The best part of having an anniversary in the year 2000 is automatically having an easy count of how many years it’s been. For Andy and myself, this marks our thirteenth. The lucky one. (Where’s the bar mitzvah?) According to Madonna’s version of the Kaballah, thirteen is the age when the soul solidifies into what it’s going to be. In other words, by thirteen, the die is cast. I think we take comfort in that. A lot has happened in thirteen years, but my one constant has been Andy. He doesn’t get a lot of the glory that he deserves (and shies away from the camera and self-exultation or he’d be featured a lot more here), but my life would not be the same without him, and I can’t imagine it any other way. Happy Anniversary, Drew!
Category Archives: Andy
July
2013
July
2013
K.I.T.
The photos here have been procured from my Instagram account. I usually write pretty timely posts – what I had for dinner tonight is often the post for the next day. Yet while I’m vacation (for the next week)Â I have had to pre-program the posts you see here, because I refuse to work on this website while traveling. That said, I’m still available and updating things on FaceBook and Twitter and Instagram, so if you want to keep abreast of me in real time, friend or follow me on one of those platforms. (I also tend to be decidedly less guarded and worried about perfection on those social media sites, which ends up being bad for me but more interesting for the casual observer). In the meantime, you’ll still find updates here, but of the planned-ahead sort (which can often be more juicy… as you’ll see).
PS – Andy pops up a lot more in those other places too, for those who continue to doubt his existence (as do peeks into my cologne collection).
May
2013
Anniversary Stroll
As per tradition, Andy and I strolled through the Boston Public Garden in commemoration of our wedding day. It was as gorgeous as the original, if slightly cooler and breezier. This time, though, there was music – and not only the honking of agitated geese at the presence of one too many ducks, or the excited squeals of youngsters at the line of tiny ducklings in the wake of their parents.
As if we’d been transported to another continent, the sounds of an erhu carried on the wind. We traced its origin to a gentlemen sitting on a bench before the pond, and we sat down on a neighboring bench to listen. The music traveled throughout the park, perfectly complementing our walk, and the fluttering of cherry blossoms along the way.
On this particular morning, a straw boater hat provided both aesthetic pleasure and practical function, shielding a bit of the sun from my eyes, and allowing the cool breeze to travel through its woven structure. Though it was Derby Day (an unplanned happy coincidence), the denizens of Boston did not yet seem ready to embrace the hat, at least according to Andy’s tracking of puzzled reactions. No matter. It worked wonders.
The hat was a bigger hit with those at the Bristol Lounge of the Four Seasons. It’s where we had our wedding lunch, and is the only place we return to when revisiting our anniversary spots (I’m saving the original restaurants for a special one – maybe ten or twenty).
As the day unfolded, we walked around the city, enfolded by blooms soft and bold. Another year, and another season, were under way.
May
2013
Happy Anniversary, Andy
Today marks our third wedding anniversary, already well-documented here, but this is my own personal message to my husband, who still reads what I write. We spent a mostly lovely weekend in Boston, where the city was in full bloom. There was a certain pallor over the days, given recent events, but the city is on the mend, and the spirit remains strong.
It is, not surprisingly, one of my favorite times to be in the city. The flowering cherries and crab apples light up the sky, as do the American dogwoods, blooming on their bare limbs in foliage-free derring-do. The tulips are in their prime, and the daffodils, thanks to cool nights, are still hanging on too.
Exquisite and enchanting, it’s the stuff of fairy tales ~ or wedding anniversaries. Or both.
May
2013
Wedding Anniversary 2013 ~ 5
After a lunch at the Four Seasons, we barely had time to digest and build up some hunger for our final dinner of the festivities, at Mistral. Tying on a bow tie was my exertion for the day.
May
2013
Wedding Anniversary 2013 ~ 4
First there was the ceremony, then there was a walk in the park, and then there were some pictures.
May
2013
Wedding Anniversary 2013 ~ 3
Peonies were in bloom wherever we went, it seemed. The lobby of the Taj was filled with them, and Suzie brought a bunch for a wedding bouquet. (To think I had almost foregone a wedding bouquet… sometimes the Matron of Honor saves the day.) The day dawned, and the sun was in the sky, pouring into our room.
As you can see, the story about me wearing ripped jeans to my wedding was not a tall tale. I’m too short for tall tales.
May
2013
Wedding Anniversary 2013 ~ 2
Our guests convened in our hotel suite before a few sidecars at the bar downstairs. Then it was off to the Rehearsal Dinner at the Top of the Hub. (And the last night of a bachelor…)
May
2013
Wedding Anniversary 2013 ~ 1
The next two days will be filled with several more pre-programmed posts, as Andy and I have only just returned from Boston, and they’re a recap of said event three years ago. No matter what goes on in the world, and no matter where my head is at, looking back to May 2010 always brings me a sense of peace and calm and happiness. It began with our arrival at the Taj, with a suite overlooking the site of the ceremony, the Boston Public Garden.
Rather than re-write history, and make you re-read it, I’m only going to direct you to the original links. Those of you who have already seen it can come back here on May 8…
March
2013
Easter in Boston
This year will mark the first time I’m not spending Easter with my family since 1993 I believe (Suzie will correct me if I’m wrong). Back then, she and I were spending spring break week in Disneyworld (having traveled there by train). That’s about as nightmarish as it gets for a teenager in high school, but we actually had quite a good time. (It’s where the terms ‘Red as a lobster’ and ’30-60-90′ entered our lexicon of immaturity.) I remember one of the conditions of the trip was that I attend Easter Mass, which I did, in some makeshift hotel church.
This time around, Andy and I are spending the weekend in Boston, brunching on the celebratory holiday, and dining out for a few nights prior. Sometimes it’s good to shake things up and start new traditions, or simply do something different every few years. It’s also the time of the year when Andy and I were wedding-planning a few years ago, so it’s always nice to be back in the place where it happened, making new memories together.
February
2013
A.K.A. My Husband
Happy V-Day to my lover and sweet-talking star-fucker Andy – cause I’m a star, and he’s the Big Dipper.
January
2013
Change of Plans
In an unlikely decision, I’m not going to Boston this weekend after all. I’d been teetering on the edge of uncertainty, but when the Mayor declared a State of Emergency because of all the flu cases that were going around, I decided to stay in upstate New York. Besides, the new bed has not yet been delivered, and I didn’t want to lug the new television there on my own. When the signs appear you do nothing but a disservice to yourself by ignoring them. Instead, I’ll get to focus on some projects and some house-cleaning (if Andy ever deigns to take the desiccated carcass of a fire hazard down – and by that I mean the Christmas tree that still stands in our living room shedding its needles like a molting bird).
I also have some reading and writing to do, and we’re seeing ‘Lincoln’ because we are way behind on our Oscar-viewing list. In other words, this may be the first normal weekend I’ve had in a while. If we can get a dinner out on Saturday, I may just survive it – otherwise I should be too bored. God help us all.
December
2012
I Sat On This Santa Before (But We Were Naked)
You’re never too old (or big) for Santa’s lap. In this never-before-seen shot of what was once a Holiday Card contender, this is me sitting on the lap of a very special Santa – my husband Andy. Yes, back in the day I somehow cajoled him into appearing in a possible Christmas Card decked out in full-on Santa Drag. I’m not sure why it was never used (he likely didn’t sign the release), or what monstrosity replaced it (there are a few sordid options here and there and everywhere), but it’s being posted now because I’m feeling the Christmas spirit. (I’m also just glad that the wretched door seen in the background has been replaced. Some things are worth celebrating over and over and over…)
December
2012
Our Christmas Tree
This is our Christmas tree for 2012. It’s usually done with colored lights, but I begged and pleaded that Andy let us do it in white lights to match the rest of the decorations this year. Before he had a chance to answer, I strung it myself. It’s easier to ask forgiveness than to ask permission. Personally, I think it’s just as lovely, and much brighter than usual. Next year he can go back to the full-color version since the tree is usually his thing.
While trimming the tree used to be my favorite thing to do, since I grew up, I stopped bothering with it. I’m not sure why. Sometimes the things we think will be the last to go are the first to be forgotten. When I lived in Boston I never had a Christmas tree, not even a tiny Charlie Brown version – it just seemed like too much work for such a small thing.
If I were to end up in Boston again, I would most definitely get a tree for the holidays. In fact, the last time I was in town I was tempted to get one for the condo just for the scant weekends I’d be there this month. (Kira rightly argued against it.)
No matter what else is going on in the world, waking to the smell of a fresh Christmas tree in the living room will always make things just a little better. That’s something that will never go away.
November
2012
The Wedding Coat ~ The Holiday Card 2010
Being that Andy and I were married in 2010, the only suitable photo card for that year was my first-ever joint picture. It depicts us in our wedding finery (the coat was what I wore for our reception/celebration, while Andy’s outfit is what he wore for the ceremony.) Taken by the pool on one of those glorious summer nights, it was proof that I didn’t mind sharing the billing, and a nifty commemoration of that special year.