A Double Birthday – Part 1

The Ilagan Twins celebrated their 8th birthday recently, and I’m just now getting around to posting the pictures from a gathering at my parents’ home. They were born at the tail-end of March, but we hadn’t been able to get together until a few weeks afterward, when the weather was only slightly better. That didn’t dampen the spirits, or the possibility of heading outside for some rambunctious fun before and after the dinner festivities.

I still remember the rainy day on which they were born. Andy and I got the call that afternoon and after work we drove to the hospital to meet our new niece and nephew. We were instantly smitten, and since that time we’ve watched and played a small part in their childhood evolution.

If we haven’t seen them in a few weeks, as was the case this time, I marvel at how much, and how quickly, they’ve changed.

They are eight now, and the days are flying by.

This is the time to catch them and make memories – just as they are starting to make ones that they will remember into adulthood. There’s something exciting in that. Dangerous too, if you’re not careful. Children will listen.

The sun stayed outside while we went in for dinner…

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A Recap on An Anniversary

We spent the weekend in Boston celebrating our anniversary, so today, the actual date of our wedding ceremony, will be rather quiet. I’ll be back at work, and Andy has a doctor’s appointment, so everything’s as if we never said good-bye. Some anniversary years are like that. We’re gearing up for our tenth in 2020, so this year and next can be on the quieter side. But not even I am ready to start planning that far ahead, so let’s take a look at the last week instead.

It began, as it ends, in Albany, NY. Whether we like it or not. 

As of yet, there are no suggestions for a local Hunk of the Day. Are there no local Hunks in the Capital Region?

Shorts for a BroSox adventure later this summer. 

Gearing up for this year’s Broadway crop.

It begins with a stay at the Warwick Hotel

The night I robbed a Wal-Mart and felt no remorse whatsoever. 

The screech of the azaleas

There were just a pair of Hunks this week: Mike Thalassitis and Diego Barros.

In case you need some home renovations of your own, here’s who we used for our kitchen: Skylands Services, Inc

Jonquils

 

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Review: ‘Love! Valour! Compassion!’ – Zeitgeist Stage Company

A year before Matthew Bourne would turn all the waterfowl of ‘Swan Lake’ into men, Terrence McNally had the guys of ‘Love! Valour! Compassion!’ unabashedly doing their plies in tights and tutus. Back then it was ahead of its time, and well over two decades later it still retains much of its verve, nerve, and sentiment. I was lucky enough to have seen that landmark Broadway production and its incomparable cast, and the shadow that it produced still lingers in my mind. It was 1995, and for some reason I insisted that both of my parents attend the play with me – a none-too-veiled yet still unspoken attempt at coming out to them. I wasn’t expecting all the words that would be uttered, nor all the full-frontal male nudity that would so flagrantly parade before our eyes, but I was brazen enough not to care, and by the end I think we were all so moved by the play that the rest of the stuff was almost beside the point.

It was reportedly McNally’s ode to the gay friends he’d had in his life, and at the time I remember feeling an intense longing for this glimpse into adult gay relationships and the varying versions of them: romantic, platonic, antagonistic, unconditional, extremely-conditional, wantonly sexual, polite, provocative, ugly and pretty. Revisiting the play all these years later as produced by the Zeitgeist Stage Company, I see it not solely as a celebration of the lives of several gay men, but as a eulogy as well – not only for those of us lost to AIDS, but for a time in our lives. A time before cel-phones, before online dating, when people looked at and spoke to each other in meaningful and discomforting directness. A time when we couldn’t hide behind computer screens or shut out the world by looking down at our text threads. Some it does feel dated (I cringed at the Donald Trump reference from when he was a joke more than a threat) but the interaction among the men, and the way they change and reveal themselves, is very much timeless.

The cozy Plaza Theatre at the Boston Center for the Arts provides a non-descript background for the minimalist scenery and effective lighting, which manage to convey the shifting scenes of summer in seemingly impossible ways, at times evoking a sprawling lake-side estate affectionately dubbed ‘Manderley’, spirited scenes of tennis and dinner and skinny-dipping, and even a road-rage-fueled car-ride. Such theatrical magic comes courtesy of director David J. Miller and the talented cadre of gentlemen he’s assembled to complete a picture-perfect ensemble.

In the original production, despite the talents of every cast member, two lights shined brightest: John Glover and Nathan Lane as John/James and Buzz respectively, who managed to dwarf all else around them with scene-biting ferocity. In this version, things are more evened-out, making for a more powerful sense of ensemble work. Brooks Reeves has the difficult dual role that Glover originated, but manages to acquit himself nicely in the 11thhour soliloquy when simply by turn of chair he shifts between two vastly disparate brothers. As Buzz, Jeremy Johnson gets the funniest lines, and though the over-the-top theater-queen role practically begs for overdone turkeydom, Johnson keeps it grounded, lending a very powerful poignancy to his budding kinship with James.

As the “role-models” in a 14-year relationship, Joey C. Pelletier and Keith Foster bring nuanced complexity to their characters Perry and Arthur. The least likable character in the lot, and the catalyst for some of the night’s most fiery moments, Perry is the difficult hinge around which McNally’s ambivalent criticism of the slightly-self-loathing middle-aged gay man turns. Finding the redemptive moments is the key to putting him over, and Pelletier is up to the task, unafraid to reveal Perry’s own inner-conflict, outward manifestations of intolerance, and ultimately heartwarming commitment to Arthur. Working for and against the hot-blooded Latino stereotype, Michael J. Blunt’s Ramon kicks off the drama with his preening, penis-heavy performance (instead of drinking from a silver cup, he admires his reflection in it). Ramon’s dance career is taking off just as Gregory’s is ending. David Anderson brings brittle emotional intensity to the host of the festivities, his watery transparency on the verge of breaking down or putting someone’s hand into a garbage disposal. The disintegration of his career as a dancer is at the opposite parabolic end of Ramon’s, which adds to the tension of his relationship with Bobby. Cody Sloan, in the role originated by Justin Kirk, portrays Bobby with a wisdom belying his years.

An ensemble piece is only as strong as its weakest character, but there is no weak link here. The cast manages to lift each other to greater heights, which is the secret of solid ensemble work. A telling testament to the legacy of McNally’s words, along with an impeccable cast on top of their game, this production of ‘Love! Valour! Compassion!’ is a moving reminder of an era already almost gone. In some ways an antidote to a predecessor like ‘The Boys in the Band’ (currently being revived on Broadway), this is one of those gay plays that deserves greater recognition.

{The Zeitgeist Stage Company‘s production of ‘Love! Valour! Compassion!’ is playing at the Plaza Theatre of the Boston Center for the Arts through May 19, 2018. Tickets may be purchased here. }

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Wedding Anniversary Memory Highlights

Given our advancing age and fading memory, I’m grateful I had the sense to put it all down here (and in a wedding book) so the details and little nuances of our wedding ceremony will be forever on hand should we wish to reference happiness.

For this morning’s wedding anniversary, I’m going with the highlights that come to mind eight years after we officially tied the knot:

There was the beautiful suite at the Taj Hotel, looking right over the Boston Public Garden.

There was the order of sidecars we enjoyed before the rehearsal dinner.

There was Michelle Kwan at the table across from us at Top of the Hub!

There was laughter and silliness with Suzie and Chris during my last minutes as a bachelor.

There was the bouquet of white peonies.

There was the hug of Andy.

There was the sky-high chocolate cake at our wedding lunch.

There were peonies and cherry blossoms everywhere.

There was a bow tie in a tiny train case.

There was a pair of swans, nesting in the Public Garden.

And at the end of it was my husband, driving us home, continuing our journey.

{Recap of the year’s anniversary festivities coming later this week…}

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Jonquility

Such happy faces! Such cheerful countenances! Such confidence in the shifting alliances of weather! These brave little Narcissus have been battered and bruised this year, but some still manage to bloom in almost-perfect form. No, I will not qualify that: they are perfect, not almost, because nature intends it as it should be. Baby, they were born that way.

The photo above is one of the rarer pink-cupped varieties, something that Lee Bailey so treasured, and inspired me to treasure as well. They bring the spring, better later than never, and as I inhale their distinctive fragrance everything feels right with the world.

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Positive (Kitchen) Reinforcement: Skylands Services, Inc.

There are too few supportive posts on the internet, and on this website, so in an effort to spark some joy and support local businesses I’m going to try to do better in highlighting what’s good in this world, and in particular what’s good in the Capital Region. To that end, there’s Skylands Services, Inc., the guys who did our kitchen remodel a few years ago. We were thrilled with what they did with the space, transforming our divided dining room and kitchen area into an open-space concept, and turning a terribly outdated kitchen into a usable and enjoyable place of function and fun. The proper set-up works wonders for those of us still learning how to cook. (Our granite peninsula is also the ideal meeting place for every type of party one can throw.) A look at the before and after of the rooms can be seen fully here, and ever since then I’ve been meaning to write a post extolling the virtues of Skylands Services. When I received an e-mail alerting me to their revamped website, it seemed the perfect time for this belated post. 

While attending Ithaca College in the late 1990s, two friends Gregg Pidgeon and John Walston, shared a passion for home improvements.  They both spent summers during high school and college working on separate construction crews and in customer’s homes performing home improvements.  Together, they had a vision that home improvements were about experiences and relationships instead of mere projects.  They were driven to offer a customer experience unique to the home improvement industry.  In 2004, they established Skylands Services, Inc.

Gregg and John believed that the industry was flooded with bad reputations and known for such things as poor communication, poor or inadequate craftsmanship and sloppy work spaces.  They created Skylands Services, Inc. to pursue their passion in a way that would buck the negative industry trends.  They believed that a home improvement project should be a pleasurable experience for customers and not a nightmare.  Over a decade later, their vision remains the same and they have a strong reputation built on delivering customer satisfaction. 

​​Our Philosophy

Skylands Services, Inc. focuses on putting the customer first.  We believe you should always feel at home in your home, even during a home improvement project.  This philosophy drives our company and allows us to provide high quality services with lasting customer relationships.  We understand that your project may be a disruption in your home and lifestyle, so we go out of our way to work efficiently without intruding on adjacent spaces. 

We employ a skilled and presentable labor force with years of experience in the construction trades.  All of our employees are trained on the principles and beliefs that have built the foundation for customer satisfaction for over fourteen years.  We would love the opportunity to provide you with your next home improvement experience.   

In our personal experience, the employees were all wonderful, and either Gregg or John was usually on-site – a refreshing change of pace when certain companies are out of contact or touch once a project begins. Estimates were accurate, time-frames were kept, and communication was always open. While renovations can be stressful, painful events, Skylands made it almost enjoyable. If you have any sort of renovation project in mind, check them out.

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Ignoring the Azaleas

Did you ever meet someone who was such an attention-sucker that they did all the screaming and shouting and carrying on every time you saw them, making it impossible for any meaningful contact or communication to be made? (Stop looking at me.) That’s kind of how I feel towards these azaleas, which have been screeching in their day-glo magenta glory and demanding to be noticed from the farthest distance. I like strong color, more than most people in fact, and I’ll never begrudge anyone their need to put on a show. But I don’t necessarily want it in my own backyard. Or front-yard for that matter. That’s why these had to be caught on the street where I work, far from where I’d see them while peacefully contemplating my own home.

That doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy them, particularly on a rather dour and gray lunch break from the office, when the extra-long stretch of bad weather we’ve had has us all a little on edge. When these popped open on the first really warm day we’ve had it was like a pop of champagne and an instant celebration of the late-to-arrive season. A colorful party until itself.

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The Night I Robbed A Wal-Mart

First, a bit of background: I had just put up our backyard canopy and helped Andy uncover the pool. I was in sweatpants and a long-sleeved shirt tattered with holes. In the midst of our endeavors, I noticed that the soaker house, on its last lack-of-legs for the past two years, was finally beyond repair or use. I jumped in the car to get the 250 feet of black rubber, dusting off the detritus of leaves and dead branches that clung to my outfit. I figured I’d run in and out of Wal-Mart without anyone being the wiser.

As I pulled into the parking lot and jumped out of the car, I immediately fell into walking behind a co-worker from my office. I hung back a bit, but I was ready to say, “I won’t tell what you’re wearing if you won’t tell what I’m wearing,” because this woman, normally not the savviest dresser anyway, was in an enormous hoodie that went down to her knees. Being in my own glass house, I kept the stones to myself and for the good fortune of both of us she never turned around.

I found the five soaker hoses (50 feet each) with relative ease. Cagey like a ninja, I piled them up and brought them to the line at the register without being seen by anyone I knew. Of course, there were no ‘10 items or less’ lines open, so I waited in what looked like the shortest line, with just two people in front of me. Then I saw her. I saw her hair first, then noticed the lethargic manner she was scanning the items and remembered her from the last time I was in Wal-Mart. I also felt the familiar impatience/rage creep up on me in what was supposed to be a quick and stealthy mission. It took a good ten minutes before she rang out the two people in front of me. And they didn’t have that much. But as a wise woman once said, you end it quicker when you’re nice.  I mustered a smile from the deepest and darkest depths of my soul. I said hello. And silently I prayed that it would go smoothly.

It didn’t.

The hoses – there were, as I mentioned, just five of them – were about eight dollars a piece. I had figured somewhere over $40 was where the bill should land, and I inserted my credit card. The total came to about $45 and I thought we were good.

“Now wait,” she said. “How many did you want?”

“Just the five,” I said, my forced smile quickly beginning to fade.

She scanned another hose for no reason and the total changed.

“How many did you have?” she asked again.

I spoke a little louder, “FIVE.”

Now, I’m going to go out on a limb and assume that this person had the educational background that would encompass counting to five. Even if she hadn’t, there were five clearly discernible objects sitting right of her for guidance. And two functional hands with all their digits intact.

She tried another time and ended up with seven items somehow scanned in. She voided it out and scanned them yet again.

“Ok,” she said, “How many do we have?”

Me: “Still five.”

She counted them again. Scanned them in again. And somehow left one off. The total came down to about $34 now. She said that’s what I owed. I knew it was wrong, but I said nothing and paid it. All stringent morality aside, if you were in my shoes (sneakers, still stained with dirty winter pool water) you would have done the same thing, if only to get the hell out of the store where the growing line was up to seven or eight people wondering what on earth was going on with this rattily-dressed guy and all these hoses. 

I stuffed the receipt in my pocket and headed to the door, where I was met by a big cheery man who asked to see my receipt. Annoyed, and already forgetting that I hadn’t been charged for all the items I held, I awkwardly balanced the hoses in one hand while fishing the receipt out with the other. He looked (or didn’t look) at the receipt and told me to have a good night, smiling the entire time.

Perhaps they should eliminate all the difficulty and just install shoplifting guides in every aisle.

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At The Warwick With Mother

When deciding on accommodations for our Mother’s Day weekend on Broadway, I always recall the stories told by my mother about when her mother (my fabulous grandmother) used to visit the city. It was old-school classic New York, long before the degradation then revitalization of Times Square, back when hotels were opulent show-pieces of grand lobbies, and women paraded down laces like the Peacock Alley of the Waldorf-Astoria in fine millinery, gussied up with gloves and veils, holding hat-boxes and shopping bags, while their male counterparts wore suits and hats and properly-shined shoes. We try to re-create that bygone era of manners and style, at least as close as modern-day society will allow without too many raised eyebrows. (It seems no one dresses for the theater anymore.)

For this year’s journey, we’ll be staying at the historic Warwick Hotel. It’s in one of our favored locales – close enough to the Park to be in proximity to beauty, yet not too far removed from the theaters where we’ll be seeing several shows. Within, Randolph’s Bar looks to provide libations for all our in-between moments, while a host of other classic New York landmarks are within easy reach. 

I’ll add it to my TripAdvisor review queue and hope that it’s as stunning a stay as we enjoyed in the Towers at Lotte New York Palace of last year.

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Broadway 2018 Triple Show

Our annual Mother’s Day weekend on Broadway has been officially finalized, and the note-card delineating our run of theatrical pieces is due back from the printer any day. I’m still scoping out possible restaurants (sometimes the meals are just as important as the shows) and daytime excursion ideas (shopping and museums) but those are less rigid (and occasionally benefit from a complete lack of planning).

  • The first entry in our Broadway weekend is, pardon the terrible pun, the only straight play we are attending this season (our two other selections being proper musicals). ‘The Boys in the Band’ is actually more of a gay play, one of the first of its kind to be produced, and it’s celebrating its 50thanniversary with this landmark production. Until recently, I’ve avoided the infamously-acerbic source material, but a few weeks ago a local theater group was putting it on, so Andy and I whet our appetites and were introduced to its acerbic heart. A play very much of its time, I’m interested to see what the Broadway production and its electrifying cast of gay Hollywood starlets does with the work. Jim Parsons, Zachary Quinto, Matt Bomer, Andrew Rannells, Robin DeJesus, Brian Hutchison, Charlie Carver, Michael Benjamin Washington and Tuc Watkins contribute to the ensemble magic.

  • Our second selection is a magical musical revival: ‘Once On This Island’. That goes back to one of my first cognizant memories of Broadway, and it wasn’t in Times Square proper, but on my television screen in our Amsterdam family room. It was the first time I ever watched the Tony Awards, and I was blown away by this musical that was running away with all the awards. It was ‘Once On This Island’, and all these years later it’s back on Broadway with a critically-lauded production.

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Boston Trunks Show

I saw these BoSox shorts on the internet the other day and thought they might be perfect for our BroSox Adventure in August. (Yes, that’s the official name I’ve given to the annual Boston Red Sox trip that Skip and I have been making for the last few years.) I like them because they are absolutely ridiculous, but the integration of the red socks is subtle enough to escape outright obvious notice for those unfamiliar with the logo. A few questions:

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Albany Pastiche

In my current hometown, there is beauty to be found if one knows where to look, and if one looks hard enough. It’s not always apparent or obvious, which makes it mean a little more. Privately, and perhaps publicly, I’m prone to dismiss this area when it comes to culture and artistic options and simple architectural glamour. And until those harsh 1970’™s lines of the Plaza come into miraculous vogue, I may have truth on my side. However, there are winks and nods to whimsy and beauty here, if only in the egg that watches over this bit of street art.

Our stalwart Jack’s Oyster House has a section of State Street named for it, and it is an institution unto itself. Dinners have been hit-or-miss there for a few years, but when they’re on they’re unbeatable. On the bottom corner of State is this dome-shaped beauty, proof that there are gorgeous buildings here, even if they’re not overly plentiful.

A little further up the street is Wellington’s, which I’ve tried for likely the last time. Their portions are simply too small for a $12 martini such as the one pictured. Perspective clue: those aren’t even queen olives taking up all that space, and the pour is meager at best. They saw me tweet as much, and came right over to me at the bar, but when I explained that the size was dismal compared to just about every other place in downtown Albany, the woman didn’t bother challenging it. What’s to challenge when there’s a photo like that?

So yes, Albany has its drawbacks and limitations, along with its naysayers and critics (guilty and guilty), but it has beauty and charm and champions as well. More than that, it’s become home – and I always take pride in my home. The skies here want to be blue and the sun wants to shine. We just have to help make it happen whenever we can.

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A Jam-Packed Recap, The Last of April

We have come too quickly to the end of April, a month that felt more winter-like than usual, which made for a bit of a downer for anyone looking forward to warmth and sun. To combat such dreariness, I did my best to distract with the return of the Madonna Timeline and a quick journey to New York City for the magic of the new Harry Potter plays.

It began with the official review of ‘Harry Potter and the Cursed Child, Parts 1 & 2’, which you can read for yourself to get my final verdict. 

Back home, I insisted on beginning the yard clean-up, spring weather delay be damned. 

The build-up to a new Madonna Timeline began slowly and quietly. (It had been seven months since our last entry!) Not only did that play a part in the hype, but the fact that the next song was such an iconic one added to the excitement. Even the Hunk of the Day got into the Madonna fever, with Salim ‘Slam’ Gauwloos adding his bit to the festivities. 

The Preamble to striking a pose.

And the arrival of the lady herself: the new Madonna Timeline for ‘Vogue’

The rest of our Harry Potter weekend got recapped beginning with out arrival at the Muse Hotel. It continued with the cherry-popping antics of Central Park. The conclusion was fun and beauty and elegance wound into one, not unlike this last week of posts. Or so I hope. 

Hunks of the Day included just Justin Baldwin and Josh Cuthbert, but they were more than enough to see us through the wilderness of April. May, we forge ahead.

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Magic & The Muse: Part 3

“There are things that death cannot touch. Paint… and memory… and love.” – Harry Potter and the Cursed Child

The cherry blossom motif of Central park continued in the lobby of the Roosevelt Hotel, where these Kwanzan beauties rose from an enormous bouquet. There were a few lilies as well, but this season is all about the cherries. As Andy and I finished our cocktails I realized that this was one of those happy highlights that I would remember as a hallmark of this trip. It’s not always in the fancy dinners or the big theatrical events – sometimes the best memories are of the quiet in-between times, such as sitting beside your husband in the middle of a bustling day that you’re lucky enough to have off from work, lazily taking in a visage of cherry blossoms and the visitors passing through a hotel lobby.

We walked a few more blocks back to our own accommodations at the glorious Muse, where we promptly put our feet up and slumbered until it was time for dinner at Lattanzi’s. Another Restaurant Row offering (conveniently on the same street as our hotel), it produced one of the best cuts of steak that Andy has had in recent and long-past memory. My veal was delicious as well, falling off the bone into a pool of deliciousness.

For Part 2 of ‘Harry Potter and the Cursed Child’ we knew enough not to rush to make the 6:30 requested arrival time, and by the time we strolled in at 7, there was no line and no waiting, and so sparse was the crowd that I wondered if everyone bothered to make it back for the second night.

We found the second night better than the first, and though I still contend that it would be better as one show, the second part flew by (at times quite literally), and I’m glad we got to see it with the original cast.

Afterward, we got in touch with Andy’s cousin Tyler, who met us at the Lamb’s Club, an old-school theater district hang-out for old-school folks like ourselves. We shut the place down (since it closed so early) and hopefully we’ll get to hang out with him again before he heads West.

Our Harry Potter trip had come to its late-night conclusion. Manhattan glowed all around us, but we were tired out from the day. Bed beckoned again. Who were we to refuse? We shall return in June to see Betty Buckley… 

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Magic & The Muse: Part 2

The next day dawned in sunny fashion. Oh sweet sun, that which we have not seen in far too long! We had a quick breakfast/brunch near Lincoln Center, did some shopping at Century 21, then meandered through the edge of Central Park, where daffodils and cherries and spring bulbs were in glorious bloom. There was the slightest chill to the air, and a decent breeze, but with all the sun and flowers no one complained. Even some magnolias were getting in on the show, their hints of pink a happy sight to eyes accustomed to the greys of winter.

Birds flitted and fluttered around us, lending a chorus of chirps and calls to the bright day. A squirrel ran along the path, saucily looking up as if to demand a treat. All the way, swaths of narcissus nodded their heads, and the world suddenly seemed to turn green all at once. How strange that we had to travel to the city to see it.

Andy took his time walking through the park, with good reason. I’ve never brought him into it any distance because we tend to be here in the wilds of winter or the heat of summer, neither very conducive to a relaxing mosey through the park, but on this day it was perfect.

The bonus to it all was a grouping of cherry trees which lowered their branches within arm’s reach. The sun poured through them, illuminating the soft petals and lending further brilliance to the scene at hand.

Cherry trees are the ultimate symbol of spring, and even if we had to travel by train to find it, it was certainly worth it.

We traversed the southern edge of the park, then headed down 5thAvenue. It was well after noon by the time we neared the Roosevelt Hotel, more than time for a cocktail stop before a quick siesta.

There is no happier place than a comfy perch near a bar and a fancy old-school New York hotel lobby, and we paused here to take in the scene, and a libation. We pause in this mini-narrative as well. Upon our return, we’ll conclude this trip to New York…

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