Sweet Ogunquit Autumn

“I will sleep no more but arise,

You oceans that have been calm within me!

how I feel you, fathomless, stirring, preparing unprecedented waves and storms.” ~ Walt Whitman

Our autumn trip to Ogunquit was blessed with some of the nicest weather we’ve had on our fall excursions – full sun and breezy days, with only one bout of gray and a bit of rain near the end. Staying at the Anchorage, our group of three – me, Andy and Mom – was right on the shore, and the backdrop of the ocean provided a calm setting for the long weekend. 

While the pumpkins and gourds and corn stalks were on their fall display, summer lingered in the blooms that were till going. Like our cleome at home, the cleome here was still blooming, along with cosmos and roses and that October showpiece the aster

While our last trip to Ogunquit was our first without Dad, this one felt a little lonelier. Back then we were just finding our way – and it was all new and uncharted – enough so to distract us. This time we were also back at the place where he and Mom always stayed, which I think made it a little sadder for her. Still, there was beauty, and someone was smiling upon our quiet and pretty weekend by the shore. 

The weather looked to be best on our first full day there, so we made that our Marginal Way day, taking our time walking along the majestic stretch of shoreline, pausing on a couple of benches and taking in the brilliance of the day, and the ocean. 

And so the other days passed – the weather turned for the better when storms were predicted, holding off until the end. We napped, and we sat by the ocean, and I made a few solitary walks and shopping excursions about town. A welcome break from our fade-to-black fall, even if the cowboy hat remained. 

Fall unfurled its golden hour moments – the golden hour of the day, the golden hour of the year.

Saving our favorite restaurant for last – the cozy Walker’s, where a couple of fireplaces staved off the cold night – we arrived and peered into the warm environs.

We were seated near the main fireplace, which was kept stocked with fresh logs throughout the evening. I had one of the best duck dinners I’ve tasted in years – something Dad would have ordered and loved. 

We closed out the holiday weekend as the weather turned to something similar to spring, and since spring will come again that feels like a fitting place to close this little chapter. 

“Whenever I look at the ocean, I always want to talk to people, but when I’m talking to people, I always want to look at the ocean.” ~ Haruki Murakami

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Perils of Fall

Falling horse chestnuts.

Shit is real. And dangerous.

They’ll poke your eye out, just as you’re looking up.

In Ogunquit, there is a majestic horse chestnut tree right on the main drag, with a sign above that warns passers-beneath it to ‘watch for falling horse chestnuts’. I don’t think looking up is the best advice at such a time, but I get what they meant. 

Stay tuned for our brief Ogunquit recap – it was truly beautiful. 

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#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series

Skateboarding up a steep hill. Why?

Also, skateboarding. Why?

#TinyThreads

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Kamala, Obviously

It’s disheartening to think that our Presidential election is as close as the broken media is portraying it to be. Kamala Harris is a capable prosecutor; Donald Trump is a convicted felon. That alone should be enough. For some reason – the misinformation and willful ignorance of Americans perhaps – it’s not, so if you’re still somehow on the fence for this very important election, a few facts for your perusal:

For freedom: In his own words, Trump killed Roe v. Wade and the right of women to make their own health decisions. Under his Project 2025 blueprint, and with the help of his VP pick JD Vance, Trump will likely implement a national abortion ban, to say nothing of the risks he poses to such options as IVF. 

For your finances: Trump’s tariff plan will tank the economy and raise costs of everything even more. His tax breaks will not benefit you – you do not make nearly enough money to benefit, and neither do I. Also, to count on someone whose companies have gone bankrupt multiple times to help our economy is downright stupid. 

For border security: Trump killed the bipartisan border bill that would have protected our borders – he is not interested in border security. He also had four years as President to build that wall, and failed miserably

For backing the blue: Trump instigated the January 6th insurrection, resulting in police dying, our Capitol being breached and vandalized, and putting our representatives in danger. Trump wants to pardon all of those criminals. 

For patriotism: Trump has called injured and killed veterans ‘suckers’ and ‘losers’; his generals have sounded the alarm on his fascist plans; his own Vice President – Mike Pence – won’t support him, largely because Trump didn’t care that his own supporters wanted to hang him on January 6

For character: Trump is a convicted felon, who cheated on his third, and then-pregnant, wife with a porn star, then lied and paid money to cover it up. He lies more than anyone else on the planet, and still clings to his sad and repeatedly-disproven lie that he didn’t lose the last election

For safety: Hundreds of thousands of Americans died thanks to Trump’s bungling of the COVID pandemic; he thought, and said out loud, injecting bleach might help. He was given a blueprint for how to handle such an event and threw it out because it came from President Obama. We all know someone who has died from COVID, and that might have not happened if someone competent was in charge at that time. 

For competence: Trump is a fucking moron. 

If you’re still voting for him in the face of all that, you should examine why. Deep down, you know. And I have a feeling it’s not in the name of anything noble or good. 

If you haven’t educated yourself on the merits and plans and detailed vision that Kamala Harris has for our great country, read it all here. This is substance. This is serious. This is a responsible adult who cares about our country. This is the best way forward. We cannot go back. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Jon M. Chu

Director of the most highly-anticipated film of the year, ‘Wicked’, at least in the giddy circles I frequent, Jon M. Chu brings an epic arsenal of film work to Gregory Maguire’s novel and the musicalized version that’s still packing in audiences on Broadway. To truly capture the wonder of Oz would take a visionary, so I’m confident that it landed in the right lap. Chu has helmed such memorable films as ‘Crazy Rich Asians‘ and ‘In the Heights’, as well as filmed concerts of Justin Bieber and the dance films ‘Step Up 2’ and ‘Step Up 3’. He knows his way around a musical dance number, and is genius at combining swirling camera work with dramatic visuals and compelling music. He earns this Dazzler of the Day for the trailers of ‘Wicked’ alone – and advance buzz is that this first installment absolutely defies gravity. 

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One Last Swim…

We teetered on the edge of 80 degrees yesterday, and it felt sickeningly like summer again when I finally took a late lunch. Once I got home, I hopped right into the pool while Andy set up the grill for one final round of hamburgers. He had had the foresight and wisdom to heat the pool to a cozy 84 degrees, so swimming in the warm water was a welcome embrace of comfort and pleasure – and not something I thought I’d get to do again this year. A bonus bout of summer coming later than it ever has before. Global warming indeed.

It also offers the ideal bit of counter-programming for our fade-to-black fall, and is a lovely little hint of the next summer to come – for there is always another summer… until there isn’t. This idyllic scene will be but a dream for the next six months, so having a last bit of joy gives Andy and I that spark of happiness to last through the coming winter

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Dazzler of the Day: Christian Siriano

Oodles of ruffles, powerful colors, and layers of talent are hallmarks of Christian Siriano and his impeccable fashion creations. Siriano has done the impossible and made a name for himself by designing for some of the biggest stars in the world; it comes from a place of unique beauty, sumptuous style, and an eye for art that lends each of his creations something incredibly special. He easily earns this Dazzler of the Day for years of pushing the boundaries of what fashion can be – check out his website here for a collection of beauty. 

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Pumpkin Season

‘Tis the damn season.

Here’s a pumpkin

There’s nothing great about it

It’s going to be in the 70’s today.

I don’t feel like blogging

I don’t feel like doing much of anything

It’s a feeling of blah.

Of meh.

Of fuck it all

But enjoy this pumpkin, and your fall fun

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Now A Warning?!

In a grand tradition of seeing powerful duel-female-lead musicals, I’ve gifted Andy with a preview of ‘Death Becomes Her’ as his birthday gift. It joins other notable Broadway events such as ‘Wicked’, ‘Grey Gardens‘ and ‘War Paint’, that we were lucky enough to catch early on in their runs with the original casts. That meant we got to see Kristin Chenoweth, Idina Menzel, Christine Ebersole and Mary Louise Wilson in their respective iconic roles. 

The new musical version of ‘Death Becomes Her’ is fronted by two powerful leads – Megan Hilty and Jennifer Simard – taking over the Meryl Streep and Goldie Hawn roles from the original movie. While it’s never been a favorite of mine, it’s grown on me over the years – and Andy has always loved it. He never met a bit of slapstick antics, musical comedy, and Meryl Streep madness he didn’t adore. 

After hearing a few snippets of this one – including an incredible duet between the leads – I’m fully on board to giving this purple potion a try… late warnings be damned!

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A Sexy Recap

This marks the date way back in 1992 on which Madonna released her infamous ‘Sex’ book – a day after she released her ‘Erotica’ album – a proper collection of hook-filled bops that never got the admiration it deserved until decades later. Powerful artistic work often works that way. Anyway, this isn’t about Madonna, oddly enough – it’s our weekly recap

These merry marigolds did their vamp.

Something is brewing

A sorcerer by a sorceress.

A last floral dance?

Grounding myself.

Warts and all.

Naked and homophobic.

Dangerously feminine.

At midnight we get down.

Sun cutting through fall.

Happy birthday Andy!

Shawn Mendes liked Troye Sivan’s butt – and who could argue with that?

Dazzlers of the Day included Niecy Nash-BettsNicholas Alexander Chavez, and Kelly Friel.

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Shawn Mendes Likes Troye Sivan’s Butt…

… pic. Maybe that break in the post title was unwarranted, butt maybe it wasn’t. 

This is the news that infiltrates in-between all the political stuff, and I’m no longer sure which is more ridiculous. (He who shall not be named is talking about Arnold Palmer’s cock size, while the only capable candidate, Vice President Kamala Harris, is addressing Fox News directly and stepping up to the moment. This shouldn’t be close.)

So when something as foolish as this clickbait meme that claims ‘Shawn Mendes Liked Troye Sivan’s Butt Pic on Instagram’ I am grateful for the silly bit of escapism such fantasizing might provide. We’ve featured both of these musicians before – Shawn Mendes in excessive linky posts and poses, and Troye Sivan in other baring/daring pics. (My bet is the reportedly-liked photo is one of the two below. How could it not be?)

See more of Shawn Mendes shirtless here, here, and here.

 

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Dazzler of the Day: Kelly Friel

When my Kristen says you are good people, it’s an absolute fact that you are good people, and so it was that I discovered Kelly Friel, and her wondrous work with yarn, the beauty of which immediately merits this Dazzler of the Day crowning. Friel heads up the Fashion School Dropout Yarn Company, and her work is exquisite. With an eye for color combinations that particularly speaks to anyone who adores vibrant color play, she crafts yarn that is a work of art unto itself, lending a gorgeous and unique product for all knitters, crocheters, crafters, and appreciators of beauty. See what’s available on her link tree here.

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Happy Birthday Andy

Sitting on a bench and looking out at the turquoise and sapphire sea, we watched the waves come in, pulled by the moon. It had been just a little over twenty-four years since our first trip to Ogunquit together, and as impossibly far away and long ago as it felt, I remembered it distinctly, especially our first walk along the Marginal Way. Now, all this time later, Andy was still by my side, still providing the comfort and love that made the rainy days ok and the sunny days soar. 

Today is one of those very special sunny days, and it marks Andy’s birthday.  In honor of that, here are a few pics I managed to sneak on our recent trip to Maine. It’s one of his favorite places, and even all these years later it still provides a haven and a sanctuary when the rest of the world grows ever dimmer. It is here where we have been more ourselves than perhaps anywhere else, happily content to simply be – walking along this beautiful coastline, dining at familiar restaurants, and searching for the possibility of a beach day. 

Andy has usually been the bedrock of our home together – and home is wherever we might cuddle up for the night. Whether that’s Maine or New York or Boston, as long as he is there, that place is home. Since Andy’s never been one for big birthday celebrations, we’ll spend a quiet day at home per his usual request, capped by a family dinner and some vanilla cake. Happy Birthday, Drew – I love you. 

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Sun Cutting Through the Fall

Andy says there are warmer days to return soon – a little throwback to all our summer sun, and a summer I didn’t fully inhabit. Some summers get lost like that. It’s nothing worth regretting, it’s nothing worth recalling. Some things simply need to be buried. Perhaps they’ll be resurrected in a song, or a scent, or a bittersweet reminder that the brain suddenly unleashes years later. The mind works strangely, without explanation. For now, I will try to soak in the sun and get outside to see this last showing of the hydrangeas. They had such a wonderful year.

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At Midnight

Let the dance party of one commence!

Crank this one up and give in to the boogie.

It’s midnight. We’re safe. And we made it to the weekend. 

Disco inferno time – burn baby burn!!!

They say you shouldn’t write this late at night.

This post is proof of that

Forget my silly nonsense – just play the song already and get down.

There now – isn’t that a little bit better

Did you funk out like I just did?

I’m talking about midnight.

Midnight! Come on! 

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