The Day My Brother Was Born

As far from my August 24 birthdate as one could get on a calendar, my brother was born on this day 41 years ago. That means that, with the exception of my parents, I’m the person he has known longest in his life. As such, there is a bond between us that cannot be broken under any circumstances. We may fight or squabble, and it can get down and dirty sometimes, but brotherhood is more powerful than any of that nonsense, and the love between two brothers is something we have come to embrace after four decades of learning to be friends with each other.

We’ll head over to Amsterdam this afternoon for a family dinner in his honor – with the kids and all the trimmings. Hang onto your birthday hats.

Happy birthday, baby bro!

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The Risk & Danger of a New Project, Mitigated

In the past, I may have been too invested in some of my creative endeavors, living out each theme in was that weren’t always healthy or helpful. Hell, my first two projects were ‘Sex’ and ‘Depression’ and God knows I’ve delved deeply into those wells. But that was all long ago, 1993 to be exact, and in the ensuing years I’ve learned a more sensible way of creatively fulfilling my passions without necessarily thrashing my emotional state in the process. It’s the choice many artists have to make at some point, and while I can’t speak for anyone else, I find a bit of separation from the work is the best way for me to exist.

I’m at my happiest when I’m working on a new project, whether that’s in writing or photography or the simple design of a garden. When my interest veers into darker territory (as this new one does), there’s the potential for emotional spillover if I’m not being careful, or if I were unable to disconnect the work from my own state of mind. That has been a key to a happier existence, and a creative fulfillment that comes from the various outlets I’ve culled over the years. It also helps that I have an understanding and patient husband like Andy, who keeps the home, and our lives, in fine form while I undertake any creative endeavors. That’s the real secret of how I’ve been able to integrate the wild fire of artistic passion into a life that doesn’t involve jailtime.

This new project is in its infancy, so the earliest it’s going to come out will be fall 2018 or winter 2019. Until such time, I offer a look back at some of my more recent works. See if you can tell which fun ones drove me (and possibly others) to the brink of insanity before I figured out how to do it right.

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Night Stock

Things look different in the night.

Shadows play tricks.

Colors shift shade. 

This bouquet of stock is quite purple in the day, when the light is bright and tinged with whatever blue we get from the sky. At night, however, and in the warm amber glow of a lamp, it changes to a more rosy hue, as if shot through with an extra dose of blood from within. 

The beauty of these blooms, apart from the exquisite way they change color depending on the light and the time of day, is their perfume. Sweet and soft and the merest whisper of spring and summer – it is the breath of hope, expelled in the coldest of winter nights. 

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The Bunny Trail

Unlike the summer, when the rabbits would brazenly munch on our garden in the light of day, winter seems to make them more naturally nocturnal. We do not catch them during the day, but we find their tracks and their droppings. Maybe they hide in the day because the backdrop of snow makes them too easy to be spied by hawks or owls. The pool may be covered, but danger still lurks in the backyard, especially if you’re little and furry. 

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Taking Stock in the Snow

Andy was just realizing that his Dad has only been gone about 8 months. It seemed so long ago, and so far away. The summer was reaching its zenith. The world looked vastly different. Strange, the way these things come back to us. It felt a little sadder hearing him talk about it, now that it was winter, now that there was no pool or sun or lawn to distract. All I could do was put a bouquet of stock on the counter in the hopes of cheering him a bit. 

Winter is tricky that way. When the fall of snow levels everything, and the vista goes blank, there is nothing to do but face your own thoughts and memories. Andy seems to be doing all right, but I know he misses his father. It comes in waves, like bands of snow in the winter. Sometimes it’s thick and heavy, sometimes slight but sharp. Always, a chill and a pang of heartache. 

The happy part, though, is that we still recall the little things he did to make us laugh. In that way, he’s still around. In spring or summer, we’ll take a trip to the Saratoga Auto Museum and make a little homage to the place where he and Andy always had some father and son time. The trees will have leafed out by then, and the flowers will be in bloom. Until then, these stock blooms will have to keep the cheer. 

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Olympic Spotlight: Madison Chock & Evan Bates

The American ice dancing team of Madison Chock and Evan Bates were poised for medal contention after their beautiful short program, but suffered a shocking fall in their free program. Their heartbreak was apparent at the end of it, they both appeared overcome with angst, and with perfectly understandable reason. 

There are some people who watch and wait for the falls in figure skating, then there are the people who have half a heart and some decency. I don’t like seeing anyone fall or fail, but it’s always interesting to see what people will do after it happens. Will they pick themselves up again and keep trying? Will it stall them momentarily, requiring a recovery period? Or will it fell them forever, robbing them of any future? 

Chock and Bates looked a bit shocked when it happened, but they picked themselves up and completed the program. At the end there were some tears, but they had the audience, and the world, suddenly behind them. Messages of support and encouragement flooded their social media accounts. They ended up sending out words of thanks for all that they had received. It was a lesson in life.

That’s the measure of a true Olympian. 

That’s the grace of an amazing human being. 

Every Olympic games has a moment that stays with me and resonates for some reason. This may be that moment for me, and it’s an inspiration. 

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Albany at the Break of Dawn

My love/hate affair with Albany has been on the lovey-dovey side of late and that continues with this ode to the beauty of a Capital Region morning. As we enter the final stages of winter, the light begins to get brilliant. One of the only benefits of the dark season is that with the bare branches of stripped trees, nothing blocks the sun, when the clouds are away, from shining in all its splendor. Rooms and nooks that are otherwise shaded by leafy canopy are brighter than they are at the height of summer. It’s a small recompense.

Here, we witness the striking rise of the sun, and the amber glow of a city awaking to a bright and sunny day. Ordinary buildings turn extraordinary in the golden first light. It happens quickly, and soon the warmer palate is hardened into something bright and unforgiving. But for this first instant of the day, we have beauty. Delicate, fiery and fleeting beauty.

If we’re lucky, the day will end in the same way.

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Olympic Spotlight: Thomas Ulsrud

As the skip of the Norwegian curling team, Thomas Ulsrud is known for his funky pants, but fans and visitors of this website are probably looking for something that showcases Mr. Ulsrud out of those crazy pants. To that end, I give you this post. The Winter Olympics are featuring Ladies Figure Skating right now; consider this your alternative programming. (Shout-out to Trish for the request!)

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Olympic Spotlight: Zach Donohue

The Shib Sibs may get all the online glory, but they are neck-and-neck (and neck-and-neck) with the other American team in Ice Dancing, one half of which is made up of Zach Donohue who gets this hunky spotlight moment on the night they are all competing for the gold. 

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Bobsleigh Butts & Another Mid-Olympic Recap

Programming Note: this blog usually goes dark on Tuesday and Wednesday, but given the Olympics, there may be some additional hunky posts on those days this week. Stay tuned… until then, the traditional Monday night recap delves into the previous few days. 

It turn out, that Wednesday dark day was also suspended last week with this Valentine’s Day post. Love is all around. 

Adam Rippon remains the stand-out star of these Winter Olympics. 

Finding the way Thru. Or vice versa. 

Blue sky.

Stirrings in the night of winter

A winter dinner party planned, and executed perfectly

A tale of two scarves

Albany Egg.

At long last, Tom Ford’s underwear. (It’s growing on me.)

The sound of Cigarettes After Sex.

Olympic Spotlights shone on Javier FernándezJorik Hendrickx and Scott Moir.

Hunks of the Day included some of the Olympic variety, with a few notable exceptions: Morgan CiprèsJoey McIntyre, Michael Lucas and Brad Hall.

Finally, a newsworthy bearer of heat: Hunk of the Day Paul Caiano

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The Dinner Party Denouement

The promise of a dinner party fills some with dread, and others with exhilaration. I’m in the latter camp, so when I suggested (read: mandated) that my brother have one to christen his new house, I was very excited that he agreed. His girlfriend Landrie helped him pull off a lovely evening in the midst of an oncoming winter snowfall, and it was as cozy and comfy as one could have wished. 

The menu was all comfort food, and the cocktail was the Blushing Betty. The company was relaxed and fun. The music was Ella. It was a wonderful way to pass a winter night. 

 

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Olympic Spotlight: Scott Moir

As one half of the Canadian figure skating team competing for a medal in Ice Dancing, this is Scott Moir, who will do his best to twizzle to the gold tonight. For me, the best part of the ice dancing is the selection of outfits. Figure skating is, as a general rule, the place for flash and pizzazz, and ice dancers embrace that more than any other genre. As for Mr. Moir, he and his partner Tessa Virtue were the Olympic champions in 2010, and the silver medalists in 2014. That’s flashy enough in itself. 

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Too Dreamy: Cigarettes After Sex

Jacob Tomsky has been a hero to me ever since he released ‘Heads in Beds‘, a behind-the-scenes run-down of the hotel hospitality industry that was more gripping than it had any right to be (unless you’re obsessed with hotels the way I am). His wit and roughly-hewn good looks landed him a semi-tongue-in-cheek Hunk of the Day honor back when we did those here, which I’m guessing he was mortified but part-secretly thrilled with – at least, I hope. Since that time I’ve been equally-enthralled by his take-and-give-no-fucks Twitter feed. Most recently, he’s been a slightly-reluctant rock star, playing the drums for the exquisitely moody Cigarettes After Sex. They’re going to be touring the US in the coming months, including stops in Brooklyn and Boston, so I may have to make the pilgrimage to one or both of those shows. The tour kicks off in Texas, just like Madonna’s Blonde Ambition tour did, so they’re following in some magical footsteps. Don’t expect cone-bras or mimed-masturbation, but a fan-boy can wish…

It’s been a long time since I’ve been inspired by a group, or any music for that matter. I thought it was age, or the general state of radio, then I thought I was heading into the ennui of a mid-life crisis, but now I’m feeling a new spark : the seductive pull of something that resonates and propels me to explore again. It’s moody and evocative – what one might expect the cigarette-smoke tendrils of Dorothy Parker to sound like if they could make music. It casts an entrancing spell, slightly reminiscent of the very best work of Angelo Badalamenti. The dreamy soundscape conjured is cinematic in texture, and devastating in lyrical liberty.

Their eponymous album opened with ‘K’, setting up a promising beginning that the tense music teased was not going to always going to be easy. “I remember when I first noticed that you liked me back/ We were sitting down in a restaurant waiting for the check/ We had made love earlier that day with no strings attached/ But I could tell that something had changed how you looked at me then.”

In ‘Affection’, the double-edged conundrum of being the object of such or the person who’s fixated finds bittersweet imbalance: 

I know that you say I get mean when I’m drinking,
But then again sometimes I get really sweet
So what does it mean if I tell you to go fuck yourself
Or if I say that you’re beautiful to me
It’s affection always,
You’re gonna see it someday
My attention for you
Even if it’s not what you need

By the time that album concludes with ‘Young & Dumb’, the battlefield of love has been littered with carnage, the bitter sting of betrayal hanging in the air like so much gray smoke. But the soul of the music remains calm, it’s dreamlike-trance holding the listener rapt, soothing the raging heart. 

It’s good fucking stuff. 

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Getting Into Tom Ford’s Underwear

I’ve been begging for this for years. 

With his celebrated history of putting sex into fashion, Tom Ford by all rights should have been putting out underwear collections a long time ago. I have a feeling I know why he hasn’t up until now: he has always claimed he doesn’t wear underwear. Ruins the line and adds unwanted bulk to an outfit. Fair enough. But I’m guessing he doesn’t wear all those gorgeous gowns either, and that’s never stopped him. Regardless, I’m happy he’s finally taken the undergarments plunge. Or am I?

He premiered the first collection of silk boxers and baggy boxer briefs on the runaway a few days ago, and that initial peek left me wanting more. Not because it was so good, but because it was rather underwhelming. Silk boxers? Are we really going back there? Fine, I’m game. But those baggy boxer briefs? And animal prints? Not so sure. I like the subtle shades of nude he’s working, and I’m sure the fabric is luxurious to the utterly-impractical point of ‘Dry-Clean-Only’ but I expected something sexier, maybe something a little sheer, perhaps a touch of lace or mesh if we’re going to animal-print cheesiness. 

No price points have been revealed yet either, which is always an ominous sign for my empty wallet, but everyone knows I’m going to end up in Tom Ford’s underwear. Some way, somehow, it’s going to happen. This was meant to be. And if it means my ass is going to be covered in leopard-print silk, so fucking be it. Mr. Ford can caress my privates any way he likes. 

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The Egg Illuminated

There was a time when Albany was magical to me. When I was a little kid in relatively-rural Amsterdam, NY, I viewed Albany as the closest thing to a big city. I’d been to New York and Boston a number of times, but they felt far away and distant. A few hours can be an eternity for children. Albany was a much shorter trip, but it still held the allure of glamour and sophistication. My Mom used to go shopping in the downtown, back when it bustled, and stores occupied multiple floors. The Plaza had been completed by the time I was old enough to walk, and we went to a few shows at the Egg. In certain sections, the walls were curved, and the novelty of the thing never wore off.

On certain days, when I’m walking at lunch and the sun is shining in a clear blue sky, I’ll look up at the Plaza and feel the same excitement and awe of our city. I’ll remember the wonder it once held for a kid from Amsterdam. I’ll try, mostly in vain, to re-inhabit that moment when it all seemed so impressive.

 

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