Summer in July

When I came to get you from your folks’
You said all I want to do is cry
I don’t have time for any of your jokes
You said all I want to do is cry
They treat me like I’m made of gold
All I want to do is cry
All I want to do is cry

A summer bop is the best kind of bop. 

Effervescent and easy, light and bright, 

This is ‘Summer in July’ – about as simple and succinct as one can get, and just as sonically unchallenging. You can dive deeper into the lyrics if you like, or stay close to the surface and the sunlight. It’s your call. 

I wish I could make you love me
I wish I could make you a summer in July
A summer in July
A summer in July

Carefree and clothing-free, it’s time to let go of the swimsuit and let God’s natural attire slip through the pool water unfettered. Water, air, and light ~ primal and elemental and brilliant ~ breaking summer down into the most basic of basics. 

We were driving home in my car
You said nothing makes me feel no more
So you opened up the passenger door
And said all I want to do is die
You treat me like I’m six years old
All I want to do is die
All I want to do is die

Every day after the first of summer loses a little light. We don’t feel it yet, but it’s happening. Summer can be insidious that way, summer knows how to sneak in and out at night. When I was a teenager, I’d slip out of the house on hot summer nights and walk around the neighborhood, feeling some sort of restlessness and wonder, something that wouldn’t be quelled or cooled by the air conditioner or the pool, or the glasses of iced tea that would sweat and drip before I could ever finish them. 

On those walks, with the light of the street lamps shaded by the heavy canopy of maple trees and oaks – shadows beneath shadows – I found safety and security in the warm darkness, sure of myself and my solitude in a way that would comfort me on much colder days in the near and far future. 

I wish I could make you love me
I wish I could make you want me
I wish a summer in July
A summer in July
Summer in July

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Wet Thighs Don’t Lie

While this blog swims slowly into the likely fall and winter of its lifespan, there is still room for a gratuitous tease and skin-friendly post for summer. Still time for shirtless male celebrities, or gratuitous nudity, or other such click-dick-bait. Still time for summer to shimmy and sweat and dive into the coolness of a day by the pool. Still time… still time… 

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A Lazy Mocktail For a Hazy Day

The formula for a lazy summer mocktail is simple enough – a small part of some sweet fruit juice or syrup, a dash of fresh, tart citrus, and a generous topping of your preferred seltzer. In this case, I used a Watermelon-Cucumber Cooler from Trader Joe’s as the base, squeezed out the juice of a small lime (you don’t even need to break out the squeezer, just use your hands and strain the seeds out) and filled the rest of the cup with some grapefruit seltzer. Stir and serve with a slip of lime peel. 

Summer was made for simplicity. Complex and convoluted mocktail recipes can wait for fall and winter. The head is fried in this heat. Keep it light and simple and slightly sweet

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Flaming July

July reminds me of this line from ‘Sunset Boulevard’: “Maybe red, bright flaming red – let’s make it gay!” The heat is on, and not just on the street – in the gardens as well, when the warm hues take center stage as the cooler shades of spring have long since faded. These shades are bright and bold, and they have to be to combat the striking sun. 

Summer lends itself to fiery celebrations, especially this weekend, but in these years of our lives I prefer the fireworks to be quietly exploding in the garden alone. Our world is loud and chaotic enough, and summer, while it may be hot, hazy, and lazy, should also be subdued and silent when it can be. The garden can make all the noise, as seen in these bold blooms.

July shouts its arrival in brash and beautiful fashion, moving us deeply into summer. 

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Closing Out Pride Month Quietly, and Cleanly

A fitting final image for the end of Pride Month, this collection of hand washes from Stonewall Kitchen marks a subtle nod to the rainbow, while reminding of our last trip to Ogunquit. Anything that brings back such a happy memory is worthy of a blog post, no matter how brief. Happy Friday – and Happy Pride!

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Madonna Love in Full-Effect

Recaptured brilliantly by Madonna expert Matthew Rettenmund on ‘Boyculture’ here, Madonna’s return to her throne for Pride 2022 was a smashing success, and a tell-tale signpost of why we need her more than ever. Even with the snippets and clips alone, she proves she is still one of the most thrilling entertainers of any generation. She performed various versions of several career-spanning songs – ‘Material Girl‘, ‘Hung Up‘ and ‘Celebration‘ – all of them seductive, playful, exuberant and as fresh as when they each came out for the very first time. It was a pleasant, and badly-needed, recollection of what made, and makes, her so damn great. Personally, I just needed the celebratory revelry of dance, pride, and gay fabulousness that is the hallmark of her wondrous career. 

[See also ‘Vogue‘, ‘Where’s the Party?‘, ‘Cherish‘, ‘Music‘, ‘I Don’t Search, I Find‘, ‘Rebel Heart‘, and ‘Gimme All Your Luvin’‘.}

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Don’t Sleep on My Insta…

The bridge between the FaceBook/Twitter crowd and the SnapChat/TikTok crowd seems to be found in a single name and space: Instagram. Somewhat regrettably, I don’t focus much on my Instagram account, but I’m trying to change that, especially since so much of my previous creative endeavors have focused on visual elements

The lagging interest in my Instagram account is indicative of a larger lagging in much of my social media lately – and quite simply I’m just not that interested. Most of my posts are in service of this website and any new blog entries. 

Both FaceBook and Twitter have gotten mired down with the awfulness that is so prevalent these days (and I am guilty of Tweeting the hell out of our present political predicament) so Instagram is usually a safer space for viewing flowers and pretty things, and for keeping things light and whimsical. We need more of that. 

So go on and follow my foolish ass on Instagram here. (You know you want it!)

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The Humble & Majestic BLT

Summer fare doesn’t come much better or brighter than a simple BLT sandwich. I made this one myself, after Andy cooked the bacon, and I didn’t toast it (much to Andy’s chagrin) because I knew it would be devoured so quickly I didn’t want the roof of my mouth to get all scratched up from the toast. Yes, that’s how my mind works. Comfort over quality, even when it’s going to get macerated and swallowed up anyway.

We don’t mess around with the BLT around here – maybe we’ll go California on its ass with some avocado once in a a great while, but for the most part we keep it simple, which keeps it good. Sometimes I’ll strip it down even further and just do a bacon, tomato and mayo sandwich. Who needs all that healthy lettuce when bacon is involved? If you’re going to do bacon, do the damn thing right. 

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When You Simply Must Pea

This wild sweet pea blooms in one of my favorite shades of pink, and I’ve allowed a single specimen of this otherwise-invasive plant to take up one small spot in the garden border, just to enjoy the color. It also brings a freshness to this time of the year, when the heat and humidity can really deflate the air and the spirit (we just had a 95 degree day as evidence of summer’s power). The leaves and blooms remain cool and unmarred by pests or wild weather, lending a brightness and vigor to the garden, coinciding with the crest of summer

It’s an essence that supplies the sense of coolness – these flowers don’t actually bring the temperatures down, but their visage calms and soothes the spirit with the matte foliage slightly imbued with shades of silver and gray, and the light green flower buds. It’s a case of mind over matter – necessary when the days run a little too hot, and mandatory for finding relief. We haven’t reached that point yet – all the heat and sun are still welcome and refreshing – but inevitably summer will tire us out. For now, I’m looking forward to being so spent. 

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Petunia Power

While all of the petunias I planted in our garden bed have been devoured by this crazy-cute culprit, there are a pair of hanging baskets that have been in bloom for over a month now, lit up with some sweet potato vine leaves, and safely hung high above the ground. It’s the only safe space, with all the rabbits and groundhogs and other mysterious raiders who come in the night. 

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Return to Lilium

One of the best summer flowers for color and spectacle in the garden is the lily. There are true lilies, from the Lilium genus, and day-lilies, which are actually a perennial called Hemerocallis. For this post, I’m just talking about the true lilies, which come from a bulb, and are available in all sizes, shapes, and colors. Their widely-ranging variety lends them useful for creating a summer-season-long run of blooms.

Sadly for us, these bulbs are adored by all the creatures we have roaming in the underground labyrinth of tunnels they’ve created, and I’ve never been able to get a safely-robust stand of them going. We had an Oriental variety that managed to escape their wrath for a few years, but it eventually ended up dying out. 

Given the renaissance of iris we’ve had, I may try again, because such beauty is worth the effort.

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Dazzler of the Day: Adam Lambert

There is perhaps no one who more fabulously encompasses the Dazzler of the Day crown than Adam Lambert. He’s been celebrated on this blog numerous times before today, because he’s been impressing audiences since he burst onto the world scene during his ‘American Idol’ run. Bold and brilliant and unabashedly himself at a time when the world wants to shun such visionary bravery, Lambert holds his head rightfully high, soaring on his insanely-talented vocal prowess and show-stopping theatrics. No one knows how to entertain and enthrall quite so electrifyingly. Check out his website here for further evidence of his brilliance, and where you might see him perform next. 

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Rainy Monday Recap

After a glorious weekend, it seems the weather has caught up with the general sentiment of the sane and humane people of our country. These are dark times, my friends – a worldwide pandemic rages on, the rights of women are being stripped and set back fifty years, and one whole political party would rather see guns available to all than safe and affordable healthcare. Whenever the world deals us a blow against human rights – and as a member of the LGBTQ+ community I have personally felt more than a few of them over my lifetime – I tend to turn to my chosen person, hunker down in our home, and shut the outside world out. So it was that we spent this weekend by the pool, working in the gardens (mostly watering to keep things alive in such heat) and watching a movie to lighten the mood (in this case it was ‘Spotlight’, the one about the Catholic priests who molested thousands of kids in Boston). On with the rainy recap…

Do you remember how we used to live?

A song for a summer night, because music hits differently in the heat. 

A summer friend returns

Little drops of sun on the ground

Finally enough love, but never enough Madonna. 

A trio of summer smiles

Because Pride still matters – perhaps now more than ever. 

Lulled by the sea and drawn by the undertow of downtime, this year’s BroSox Adventure was everything Skip and I wanted it – and needed it – to be. 

Speaking now or forever hold your rights.

An old love rekindled. 

A simple but divine summer dinner

Dazzlers of the Day included Billy Reilich and Fabio Bonavento

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Summer Scallops

One of our favorite summer dinners is a simple plate of grilled scallops with a few vegetables. These were brought to us from our dear friend Ali, fresh from the Atlantic, and we froze half of the batch to bring them out for just such an afternoon. Andy put them together using just olive oil, salt and pepper – and I quickly sautéed some sugar snap peas in olive oil and butter, sprinkling some sea salt and black pepper on them as they cooked. A spicy addition of some Moroccan-flavored carrots and potatoes rounded out the plate, and voila – a simple but oh-so-good summer dinner. 

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An Old Love Rekindled

It was the summer of 1987 and at the ripe old age of twelve I’d already fallen in love. 

Even more strange was that I hadn’t even seen the object of my desire in person – only pictures and images in catalogs and books – yet I knew what my heart wanted. 

It wasn’t Madonna, who was about to unleash the fabulous song (and wretched movie) called ‘Who’s That Girl’. It wasn’t the school jock who lived a few blocks away, though we’d shared a tender good-bye to childhood right about that time. It wasn’t even a person. 

My heart belonged to a flower – an iris. 

Enraptured by Lee Bailey’s stunning photos and descriptions of the various iris plants he grew, I’d been under their spell even though the only ones I’d ever seen in real life had been the common bearded variety, which bloomed rather early in the season. Suzie’s family garden had a big bed of them, and to this day their spicy fragrance brings me back to those idyllic days

While the bearded iris and their tubers were lovely, I longed for something more rare, and something that bloomed deeper into the summer months. I wanted the Japanese iris. 

As described by Mr. Bailey, these were magnificent plants that held butterfly-like blooms high in the air, elegantly and delicately swaying in the slightest breeze. They came in purple and white, and new hybridizers were working on pinks. Though I searched for them everywhere, the closest I could find was a Siberian iris, which more than happily filled the hole in my heart. 

My Mom allowed me two Siberian iris plants from Faddegon’s, and I planted them near the front of our perennial border that June. They already had buds on them, and I would eagerly return home from school and bolt to the backyard to see if they had bloomed. It seemed to take forever – almost the entire month went by before they deigned to open up. When at last they did, their dark purple flowers were as beautiful as I’d anticipated – a rare moment when expectation met reality, and the heart sang for such a gorgeous sight. Those Siberian iris would expand each year, and eventually I would separate them and re-plant them, sending some to friends, moving others to various spots in the yard, and to this day there is a big clump of them in my parents’ backyard, and one in mine as well. 

That is not, however, the plant you see pictured here. This is the long-sought-after Japanese iris, the original holder of my heart, and that first brush with plant love was rekindled this week when it finally came into bloom after years of neglect. 

When we first moved into our home, I couldn’t wait to try a Japanese iris. I planted it in a space off of the pool, but far from a hose or water source, and somewhat in the shade, which meant it didn’t get the wet and sunny conditions it thrives in. Other plants filled in and took over my attention, so this one blended into the background, its handsome sword-like leaves standing on their own and giving a striking vertical element to the space, but no blooms came, so I sort of gave up on it. 

As the best of perennials do, it came back year after year, producing a relatively small fan of leaves, but nothing else, until I was about to dig it out last year. Fortunately, there was a new space created by a cherry we’d cut down (shout out to George Washington), and with nothing else to fill it, I moved the iris there. It was close to the hose at last, and I decided to pamper it a bit for a year to see what it might produce. As the season progressed, and I kept the watering up, along with some fertilization, the leaves expanded and grew into a fine and impressive clump – much thicker and more robust than any other year. It must have liked all the new sun and nourishment it was getting, but it was too soon for a flower to show up, so I put it to bed last fall with the hope of something better this year.

The reward came this past week, when it unfurled these majestic blooms, beautifully veined and accented with little throats of golden sunshine, and my love affair with the iris was instantly rekindled. (I’m once again on the hunt for a pink variety…)

 

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