker would be a fitting way to honor my Dad. If I had one more sensory item to remind me of Dad years from now, it would finally be a scent to trigger one final memory.

It’s a little ironic, as my Dad hardly ever wore cologne. Once in a great while – for a fancy night out or someone’s wedding perhaps – he would splash on a few drops of Old Spice. (Oddly enough, Tom Ford’s first mainstream cologne, titled simply ‘Tom Ford for Men’ has elements that remind me of Old Spice.) Scent was not something I ever connected to my Dad – he didn’t even wear deodorant because he had no body odor. He was always meticulously clean, but even to his last day when he was only getting sponge baths he never had body odor. If there was anything that might remind me of him scent-wise, it would have to be Vick’s Vapo-rub, which he used for various ailments. ‘Azure Lime’ is a much nicer way to remember him, and it’s a classic lime cologne that reeks of old-school style and class – the very sort of debonair elegance and suave sophistication that Dad, in his tailored suits and Burberry coat, personified when he went out in public. 

As for the merits of ‘Azure Lime’ itself, it was one of Tom Ford’s original Private Blends, then was discontinued for several years. He brought it back as part of the Neroli Summer collection, in an aqua bottle to match that line and the citrus lightness of those blue hues. It fits in well there, as like most citrus scents it’s light and not lasting – something that might be a bit of a detractor given the price point. I get more than a little fougere to this one, putting it in classic cologne territory, and perhaps I’ve finally aged into that world. 

It’s a fine and fitting fragrance for summer, and a new memory for the final days of a father

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Olympic Spotlight: Rebeca Andrade

Toppling the GOAT is no easy feat, but Rebeca Andrade is no ordinary gymnast. She finally won the Gold Medal in her floor routine after giving Simone Biles a run for her money at every turn of these Olympics. Biles took it graciously in stride, exhibiting the very best of how humanity works, cheekily bowing down to Andrade on the medal stand. An accomplished gymnast, Andrade earns this Olympic Spotlight for rising to the top during the era of the GOAT. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Mondo Duplantis

Swedish pole-vaulting sensation Mondo Duplantis soars to his crowning as Dazzler of the Day thanks to a gold-winning vault that catapulted him into the hearts of Olympic viewers around the world. His exuberance was gleefully contagious, and this is the sort of spirit and wonder and athletic prowess that makes these Olympic Games so transfixing. He didn’t even need a gimmick!

Armand Duplantis

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Olympic Spotlight: Josh Kerr

One of the biggest rivalries in the track and field portion of the Olympic Games has been between Josh Kerr and Jakob Ingebrigtsen. While the latter had an Olympic Spotlight earlier today, right now Josh Kerr gets the focus. We’ll see who comes closest to the glory of the gold today. 

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Olympic Spotlight: Jakob Ingebrigtsen

The Paris Olympics have entered the track and field portion – one of the most electrifying and exciting sections of the summer games. This Olympic Spotlight is on Jakob Ingebrigtsen competing for Norway, whose made a career of speed and consistency, and is also a bit of a reality television star with his family in Norway. 

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A Wild August Recap

It was a week that saw the one-year anniversary of Dad’s passing come and go. I’ve been in a reflective state of mind, guided by relief, gratitude, sadness, and the raw ache of a year of firsts without him. Everyone who’s ever lost someone has told me the grief doesn’t just end at any finite point in time, and I know and understand this. That said, finishing the year has some sense of reassurance in it, some little bit of comfort as I realize that while Dad is gone, he is still with us in so many ways. 

I also don’t want to bring this space down with daily dwellings on death (even though I think we would all do better to discuss and talk about death in the way I’ve come to understand it’s such a meaningful and natural part of life) and to that end there were and will always be a multitude of distractions and other things on which to focus. This past week has been about the Olympic Games in Paris, which found equal bits of athleticism, inspiration, and eye candy. On with the weekly recap in typical roller coaster fashion

It began with a sizzling hot coquette moment. Our coquette summer burns and burns…

Aiding in the coquette atmosphere was this Silver Mountain Water fragrance by Creed.

Completing the coquette feel of this summer was established in our third summer playlist: Coquette-Me-Not.

The bulge seen round the world belonged to Jules Bouyer.

A little summer rebirth.

The room where my father died.

Dad’s anniversary.

A place of peace and rest.

Coquette loveliness.

A gratuitously shirtless Olympic pause.

The second bulge seen round the word, when this pole vaulter’s pole knocked down the pole. 

Pommel horse guy Stephen Nedoroscik goes shirtless.

Tropical the landlocked breeze, all of nature wild and free, this is where I long to be…

Pinoy Pride was in full effect as Carlos Yulo secured a second gold medal for the Philippines.

the Olympic spotlight shone on Asher Hong, Carlos Alcaraz, Paul Juda, Anthony Harding, Bobby Finke, Carlos Yulo, and Noah Lyles.

Dazzlers of the Day included Maxim Bouchard, Jules Bouyer, Stephen Nedoroscik, and Rhys McClenaghan.

 

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Olympic Spotlight: Noah Lyles

Speed hero Noah Lyles has already been a Dazzler of the Day here, and he definitely deserves another Olympic Spotlight as he finds himself headlining another Olympic Games. We’ll see how he does tonight, but he’s clearly already a champion with nothing left to prove. Of course, more medals are more medals, and the United States would be proud to have another gold from Paris. If anyone can bring it when it counts, it’s Noah Lyles. 

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Olympic Spotlight: Bobby Finke (Take Two)

Bobby Finke had already earned an Olympic Spotlight the last time he made a run for a medal as seen in this post from 2021. Today, he gets another round of glory thanks to his heroic efforts at securing more gold for the United States. Champions are gonna champion.

Bobby Finke (photo: Jack Spitser)

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