Currently ensconced in a social media renaissance thanks to her frank, funny, and often-enlightening Tik Tok posts, Rosie O’Donnell is one of those trailblazing entertainers who have managed to make a lifelong career in an industry that churns out and chews up even the most talented luminaries. She’s conquered television, Broadway, film, and talk shows with very few flops or foibles. She’s still a riveting on-screen presence, and her acting has never quite gotten the accolades it deserves – witness her current no-nonsense turn on the reboot series of ‘American Gigolo’. That said, it is when O’Donnell is just being her unabashed self that she truly shines. Follow her on Twitter or Tok Tok to see her in all her freaking hilarity. This marks her debut as Dazzler of the Day, yet another jewel in her luminescent crown.
September
2022
September
2022
Summer Flare Through a Deluge
Yesterday’s commute home was one of the worst I’ve ever had, thanks to a deluge of rain that opened up right before I left the office. Certain parts of Downtown Albany looked like they were under a foot of water, and I prayed the Mini Cooper would glide me home. Just a few days before this I’d been perusing the local nursery, where I found the flaming celosia you see here – a late-summer show. The juxtaposition was just another product of Mercury in retrograde, or so I am telling myself in an endless quest to make sense out of nonsense.
Watching the raging currents that were once solid streets, I once again thrilled at the newness of a stretch of road I’d driven through hundreds of times, all because of a storm. Nature orchestrates a new perspective at precisely the moment we think we’ve seen it all. Happily jolted into this new experience, I remembered to go with the flow, bend with the trees, and let the river swerve around me.
“Living only for the moment, savoring the moon, the snow, the cherry blossoms and the maple leaves, singing songs, loving sake, women and poetry, letting oneself drift, buoyant and carefree, like a gourd carried along with the river current.” – Asai Ryoi, Tales of the Floating World
September
2022
Dazzler of the Day: Ron Zacchi
Charismatic, gregarious, and commanding on any microphone, Ron Zacchi knows how to get an agenda done while working through it with charm and seemingly-effortless panache. He currently serves as the Director of LGBTQ+ Affairs for Governor Kathy Hochul at the NYS Executive Chamber, where he oversees the state’s LGBTQ+ efforts, and if you’ve been to any of the state’s Pride events this past summer you may have seen him working the mainstage. Prior to his position at the Chamber, he was the Director of External Affairs at the NYS Division of Human Rights. His impressive resume includes his role as Executive Director of Marriage Equality New York, where he played a pivotal role in bringing about the Marriage Equality Act. Since that time, Zacchi has worked on every major piece of LGBTQ+ legislation that has passed in New York State. Earlier this year he was named as part of the City and State NY 2022 Power of Diversity: Pride 100. Tomorrow he will help helm the Fall 2022 LGBTQIA+ Convening in Albany, which will present sessions on LGBTQ+ health and community issues. For now, he earns his first Dazzler of the Day thanks to an accomplished career of social advocacy and serving the state of New York to continually effect positive change.
September
2022
Finding Joy in the Arrival of Autumn
Next week the season of fall will officially be upon us, and while there’s always the brigade of pumpkin-loving autumn amors, I will be one of those sorry to see summer go, especially after the banner one we’ve had this year. Still, there are joys to be had in the run-up to the changing of the seasonal guard, starting with this Sedum ‘Autumn Joy’ which has long been one of the most-celebrated garden plants for a perennial bed or border.
This is one of those rare plants that has actually four seasons of beauty and interest. In the early spring, it forms rosettes of leaves in silvery sage, with cool tones of silver dusting its edges. It keeps this fresh color as spring ripens into summer, at which point it begins to send up tight buds of promised blooms, which come just as summer shifts to fall. It will hold onto these, as they turn from light pink to dusty rose. As fall gives way to winter, the enchantment begins.
The leaves will drop, leaving the stems naked and drained of color. The blooms will have dried to a burnt umber crossed with copper – looking like rust, and surprisingly resplendent against a backdrop of snow. These sturdy umbrels will hold any snow that falls atop their heads like caps, creating a marvelous effect in the winter – and this will last and continue until the spring finds them sending up new green stalks again.
It is a plant I hold close to my heart because it sees us through the entire year without complaint or high maintenance demands. This particular specimen was a seedling that sprouted many yards away from its mother plant. It was actually on the outside of our fence, in the unkept and untended section of the backyard where it managed not only to seed itself, but to come back for several years until it was big enough to transplant to a prime location in the garden. I like plants that prove their worth.
September
2022
A Monday Night Recap
Normally we’d kick off Monday morning with a recap, but things are switching up a bit as we get to it at the end of the day. That’s right, Monday’s already over, and in a period of Mercury in retrograde I am taking every little happy step with gratitude and appreciation. On with the weekly recap that includes a couple extra posts.
It began in stormy fashion, as a recent piece on the alleged abuses and cover-up inflicted by some in the Catholic Church rekindled memories of the priest who told our confirmation class that the Bishop might touch us, but that it wasn’t a big deal.
A fig finale comes to full fruition.
Rods of gold start the September fire.
A meditation on the verge of Mercury moving into retrograde motion.
The twins and I embarked on an end-of-summer weekend in Boston. It was a history-laden voyage, but we managed to survive it and tell the tale.
The day this website always goes dark.
Dazzlers of the Day included TJ Collins, Rita Moreno, Zac Efron, Leslie Jordan, Kelly Clarkson, and Kathy Hochul.
September
2022
Dazzler of the Day: Kathy Hochul
All my life I’ve been proud to be a New Yorker. Being born in this great state, where so many history-making moments have happened, and continue to happen, lends one a distinction that is recognized throughout the world. With that proud distinction also comes a certain degree of responsibility, especially for those heading up the governmental workings of such a wondrously-varied state. Expertly taking the helm of New York at a time when the world seems at odds with itself, Governor Kathy Hochul has made her own history, becoming the very first female governor our state has known.
I remember watching her speak at a Veterans event several years ago when she was Lieutenant Governor, and her relatable and compassionate words illustrated an understanding of what New York was, and could be. From her background in Western New York, to her legal work in Washington, DC, she has integral experience in how things work on both the hometown and federal level, and that kind of keen understanding is necessary to keep our state moving forward. This Dazzler of the Day honors Hochul for her career of service to our great state, and our country.
September
2022
Dad’s 92nd Birthday
While this site always goes dark on 9/11, yesterday also happened to be my Dad’s 92nd birthday, so he gets an extra day of celebration, as anyone who has made it to the age of 92 deserves. The last year has continued to bring about a slow and steady decline, but there are still rare moments of engagement and joy that can be elicited, sometimes by the littlest member of our family, his grandson Jaxon Layne.
Every now and then the Dad that we used to know resurfaces, sometimes at the unlikeliest of times, and we are reminded of happier days and childhood and the benign love of a father. For his birthday dinner, he had a few of those moments, when we got him to smile and interact for a brief moment.
I had a couple quiet times with him too, when he saw me and we connected in the midst of the cacophony of kids and talking, liked we used to do. It was a cross-generation of Ilagans at the dining room table, celebrating our patriarch.
Happy Birthday, Dad – we love you.
September
2022
September
2022
Making New Boston History ~ Part 2
Our Boston weekend continued, as the twins and I woke for an early breakfast from Cafe Madeleine before the harbor cruise. We picked up some chocolate and almond croissants, then sat on a bench in a nearby park to enjoy the sweet treats. A growing group of little birds joined us, expanding into a frenzy of feathered friends as each flake of croissant fell to the floor. We watched them with entertainment and enjoyment – this little ritual was an unexpectedly bit of casual fun, unplanned and all the more miraculous because of it. They said we should do breakfast like this the next morning.
The sea, which played such an integral part of our adventures earlier this summer as in this weekend with Kira and our annual BroSox Adventure with Skip, was the new backdrop for this weekend with the twins. Boston Harbor carries its own magic, and the surprise I had planned for the twins had me eagerly awaiting our departure hour.
Being that the twins are 12 years old, I looked up Boston adventures for kids about to be teenagers, and the first one that popped up was this high-speed Codzilla boat trip. It looked fun, and more exciting than the slow Boston cruises that would hit on history, something I figured they’d had their fill of on the Freedom Trail the day before.
I told them we were just going on a regular boat ride, but as we approached the boarding area, they saw the signs of warning (for those with heart conditions or motion sickness or who didn’t want to get wet) and they suddenly got a little apprehensive. Had I miscalculated their capacity for excitement? It was too late to do anything about that now, as I scanned our tickets and we buckled into the vessel.
“Would your Uncle Al do anything that would scare or harm you?” I asked, foolishly realizing the answer before I even finished the question.
“Yes!!” they screamed in unison.
Ok, that’s fair.
The ride was just as it was billed, and we did get soaked, but I think underneath these poses they had fun. They’re just about to become snarky teens, and this was good practice to be annoyed by everything in the world. The day was warm and sunny, and we dried off as we ambled our way through Quincy Market for lunch and shopping. After that, it was time to head home for a change of clothes.
Returning to the condo, we simply hung out for the rest of the afternoon. We’ve reached the point where they can be mostly self-sufficient, perusing their iPads or phones, while their Uncle Al does an afternoon meditation. Noah had helped me design the backdrop of fall-hued curtains, perfect for a fun weekend-ending photo shoot, so we took a few shots to commemorate the last summer weekend in Boston, and to set the stage for the fall to come.
The next morning, as requested, we had breakfast with the birds again. Maybe it will be a new tradition, maybe it was a twice-in-a-lifetime experience. Whatever the case, we can add it to our story, as we add the entire weekend to our magnificent summer together.
September
2022
Making New Boston History ~ Part 1
Boston is a city steeped in history and tradition. It’s there in every cobblestone, every worn sculpture, every turn along the Freedom Trail. It’s also a great place to explore to get a feel for this country’s origin story, and the various events that brought us to such freedom. This was the background for a weekend with the twins in Boston, where we began on a sunny Friday afternoon with a walk along the Freedom Trail, and it would become a weekend that we added to our own family history.
It was the last unofficial weekend in summer – a long one thanks to Labor Day – and we arrived to celebrate the final sunny days of a summer that has treated us exceptionally well. This would be our farewell to a Boston summer, and I was joined by Noah and Emi, who were game enough to do the entire Freedom Trail. As we began the first leg, I eyed the golden-domed State house ahead of us and warned them that the hill was steeper than it looked. They balked at my warning, as though I was an old man barely able to get around, so I was confident they would tackle the trail without a problem.
We wound our way through downtown Boston, pausing at each historical stop along the way, making vague plans for dinner in Quincy Market or the North End, and the beauty of the day kept us inspired.
The twins and I have had a number of adventures over this past summer, so we looked back over a few of those on our journey. They’ve also been in Boston with me during the holidays, and we talked of maybe doing that again this holiday season. Adding to our family history while recalling it was a warm moment for us, and as we wound our way through the streets of Boston, I felt us writing a new chapter in the exact moment it was happening.
We decided to have our dinner in the North End, and we enjoyed some pasta on the second floor of Bacco, situated by a window and looking down into the streets just starting to swell with people.
The day’s light was winding down as we were nearing the end of the trail. The twins were already tired out, and complaining that their feet hurt. Their 47-year-old Uncle Al was ready to walk another five miles, and in my head I recalled their initial dismissal of my warning of the hill to the State House, but we slowed our pace and rested before heading back home.
We pushed through and made it back, and I told them we would all sleep well after such a workout. Back in the condo, we settled in, had some dessert, and were out almost as soon as we hit the pillows. The next day we were scheduled for a Boston Harbor cruise, and we needed the rest…
September
2022
Dazzler of the Day: Kelly Clarkson
Once upon a time Kelly Clarkson was a little too perky and happy for me. I think it was around the time she won the very first season of ‘American Idol’ – but that was my own jaded refusal to simply enjoy anyone having a good time. These days, her infectious spirit and spunk is precisely what the world needs, which may account for the wildly successful results of her talk show, ‘The Kelly Clarkson Show’. I didn’t need to watch to know how well she relates to the viewer, and I always knew she could cover songs, sometimes in a finer fashion than their originators (see Kellyoke). Today she earns her first Dazzler of the Day for a career that shows no signs of slowing down.
September
2022
A Meditation on the Verge Of Mercury
We dive into a few weeks of Mercury in retrograde motion starting tomorrow, September 10th, and no one is ready or wants it to happen, but humans have no say or control over the heavenly bodies nor the earth’s own motion. In preparation for this, I’ve been mediating consistently for 20 minutes every day, which is my usual practice. It brings my baseline down a bit, allowing for the rollercoaster of Mercury in retrograde to be slightly less tumultuous.
These periods are often viewed with dread and apprehension, and I succumb to that a fair share of the time. When things go wrong and disrupt the daily schedule, that’s tough for a Virgo to take. This time around, I’ll try to roll with the punches, accept the little snafus that are a basic part of life, and bend with the winds rather than trying to rigidly resist them.
My daily meditations will continue, and I will attempt to be a bit more mindful outside of those sessions, bringing the practice into every waking moment. That takes some effort and focus, and that’s the point. When the mind hones in on being mindful and present, it has less time and space to be bothered by petty concerns and worries. The simple slowing of one’s breath – and indulging in each slow inhale and exhale – can be a soothing method of instantly calming down when you get stuck behind a school bus or find your computer being difficult. It also reminds me of how silly those annoyances are, and how silly so much of life is, and that’s a good reminder for anyone as serious as I can too often be.
Let’s get through this Mercurial madness together, being mindful, being present, being open to change and the unexpected turns of the day.
September
2022
Dazzler of the Day: Leslie Jordan
He’s been sober for 25 years, and that’s more than enough to merit this Dazzler of the Day, but in addition to that footnote, Leslie Jordan has been entertaining the world for decades. He’s finally come into his own social media prominence, thanks to his surprising success on Instagram – which was no surprise to anyone who’s followed his hilarious antics. Known by many from his turn on ‘Will & Grace’, Jordan has made appearances on about a bazillion shows over the years, thanks to his wit, hilarity and natural charm and charisma.
September
2022
Rods of Gold
My aversion to goldenrod doesn’t come from its wrongly-rumored allergy connotation – most of the sneezing that takes place at this time of the year is due to the ragweed, a far less showy plant that spreads its bothersome pollen in the air. The goldenrod carries its pollen closer to its flowers, due to its larger size, and doesn’t get as easily airborne as the ragweed. Unfortunately for the goldenrod, it’s the plant we see in bloom now (the ragweed is as unassuming as its common name) and so it gets all the blame. I know what that’s like. Being the showy one instantly puts a target on your back.
Fortunately for the goldenrod, and for me, the truth wins out in the end. Always has, always will – it’s just a matter of time.
That still doesn’t allay my aversion to this plant, which goes back to grade school, and the way the swaying gold blooms always told me that the start to another school season was around the corner. The same feelings of dread and worry crept into the cool night air then, while whispers of the darkening fall sounded insidiously on the wind. Goldenrod nodded her assent, allowing autumn to enter, and my heart was set into riot again.
September
2022
Dazzler of the Day: Zac Efron
For someone who has been featured here so many times that he almost has his own category (something reserved for the likes of Tom Ford, Madonna, and Ben Cohen), Zac Efron has egregiously never been named Dazzler of the Day until now, and mostly for the recent shirtless Instagram photo you see here. Perhaps we just needed a reminder of his body of work, so his feature as Dazzler is up now, and you are welcome to peruse all the other times he has been featured here, such as this shirtless post, or this scantily-clad post, or this basically naked post, or this full-nude post. Take your choice.