Keenly aware of the power of the thirst trap, Charlie Puth has been baiting his fans for the better part of the year, with sly peeks at his underwear-clad life, and while there will always be those who criticize everything that everyone does, I’m not made about any of it. He’s the Dazzler of the Day thanks to his undying and contagious passion for music, and his cheeky way around social media. His newest album ‘CHARLIE’ is due this October (which is closer than we want to realize). Visit his official website here for further details.
July
2022
A Fresh Summer Snack
Tomato season is just about upon us. We’ve had cherry tomatoes tumbling off our trellises for days now, and the markets are just seeing the first influx of heirlooms and big boys that I don’t bother growing at home anymore. Let someone else deal with all that fuss – I’m content to purchase and pay for someone else to do the work.
The easiest and best way to enjoy a tomato may be this classic combo of mozzarella, basil and balsamic vinegar, with a dash of olive oil and some freshly-ground pepper for good measure. It is the taste of summer, and not terribly bad for you either. Easy deliciousness for when the weather zaps all energy and fighting spirit. It can make for a light lunch, or a precursor to a heavier dinner. The possibilities are endless, unlike summer, which is decidedly all too brief.
July
2022
Familiar Angels: A Quick Connecticut Chronicle
“I’m not familiar with these angels…” ~ Joseph Abramo
The Abramo family has always been a quartet of angels in my life, so when Missy recounted a dream-like sequence of Joe’s opening angel comment, I cracked up for quite a long time. Such happy laughter was a constant during our annual Connecticut Summer Weekend pilgrimage to Southbury, where Julian and Cameron joined in the merry-making. Music was, as ever, a companion for the weekend, and the soundtrack for the occasion is neatly summed up by the light and carefree funk of Harry Styles and his new album opener, ‘Music for a Sushi Restaurant’.
This song set the tone for the fun weekend that was had by all, and I arrived to the sunny and peaceful planning going on by the little lotus pond, just in time to see the first lotus bloom of the season. It was an auspicious start to a weekend of relaxed serenity and old friends.
Joining in the air of calm festivities, a water lily emerged to add to the beauty of the weekend.
Along the path leading to the pool, wildflowers lended their own blooms to the season. The world around us had granted a floriferous atmosphere that collided with our joy and peace. There is something about visiting old friends that sets the soul at ease. It is its own form of meditative cleansing.
I took Julian and Cameron down to the pool for a quick dip (and a few games of find-the-bottle, which I would bring back to our pool when the twins visited next) before Missy and Joe joined us for some lounge time by the water. They have an idyllic home for a relaxing visit – no schedule, no pressure, no time crunch – and I relaxed into this little vacation with a grateful heart.
This has always been a place of tranquility, accented by echoes of the Buddha, and a natural beauty that Joe and Missy have emphasized in all the right ways. Whether contemplating the still and quiet calm of the water plants in the little pond or leafing through the books on Japanese gardens and water features, each corner offered a new opportunity for comfort. Bookended by the riotous action of boys in the full giddy glow of growing up, the weekend provided a little bit of all summer joys.
When the last petals of the lotus bloom fell, it was already time to depart – a departure made reluctantly, as it’s always hard to leave familiar angels. Perhaps we will schedule a fall return, to close out the season and start a new one…
July
2022
Dazzler of the Day: Lee Pace
When a simple squat-shot in a cave sets the internet on fire, the creator of such a firestorm is definitely worthy of Dazzler of the Day status, and so it is that we honor Lee Pace with such a distinction today. Lee first came to my attention with his work on the whimsical and criminally-underrated ‘Pushing Daisies’ with Kristin Chenoweth. Since then, he’s popped on my radar in such wonders as Tom Ford’s ‘A Single Man’ where his all-to-brief appearance still manages to make an impression, and an almost unrecognizable turn as a villain in ‘Guardians of the Galaxy’. The veil of tantalizing mystery shrouding the upcoming ‘Bodies Bodies Bodies’ only leaves us wanting more.
July
2022
A Mockery of a Daiquiri
Crafting an off-shoot of this mocktail daiquiri recipe, I broke out the Lyre’s non-alcoholic white cane spirit for this little summer drink, whose main twist is some additional mint, for freshness, flavor and garnish. The magic of mint is that it can do all three without so much as breaking a sweat. That sort of triple threat is an antidote to the oppressive heat we may be continuing in the days to come.
The best part of a mocktail is that there is no alcohol to dehydrate the body – which was always one of the nasty side-effects of traditional summer cocktailing. Here we have the refreshment, the cool-down, and none of the depressant or dehydrating drawbacks. Mocktail magnificence in full-effect.
July
2022
Memories Bound in Stone
The dunes of Provincetown already feel far away, as if our magical time there was only a dream, much like many days this summer, which has blessed us with a number of happily notable moments. Yet I know our time in Provincetown was real, and I know how enriching it was for our souls, so I’m recounting the posts I wrote here, and feeling the collection of stones in my hands, the ones I procured at the shore to remind me that it actually happened.
Sitting in the shell with which I collected them, these little beach stones sit in a special place in our attic, in the very room where JoAnn now stays when she visits. It ties everything together – past and present, friendship and love, beauty and nature. It’s the perfect embodiment of our time at the dunes – and a lovely keepsake for such a treasured memory. I will revisit these again when the summer departs and the long stretch of winter begins.
Waiting for the Breach – Part One
Waiting for the Breach – Part Two
Waiting for the Breach – Part Three
July
2022
A Letter to My Godson
Dear Jaxon ~
Last Friday, July 22, 2022, in the wee small hours of the morning – 3:06 to be precise – you entered this world and instantly brought some much-needed happiness to everyone around you. Hello little guy! What a long, winding, and wonderful journey awaits you, and what a lucky baby you are to have so many family members who already love and adore you. From your parents to your older brother and sister, to all of your grandparents, and your Uncles, we will always be here, loving and supporting you at every step of the way.
Your brother and sister have taught me a few things about being an Uncle (and they will be more than happy to school me on any missteps I will still be likely to make) but this is my first run at being a Godfather, at least in the traditional sense of the role. Not to worry, we will figure it out together, and I promise to do my best to make your life as magical and enchanting as any proper Fairy Godfather should. (The twins can verify that.)
You came into this world during a heatwave – maybe that’s why you waited to come out when it was so deep into the night. The days have been hot and humid – a throwback to the sweltering summers we once seemed to have. Yet there you were when we made our first visit to see you, cool as a cucumber and peacefully slumbering as if the heat were no matter to you. I held you in my arms and you didn’t fuss or fidget, and time suddenly seemed to pause for a moment.
Maybe you are the cooling and calming balm that our world so desperately needs right now. Maybe you will be the bridge we have all been seeking to a more serene and tranquil place. That’s a lot of pressure to put on such a little baby, and a lot of added baggage that you need not carry now or ever. You will become whatever you want and were destined to become, and the rest of us will be glad to watch and wonder at all the magnificence that is yours to experience. As much as I complain about things, this is a remarkable world, with many remarkable people in it, and we are here to help you out along the way, or simply hold your hand when you take your first steps.
I wish I had the words to cast a spell that would make your life easy and good and painless. I would cast it for your happiness and peace, for your enrichment and comfort, for your health and your compassion. I would cast it for you to find fulfillment, to find kindness, to find love. But you don’t need such spells or magic – you will find your own way and discover your own path – and any words I might conjure will pale to all the marvelous treasures you will unearth on your own.
It will be a privilege to watch you grow up and become who you are meant to be, and I can’t wait.
Above all else, remember how much you are loved, and don’t be afraid to love in return.
Until I see you again soon, I proudly remain,
Your Godfather
(PS ~ Uncle Andy and I love you very much – welcome to the world!)
July
2022
July
2022
Dazzler of the Day: Lucas Kunce
Trolling Josh Hawley in any way is worthy of honor, and so it is that Missouri Senate candidate Lucas Kunce earns this Dazzler of the Day. He expertly rakes Hawley across the coals for the way Hawley ran like a chicken during the January 6 insurrection (which he had earlier helped hype up with an infamous hand-pump). Kunce is easily a better choice for Senate than Hawley, so check out his website here for how to help, especially if you’re in Missouri.
July
2022
A Morning Classic
Summer is personified by the morning glory – echoes of sky and sunsets may be found in the shading of its blooms, open mostly in the morning and giving name to its fleeting magnificence. Those blooms have been hybridized to encompass all sorts of shades, though my heart will always below to the big, basic sky blue of the common variety. These smaller versions pack a more powerful color-punch, however, so they get much of the glory these days.
I don’t plant them anymore as they tend to be weedy and prolific re-seeders, but I’ll usually let a few get by so we can see what the flowers look like. They also come into bloom when the rest of the garden is beginning its first exhale from the charge of summer, and will see it through to the fall.
July
2022
Cool Shades Bro
One of the coolest tricks of the garden is the way it can sometimes create a mood or feeling through its use of colors and shades. Case in point is the way warm colors and cool colors work to set the place on fire or douse it in metaphorical water. The little annual blooms seen here do the latter, calmly lowering the temperature we think we are experiencing with the cooler end of the color spectrum.
Gardens of white and silver do similar magic, their calmer hues lending a cooling aspect to the day and night.
At the other end are the bright oranges and reds and yellows that light a place up, setting ablaze the day with matching fire and pyrotechnics. The cup plant right now is accomplishing that, with its fireworks that burst forth as high as the garden goes. Some scarlet petunias are lighting up its base too, and together with the orange butterfly weed, they make their own heat and fire.
The garden is wonderful in all ways.
July
2022
Imitation Sunshine
A dark, dreary and rainy Monday started the week in drab fashion, and when I opened the laptop to begin the workweek the screen was brighter than my surroundings – a situation that hadn’t happened since the earliest days of spring. We must make other sources of light, I thought, and promptly found these pics on my phone.
This little orb of imitation sunshine is brought to you by Rudbeckia – a small stand of which has made its way into our front garden. It’s echoed in the backyard by great stands of the cup plant, which also provided some false sunshine as the rain fell and Monday slowly trudged through her gray trajectory.
I shouldn’t complain too much – we need the rain badly, and I was getting tired of watering the ferns every morning. So much of July is given over to watering and weeding, it’s difficult to get a handle on anything else.
July
2022
A Recap High on Summer
Much has happened in the previous week or so, and this blog is playing catch-up while real life bounds ahead, rushing and speeding along through a summer that has proved sunnier and happier than man in recent memory. If daily concerns and happenings have been keeping me more occupied in living than documenting it, I’m not apologizing for that. Still, it’s good to pause on what may be a stormy Monday to look back and honor what has come before. In that spirit, here’s our weekly recap to start another cycle of summer fun.
It began with the persistence of the petunias, because summer demands its star performers be stalwart and resilient.
Twenty-two years ago Andy and I met the old-fashioned way – at a gay bar.
It’s been 1000 days since my last alcoholic drink.
A new Provincetown adventure began, this time on the dunes.
Time by the sea is always soul-nourishing.
When that time is shared with loved ones new and old, it’s even more magnificent.
The magical balm of the home at the edge of the world.
Dazzlers of the Day included Linda Eder, Beau Mirchoff, Stallion Fabio and Florence Welch.
July
2022
Waiting for the Breach – Part 4
Right before sunset, a few friends from the neighboring shacks stopped by for an import cocktail hour, spent by the shore and looking out over the ocean waiting for the whales to breach. We watched their spouts blow plumes of water spray into the air, then saw their tales curve up before disappearing below. If you watched the same space you would see them breach – rising into the air and splashing down with majestic abandon. Here, at the edge of the world, it felt like a bridge to a better place. Maybe that was God. Maybe it was grace.
As the gathering dispersed, JoAnn, Tyler and Kevin and I made our way to the canopied area looking over the shore to watch the sun go down. This was such a special gift, and we thanked JoAnn for bringing us all this way to make it happened. Later we would do our best to thank Dave and Francois, but words and little gifts can in no way match the gratitude we felt for being brought into this wondrous circle.
JoAnn had predicted this visit would change our souls, touching us in a way that only a brush with the sublime could do. After almost twenty-five solid years of friendship, to discover such a place of peace together will be one of the blessings and highlights when we look back at our lives together.
We lead very different lives than we did all those years ago, and finding ourselves at this perfect place was a fitting moment of serenity after all the torture and tumult of getting through our 20’s and 30’s. In some ways, all our restless searching and substitutes for love were destined to bring us here. And boy was it worth it.
We joined Dave and Francois in the main shack for a delicious dinner by candlelight. Breaking bread with new friends and old is surely one of the happiest ways of sharing an evening. Backed by a rising moon, and the sounds and scents of the sea, our time in such serenity was coming all-too-quickly to its close.
We returned to our little house, retiring to bed happily spent and satiated by all the beauty we had feasted upon in a single day. Leaving the windows open, a light breeze carried the sea air through the room, while the sound of the waves lulled us into a slumber.
“The sea-shore is a sort of neutral ground, a most advantageous point from which to contemplate this world.” ~
The next morning I woke before dawn, drawn by the sea to where the sun would rise. Another day would begin. Another set of eyes would survey this scene. Another group of seals would swim along the shore.
A pocketful of sea stones would be my only amulets to return to this enchanted place.
July
2022
Waiting for the Breach – Part 3
At the top of one of the dunes, they had set up a canopied space for four loungers looking over the ocean, and what felt like the world. The sea pulled us with a mesmerizing call, so we made our way down the dunes to the shore. Unbothered by people (thanks to the plovers and their blocked-off nesting space) we had the entire beach to ourselves – a previously unknown anomaly in all my years of visiting Cape Cod – and a treasure of tranquility. JoAnn, Tyler and Kevin walked slowly along the ocean, watching for the heads of seals to pop up and say hello, while empty exoskeletons of sea life littered the way. We paused to pick up a few select stones, and sat down to listen to the water roll in.
There is a calm and grounding feeling that can only be elicited by a peaceful day at the ocean. It connects one to the universe in a way nothing else can approach. Perhaps it’s due to the waves, and the way the moon tugs at our waters, uniting and bonding celestial bodies as two parts in a much-grander scheme. Or maybe it’s the way that standing at the ocean’s edge literally grounds one, sinking our feet deeper into the sand, rooting us to a body of water that stretches to other continents.
Whenever I found myself in emotional trouble when I was younger and lived alone in Boston, I’d make my way to the harbor. There wasn’t a Seaport back then but it was enough just being near the dirty water and seeing the moon dance on the waves. Even in winter when the wind would whip the wires against their flagpoles, and the lonely clanging was all we could hear, it managed to be a calming influence.
How far away such a cold scene felt from this sunny day at the shore. Stones and shells and seaweed glistened in the salty sea wash, sparkling in the sun and demanding closer inspection. We stayed there for a while, feeling like kids again, then made our way bak through the dunes to sunset and dinner…