A Virgin Manicure, A Couple of Slots & An Encore: Part 2

Rising relatively early for a Saturday in Boston – we typically sleep in a bit, being weekday working girls and all – our manicures were scheduled for the first slot – at 9 AM sharp. The nail salon was just a few blocks from Braddock Park, and we made the quick walk as the heat and humidity began their steep climb for the day. I’d originally imagined a new set of brilliant nails in blue or turquoise, then decided. clear coat would probably be the best choice for my first time. Kira wanted a dark shade of ruby to match her velvet dress. 

For all my talk and supposed tendency for fanciness, a manicure has always felt like a silly and unnecessary indulgence, particularly for someone who would just go home and put his hands in the dirt to fix the not-quite-proper placement of a Siberian iris in the garden. But this was the weekend before my birthday, and I went along with the bit of pampering to satisfy my own curiosity about the whole manicure thing. Would I love it or hate it? Would it be dull and boring? Would it disappoint? Would it thrill? As we sat down in the waiting area, Kira was called over to select the color she wanted. Meanwhile, no one asked if I wanted to select a color, so I assumed they would just me. clear coat since I was a guy. (Newsflash: the world is still sexist and hung up on ancient gender ideas.) That didn’t bother me much – for the first time, I sort of wanted to see what it was like without a coat of polish, even clear, and so I sat down at the manicurist’s station, right kitty-corner to Kira, who immediately began conversing with me. 

“Are you going to stop talking?” I asked not quite quietly enough. “I thought this was supposed to be a relaxing experience?” The manicurists started laughing as I tried to re-inhabit the calm of the moment. There was filing and dripping and scraping and soaking and more dripping of different bottle droppers, and finally an extended hand massage that was lovely, if a little awkward for the length. If the manicurist had only gone with a clear coat we’d have been able to more actively occupy the time but what do I know? I was done in about fifteen minutes, well before Kira, so I returned to the waiting area and examined my nails.  

They were immaculate. Even without polish, they shined, gleaming in the light, and perfectly defined, free from dead skin and encroaching cuticles. It was life-altering, and I was hooked. It informed the rest of our morning, and I finally understood the love of a manicure. Kira finished up and showed off her set of nails, both of us ready for the day’s festivities. 

It was beautiful out, and we made our way downtown for some shopping and an early lunch of banh mi so as not to spoil our dinner plans. Like most of our jaunts, our day was spent in enjoying all the in-between moments, the brief pauses of cool respite in hotel lobbies, where we’d stop to step out of the heat and collect ourselves. 

The fountain in front of the State House looked especially cool and inviting, but we refrained from taking a dip, opting to return to the condo. Boston was heating up, and we hadn’t even started getting ready for the evening at Encore. 

A hot summer day spent walking in Boston demands an afternoon siesta, and mine was spent mostly in meditation. Then it was time to get dressed for our dinner and gambling night. These were the moments that could so often be more fun and exciting than the actual destination…

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A Virgin Manicure, A Couple of Slots & An Encore: Part 1

The weekend before my birthday, I headed to Boston to have a quiet pre-celebration with Kira, as much to re-connect with a dear friend for my special day as to commemorate our last meeting in summer. It’s been a good summer for Kira and I, perhaps culminating with her visit here last month. Back in Boston, we had planned on getting all dolled up for a dinner at Red 8 at the new Encore Boston Harbor, and try our hand at some slot machines. (Neither of us have any idea how to gamble, but we were game to give it our best shot – or pull? – and we’ll get into that in a bit.) For this entry post, I’d just arrived in the city, and Kira had just gotten off work, and we wasted no time in settling into happy habits and hitting the town.

With her new work hours, we had some daylight left, and we passed the gardens of the Southwest Corridor Park as the sun slanted down, still hot and humid with the fine summer we’ve been fortunate to have. 

We stopped in a few places on Newbury, then picked up some meat and cheese at Eataly for a light dinner, after which we headed back out once the sun was done. Because the night time is the right time, here’s a bluesy B.B. King song performed by Otis Rush to kick off this gambling odyssey, and a Friday night when the weekend was full and ready to unfurl in whatever majesty it decided. 

Boston on a summer night is a magical place. Even the most common tourist stops carry a different sort of mystery then, shadows lending enchantment, while a Friday night features its own sort of frisson. 

Kira was trying to break in a new pair of shoes – never a practical or sane decision, as I’d warned countless times – but no one listens to me so we pushed ahead until she couldn’t take it any more and had to slip on a pair of flats she’d brought in a bag. I warned her not to pull the same nonsense for our trip to the Encore – stay tuned to see how well anyone heard me. Spoiler alert: not even a little. 

We walked back to the condo in the August night, Boston quietly alive even after all this, all these years of a pandemic, all these years of so much strife, and we walked in unspoken gratitude. It was good to be back in the city, to close out this banner summer when things felt just the slightest bit hopeful. As we settled in for the night, we got to talking about manicures and how I’d never had one, so Kira said we should get one the next day, and after looking online, I found a nearby place that had an opening, and my very first manicure was booked. Kira would have pretty nails for our gambling excursion, and so would I…

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Dazzler of the Day: Jodyann Morgan

Forging fabulous body positive and gender neutral products sounds like a challenging and exciting quest, and Jodyann Morgan is making a go of it with her ever-expanding selection of handmade candles found at her website here. She earns her first Dazzler of the Day feature because of all the reasons listed in her official bio below (and for those absolutely exquisite candles she creates). 

“Jodyann Morgan is a plus size, queer, Black woman who sits at the intersection of race, size, and sexuality. Pride and representation are personal. She creates lovingly hand poured, gender-free candles that allow people to see their bodies, and the bodies of people they love, in accessible art. Morgan started CTOAN on Instagram, but before all of that, she was just a foodie on a mission to document her meals in photos and videos which she continues to indulge in occasionally.”

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Friday Finch Party

Our stand of cup plants has had one of fits most impressive years of flowering, and the goldfinches of which Andy is so fond have been visiting consistently for the past month, eagerly chewing on the flowerheads and burgeoning seeds, while sipping from the little leaf axel cups that give the plant its common name. They will continue their feeding for quite some time, up to the end of fall and sometimes early winter, somehow managing to find missed seeds and sustenance even after it seems they must have exhausted all of them. 

Andy and I have watched them from the kitchen window, as they congregate in groups of six to eight, fluttering about, sometimes sharing seeds in actions that look like they could be kissing. Occasionally a hummingbird gets in on the action, floating by and stealing a sip of nectar in between the finches mad scramble for food. We will miss this scene come winter. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Wanda Sykes

One of our country’s most beloved and cherished comic actors, Wanda Sykes is currently on tour, so if you get the chance to see this hilarious force-of-nature, be sure to do so. Andy and I saw her live a few years ago and she was as hysterical as she so often appears. Check out her website here for upcoming tour dates. Today, she earns her first Dazzler of the Day honor simply for being herself. When you’re talented and dazzling in your own right, that’s all you need. 

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Showing Love for September

We have arrived, perhaps somewhat begrudgingly, at the start of September, and rather than be dour or sour about it, I’m choosing to celebrate and accept it. So much of life is determined by our reactions to circumstances rather than the circumstances themselves. The march against time is a futile and silly battle best left to those who want to waste it. 

September is here, and that means a little more summer, and some of the best part of fall: the very beginning. Here we see the trees just beginning to turn and burn, lighting up the sky with a brilliant canary yellow in shapes reminiscent of hearts, reminiscent of love. 

This is the month when some of us get a bolt of new energy, jolted into action by cooler nights and mornings. It is the month most kids return to school, renewing the journey toward education and enlightenment. It is also the month when this website has traditionally revamped itself, with a new season returning like a favorite (or hated) television show. We inspire all sorts of reactions here and hope to continue doing so. 

Happy September – get ready to flame… 

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Dazzler of the Day: Tom Goss

Singer/songwriter and performer Tom Goss is set to take the world by storm this September, as he has a string of live performances coming up, as well as new music. Upcoming Double Trouble tour dates can be found at his official website here, and that new work ‘Enemy of Good’ is set to be released on September 23. Today he is crowned Dazzler of the Day because no one dazzles quite so earnestly and exquisitely, eliciting smiles and joy and laughter, which is the secret to any artist’s happiness. Catch him live while he’s on the East Coast. 

PS – Bonus points for the jockstrap, and the banana.

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One More August Day

How did we end up at the last day of August? Feels like the month just began, and now it’s over. With it goes the final full month of summer. Still, there is some more of the sunny season yet to be had, and the sort of summer that happens in September can be the best kind of summer there is. We suddenly realize how wonderful it’s been, and are less quick to complain about the heat and humidity – every day could not be the last hot day of the year. 

I see the garden centers have their chrysanthemums at the ready, with promises of pumpkins in the near future. Half of the people I know are eagerly anticipating and rooting for fall – the other half is lamenting the decline and end of summer. I am somewhere between the two, resigned and regretful and ready to start a new season. 

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Dazler of the Day: Meghan Markle

Haters are gonna hate, but I’ve been #TeamMeghan from day one. Anything Prince Harry chooses to do is fine with me, and I love how Meghan Markle has deftly and adroitly insisted on living her own life in spite of the historical albatross that is the “Royal” family. With verve and nerve and unswerving determination, she is taking her own path while bound to history, and that can’t be easy. Today she earns the Dazzler of the Day, because I just heard her podcast handily beat out Joe Rogan’s nonsense – so maybe there is hope in this word after all. For those who don’t like her, and those who never have, I wonder why that is… 

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Mornings of Change

While the heat of summer returned with a vengeance yesterday, the morning glories tell me it is almost time to look toward fall, as the gardens continue their gradual decline and quiet preparation for their winter nap. I will feed the potted pots we have until the first frost – our cherry tomatoes are going non-stop, the cucumbers have already provided food for salad, snack, and more, while the figs have finally started to ripen after appearing way back in June. The wait was worth it, but more on that in a post to come. As for the gardens, they had their last feeding this past weekend, as I don’t want to encourage a bunch of new growth just as they are supposed to be hunkering down for the season. 

For now, let’s simply enjoy the deep wondrous purples of these morning glories, which always come into their own as the world gears up for school again, when there’s a tension in the air, broken only by the cool nights and chilly mornings. This is the sort of weather the morning glories seem to love, and they are on a mad quest to bloom their heads off and scatter seeds for next year. Survival, and desperation, can be beautiful things. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Conan Gray

He was just about the only part of the MTV Video Music Awards that I could stomach for a few moments last night (I aged out of enjoyable engagement with MTV at least a decade ago), and his outfit of oodles of red layered sheer fabric was a feast for the eyes, as much as his melodies and voice were a feast for the ears. This is Conan Gray, who was by far the most fabulous part of last night’s MTV festivities. Check out his website here for more of his work, and further evidence of why he is the Dazzler of the Day.

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Post-Birthday Recap

During the sleepy month of August, a month devoid of any major holidays, I mark the time around my birthday, hence this post-birthday recap following this pre-birthday recap. It’s like Christmas but in the summer, and, contrary to unpopular opinion, I’m not Jesus. With that disclaimer in mind, let’s recap the week…

An anemone far from the sea, and no less beautiful. 

A confession almost 47 years in the making.

The annual birthday suit post, because gratuitous male nudity is always in style. 

And speaking of gratuitous nudity, check out this moody night post

Scenes from a day of birth

Don’t sleep on summer so soon.

Interior renovation/meditation

Getting in the mood.

Wrecked by a nap.

Dazzlers of the Day included Leo Holden, Ben Cohen, Mark Hamill, Thomasa Dwyer Nielsen, Billy Eichner, and Josh Sabarra

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Cones Aflame

On one of my weekly pilgrimages to Faddegon’s (it’s my happy, peaceful place at all times of the year, and is the only space I can visit some beloved Australian tree ferns, as I cannot for the life of me keep them alive in my home) I came upon these little coneflowers, bursting forth with cheery blooms and mirroring a sun-filled sky. They are still going strong even at this late summer date, and if I had any more room in the garden, I’d be planting them, but that sort of space-planning will have to take place next year. We are getting ready to put the gardens to sleep for another winter, and save for a few spring bulbs, our planting cycle is pretty much complete. 

Hybridizers have been working wonders with the Echinacea species, and these varieties are a pretty example of that. There are some that even come with a sweet fragrance – something I never thought I’d sniff when all we had was the fragrance-free ‘Magnus’ variety of my youth. The world has come a long way, and once in a while it’s for the better.

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Dazzler of the Day: Josh Sabarra

Making one’s way in Hollywood can not be an easy road to take, yet Josh Sabarra has done just that, surviving and thriving in the land of broken dreams and defeated aspirations. He’s got the bruises and weariness to show for such a non-stop lifestyle, and he’s got two hilarious novels that have turned even his most difficult passages into biting prose, gleaming like Oscar gold. ‘Porn Again’ is his surprisingly-poignant memoir, while ‘Enemies Closer’ takes aim at the heart of the entertainment world – both crackle with wit and verve. Those qualities find physical fruition in his collection of t-shirts and other merchandise, and if you check out his online offerings here, you’l find a saying for just about every situation in which you might find yourself. Sometimes a quick quip is the singular saving grace that keeps us from going over the edge. In that spirit, Josh Sabarra is our Dazzler of the Day

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Wrecked By A Nap

My sweet-spot for napping is ten to fifteen minutes – anything beyond that and I am groggy and unpleasant and disoriented for the remainder of the day. Yesterday I laid down for a second and woke up two hours later, completely unsure of the day, time, or year. It wrecked me for hours, and rather than feeling renewed or refreshed, I felt completely devoid of energy or ambition, and any plans I had had for the rest of the day went by the wayside, replaced by some aimless wandering, unnecessary eating, and general discontentment. It reminded me why I don’t usually nap during the day – there’s always the risk of going too long. The disco naps of my youth, usually fitful exercises in forced futility, should have been enough of a lesson. Now when there is no disco to be had, there is even less of a reason for a nap. 

There is something about the resulting haze, however, that sparks creative rumination. Could we perhaps capture this space between sleep and wakefulness, and use it for some story or pictorial narrative? It feels like a dreamworld, nothing quite real or sure, with room for fanciful imaginings or outright illusions. That tricky in-between space is what has always intrigued me: the borders, the doorways, the corridors that lead from one realm to another. The pocket of time and space that bridges the conscious waking world and the unconscious sleeping world is not unlike the midnight hour – a crux of good and evil, light and dark, life and death. 

All of this from a nap that went on a little too long. 

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