Our Long-Awaited Return to Ogunquit – Part 1

After almost two decades of visiting Ogunquit, Andy and I took a break of a few years while our usual bed and breakfast was sold and a worldwide pandemic prevented travel. When I mentioned returning to a different inn, Andy was initially hesitant. He does not always deal well with change, especially if he finds something he enjoys, such as our usual guesthouse and his friendship and comfort with the innkeepers. Personally, I was ready to try something new, and I very much needed a vacation given my lack of one for about five years, so it was this or some other dramatic act of self-preservation, and luckily this one worked. 

Ogunquit had been calling to us for a while, a missing piece in our annual traditions, and it was the site of our very first vacation together back in 2000. We made about two trips a year there, starting the summer season on Memorial Day weekend and then closing things out either over Columbus Day or Halloween weekends. The last few years, that’s been missing, and I think both Andy and I realized it was time to get back to such beautiful basics. 

Given the crazed way everyone seems to be taking trips, we did our best to avoid traffic by arriving in town on Thursday, and a thankfully uneventful ride saw us checking quietly into the Scotch Hill Inn, and a gracious and friendly woman named Rita for us situated with a brief tour of the inn and the schedule for breakfast the next few days. We made our way to our room, and I instantly felt at home. 

A four-post bed, high off the floor, welcomed us into this new era, and light filled the space. The sunny weather was precisely the sort of welcome that set us at ease. The entire town seemed to be in full bloom.

While Andy settled into the newness, I did a quick walk about town, peering into old spaces and seeing how much had changed (quite a bit). Along with Covid, there had been five years of life that had run through this Beautiful Place By The Sea, changing and shifting things, like the shore itself.

We watched a Judy Garland film on that first night – ‘In the Old Summertime’ – and she sang this pretty little song. It was a perfect re-entry to our favorite vacation location, and the world, so rocked and wearied since we’d been here last, felt like it was righting itself, if just a little bit.

We entered our own little dreamland, with visions of sea roses and salty sea spray and the invigorating draw of the ocean tugging at the edge of sleep…

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A Fox Both Fragile and Evil

Fox News has been a blight on America for as long as I can remember, and it’s only getting worse. They played an integral part in the degradation of truth and honest reporting that has now gravely imperiled our country, feeding lies to their viewers and building a base of hateful rhetoric that is only just beginning to come to violent fruition. Now there’s a way we each might be able to do a small part in dismantling the hold they have over a certain segment of America, and find our way back to truth and patriotism. America is worth that work. Check out the plan in the video below, and visit this site to take part

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Dazzler of the Day: Miles Davis Moody

Having already garnered the online attention of Mariah Carey herself, Miles Davis Moody cements his status as Dazzler of the Day thanks solely to his smoldering stare. A member of the adored and idolized Pit Crew of RuPaul’s Drag Race, Moody has made a splash on television and all his social media outlets. 

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Maintaining Imagination

One of the things that I have retained since childhood is my imagination. I live and breathe through my imagination, which is why I’ve never had a problem being alone for magnificent stretches at a time. It’s not always helpful, and in my younger years my imagination may have gotten away from me and stolen some focus that might have been helpful at opportune times, but overall it’s been a benefit. 

The best part of it means that I’m rarely if ever bored. I can find something of interest in the most mundane and drab of circumstances. The this section of a rug in our living room. While doing some minor calisthenics the other day, I paused to observe the design of it. Most people just walk over it, possibly noting its color or shade, or the comfort of it after a walk on the hardwood. I see several other things in its design: a cute puppy, a regal lion, a wizened wizard, a scrotal sac, a vase filled with tulips, a boring butterfly, and Kim Kardashian’s butthole. 

The imagination at work: passing the time with flights of fancy not requiring a boarding pass or a mask.

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Dazzler of the Day: James Scully

Joining his ‘Fire Island’ co-stars Margaret Cho and Bowen Yang, this marks the first Dazzler of the Day feature for James Scully. He’s appeared in the series of ‘Heathers’ and ‘You’, but it’s his turn in ‘Fire Island’ that has heads swiveling. 

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The Birthday Girl

It’s somebody’s birthday – I wonder who?

It’s somebody’s birthday – oh could it be you?

No, it’s not you, it’s Suzie’s

Yes, Suzie – who remains an elder sister figure in my life (she will always be two months older than me) as well as a bestie, because not being technically related makes it much easier to get along with each other. All the perks of sisterhood, minus the fighting. We are well within the range of not revealing our exact ages out of courtesy, so let’s just say we have crossed the midpoint of our forties, give or take a year, and the next milestone is 50, up in a few. 

What can I say about Suzie at this point? It seems like so many stories that comprised our formative years involved her in some way, and sustaining such a friendship through the ensuing lifetime has only recently been appreciated as something rare and wonderful. Being so self-focused, I always just assumed everyone had a Suzie in their lives, and that was a comfort to me, but in fact not everyone is that lucky. A lot of people don’t have someone they have gone through life with since birth and remained close. Realizing that makes me appreciate our friendship a little more, and that makes the world so much better. 

On this day, I wish a very Happy Birthday to my bestie, and if you see her today, please do the same, and call her Hambone. (She loves that!)

 

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Dazzler of the Day: Bowen Yang

Bowen Yang is riding high on a couple of years of pop-culture crowning achievements, from that spectacular turn as an iceberg (and consistently strong and dependable hilarity) on ‘Saturday Night Live’ to his current starring role in the gay rom-com ‘Fire Island’ (with fellow Dazzler alum Margaret Cho). Now he earns his long overdue honor as Dazzler of the Day for all his ongoing fabulousness. 

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How to Speak My Language

You don’t have to be fluent in mind-reading to understand what I’m saying, and I’ll boil it all down in this simple translation guide. (Print this out and keep it on your person for when we correspond.)

Sounds good = Sounds good

No worries = No worries

It’s fine = It’s not fine

I’m fine = Get the fuck away from me. Yesterday.

Any questions? 

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Dazzler of the Day: David Hogg

With our ever-growing tally of mass shootings, America is broken. No other country on earth has such an astounding number of fatalities due to guns, and I’m not sure we as Americans collectively have the will to stop it. Until we do, more people, and more children, will die. One person who gives me hope in all of this is David Hogg, who has fought tirelessly for gun reform since being involved in a school shooting himself. He and his sister wrote the book “#NeverAgain: A New Generation Draws the Line” and he continue to work tirelessly to save more kids from mass shootings. It seems a little silly to name such a powerful and important figure at this moment in history as a Dazzler of the Day, but it’s all I’ve got to give, and if it helps spread his message for gun reform, so much the better. 

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A Literary Scent: Soft Lawn by Imaginary Authors

Straddling the gorgeous crux of spring and summer, the scent of ‘Soft Lawn’ by Imaginary Authors is my first foray into this fragrance brand, and it’s a surprisingly impressive entry. This was a blind-buy request as an anniversary gift, and quite happily it was a raging success, fulfilling the descriptive literature that likened it to the scent of a tennis match day in a lifestyle to which I have never been accustomed, but I love the way it smells. Taking its name from an imaginary novel by Claude LeCoq (an imaginary name if ever there was one), it’s meant to be worn as a leisure scent on weekends, or days that you wish were weekends, which is pretty much every day right now. 

This was a welcome addition to my cologne cabinet, lightening the load of Tom Ford and filling in for the lackluster latest from the Hermes Jardin line. ‘Soft Lawn’ lists the tennis ball as one of its notes, but I find that may mostly be for the image it conjures instead of the actual scent. The other notes are more what I detect and adore, starting with the lovely linden tree, whose blossoms are just now coming on to perfume the local air. Some grapefruit helps open things up, before ripening quickly into something greener with oak moss, vetiver, and laurel and ivy leaves lending the dappled light of a forest to the proceedings.

It’s an ideal scent for this time of the year, and it is courteous enough not to stick around for more than a couple of hours. I don’t always admire that in a fragrance, but at $95 for 50ml, this is practically a steal. The packaging is exquisitely whimsical, conjured to perfectly resemble a book, and the bottle art is the sort of art-deco beauty that suits its lofty literary references. I’m going to order a sample set to see which one will see us through mid-to-late summer. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Ariana Grande

Good news!! Ariana Grande earns her very first crowning as Dazzler of the Day as she prepares for her role as Galinda (the ‘A’ is silent) in the upcoming two-part ‘Wicked‘ movie. I’ve been pleasantly surprised by Grande’s acting prowess when she’s appears in various musicals and shows such as ‘Saturday Night Live’, so I’m giving her a chance in Kristin Chenoweth’s vaunted heels. After all, it’s not about aptitude, it’s the way you’re viewed…

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A Recap Filled with Pride

The month of Pride is upon us, and what a happy month it is. June has burst in with all her glory, brimming with peonies and irises and roses – the happiest flowers of the year on full display. As such, my attention was rightfully focused outside, and not in front of a lap-top, so we slip into the lazy summer posting schedule with glad disarray. Here’s a brief recap of what went down…

Some of those aforementioned peonies in their prime

Our return to Ogunquit will be more fully documented in a bit, so for now feast your eyes on the wonderful Bed & Breakfast which became our home-away-from-home

Following a friend’s lead to find beauty

A separate summer peace.

The first flowering of the Itoh peony

An almost-summer song for Better Days.

A scarcity of stars, as happens from time to time.

The peppy petunia.

Another summer song: no one is to blame.

Dazzlers of the Day included Leyna Bloom and Mark MacKillop.

 

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Dazzler of the Day: Mark MacKillop

He’s appeared here in his underwear before, touting his gorgeous coffee-table book ‘Room XIV‘ and his bodacious body of work, and now he is making his debut as Dazzler of the Day. This is Mark MacKillop, currently raising funds for this year’s Broadway Bares phenomenon, and you can donate to him here: https://donate.broadwaycares.org/fundraiser/3899538

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Summer Song: No One Is To Blame

After a surprisingly intense therapy session, one needs a moment to process and simply breathe in the moment. There is always relief after talking about things, even if there is no simple solution. Sometimes it is enough to let it all out, and to be ok with not everything being neatly resolved, not every problem of the past put to bed for good. Most importantly, to be ok with putting certain problems to bed just for the night, just to make it through another day. 

Summer starts off in such happy fashion, it’s good to appreciate these moments, even when they are tinged with slivers of sorrow, memories of melancholy. Such days need a proper soundtrack, and summer songs run the gamut from the happiest, boppiest bops to the slowest, saddest dirges. Some manage to create a sonic vibe and atmosphere that mirrors the suspended haze and heat of the season, functioning as both balm and barometer, a calming way to measure the minutes. This is one of those songs

You can look at the menu, but you just can’t eat
You can feel the cushions, but you can’t have a seat
You can dip your foot in the pool, but you can’t have a swim
You can feel the punishment, but you can’t commit the sin

And you want her, and she wants you
We want everyone
And you want her and she wants you
No one, no one, no one ever is to blame

Summer begs forgiveness. Summer begs silence. Summer begs… and summer begs. Like its sting, its want can be paralyzing, stunning the world into focus or fracture.When that happens, you just have to chill, and slip into a song that embodies the days that can be languid and lazy and lovely. 

You can build a mansion, but you just can’t live in it
You’re the fastest runner but you’re not allowed to win
Some break the rules, and let you count the cost
The insecurity is the thing that won’t get lost
And you want her, and she wants you
We want everyone
And you want her and she wants you
No one, no one, no one ever is to blame

Floating in the water, and surrounded by liquid that dispels the typical pull and drag of gravity, the body is more at ease. The mind is better-equipped to focus when the body is at ease. Sometimes summer grants a clarity that no other season allows; creating the space for contemplation can diminish a place for blame. 

There is a conundrum to every season. For summer, it is often finding reconciliation of such tranquil beauty with the inevitable thunderstorms that pop up along the way. Memories can be like storms, lying in wait until the conditions are right for rain and release and, if we are lucky, relief. 

You can see the summit but you can’t reach it
It’s the last piece of the puzzle but you just can’t make it fit
Doctor says you’re cured but you still feel the pain
Aspirations in the clouds but your hopes go down the drain
And you want her, and she wants you
We want everyone
And you want her and she wants you
No one, no one, no one ever is to blame
No one ever is to blame
No one ever is to blame

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The Peppy Petunia

The preponderance of petunias I’ve planted in various places is popping its pulchritude as these poofs preen and pose. Pink and peppy, they pop their eye-catching color in hanging baskets for now, while other varieties in the beds are just beginning to sprawl out in bud. 

After ignoring their ubiquitous omni-presence in all sorts of garden centers for quite literally decades, I’ve come around the power of the annual in recent years, and no annual gives quite as much bang for the buck as the simple yet spectacular petunia. Plant them, water them, feed them, and stand back for the show. 

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