May
2013
May
2013
An Old Love Rekindled
Every great love story begins with a first look. And the first time I laid eyes on Asarum, I was in love instantly. It was love from afar, as I only saw pictures at first. The White Flower Farm catalog teased my first glimpse of this beautiful plant, putting it together as part a collection that also featured some hosta and astilbe. The fleshy leaves of Asarum europaeum comprised one of the more subtle performers, but I loved their unassuming texture, the mottled accents of their veins, the tiny hairs lining the edges. It was the love of a single plant like this that fostered a greater, all-encompassing love for gardening.
That’s how it began for me – a fascination with a few individual plants. The butterfly-like floating wonder of a Siberian iris blossom ~ the geometric perfection and wondrous propagation techniques of a Sempervivum ~ the graceful arching beauty of a branch of bleeding hearts; this was how the seeds of my gardening life were sown, and once they took root, there was no stopping any of it. How strange that something as little as a single Asarum could spark such a grand lifelong passion. The biggest surprises often come from the smallest, unlikeliest sources.
May
2013
On the Rocks in Ogunquit
As we cross the first sign that says ‘Beautiful Place By the Sea’, a calm comes over us, and everything we left behind stays behind until we cross the sign again. Ogunquit has become a place of refuge, a home-away-from-home where the baggage of real life can be forgotten for a few days. I’ve always found peace wherever the sea meets the land. There’s something about that line between two worlds that appeals to my love of transition. It’s the place where water and stone collide in ways that are beautiful and dangerous, peaceful and primal.
There are lessons to be gleaned from the shore of learning. The timing of the tide, the pull of the moon, the ever-lapping tongue of time licking our lives into submission. The power and might of a storm, the ceaseless wind, the salty erosion. It is the perfect place to cull a sense of humility, for we are all at the mercy of something greater than ourselves. There is comfort here as well – in the shaded spaces between rocks, the tiny tidal pools that protect a few lucky sea creatures until the return of life-giving water, or the quiet sunrise that sets another day in motion. Looking out over the expanse of the ocean, it is impossible to feel very big about yourself. There is nothing more grounding than the shoreline. It will always be a balm upon the heart.
May
2013
May
2013
A Bus Full of Love, Headed for Marriage
My artist pal Paul Richmond (who so generously and graciously immortalized me a distant summer or two ago) is embarking on what may be the greatest ride of his life. He’s one of 25 gay couples heading to Washington, DC to get married as part of the “C-Bus Of Love” – a project sponsored by MarriageEvolved. He and his fiancé Dennis will travel to the Supreme Court with 24 other couples to get married in June, as the court makes its determination for marriage equality. (Be sure to check out the C-Bus site, especially the page with the couple bios – my favorite.)
Mr. Richmond must have had an eye on the future when he originally painted a work entitled “Noah’s Gay Wedding Cruise.” According to the artist himself, “I painted a grand ark/cruise ship filled with happy gay and lesbian animal couples and a few human guests too (like Ellen DeGeneres/Portia de Rossi, and Elton John/David Furnish). There are even some drowning sinners (such as Ann Coulter, Larry Craig, Sally Kern, and Fred Phelps)!” It was a witty, colorful way of expressing some very serious topics, done with the whimsy, humor, and sharp political intent inherent in Richmond’s most powerful work.
In honor of his dedication to the cause at hand, Richmond has updated his piece to include the founders of MarriageEvolved, Joshua and Steve Snyder-Hill. The new “Noah’s Gay Wedding Cruise: MarriageEvolved Edition” will be available on Richmond’s website (in three different sizes), and 100% of the proceeds from sales of the limited edition print will go toward the ‘C-Bus of Love’. Please check out the story of this worthy adventure, and donate if you can. When you think about it on the human level, when you see and read about these couples and realize their love and dedication and commitment – it seems inhumane and criminal to deny them the right of marriage.
May
2013
Ogunquit Approaching
Today Andy and I depart on our annual Memorial Day weekend jaunt to Ogunquit, Maine, so from here on out please do your best to remain interested in pre-programmed posts, and I’ll do my best to keep things interesting. There won’t be a big naked reveal like last year, but there will be other fun things to tide you over until our proverbial boat returns early next week. Since this marks my thirteenth year of visiting Ogunquit, I think I’ve already hit upon the basics of my love for the town numerous times (like here, here, here, here, and here for example). I won’t rehash or reiterate while I’m away, as there will likely be new adventures to recap upon my return. Instead, perhaps a pastiche of memories, culled from our years visiting such a fair location… but first, a few photos of the Beautiful Place By the Sea.
May
2013
A Sushi Platter Doing What It’s Supposed to Do
This is the gift from our friend Eileen, put to its intended use as a sushi platter. The beauty of the dish speaks for itself.
May
2013
NightWind
A spring night, hurtling all-too-quickly toward the start of summer. The leaves have just begun to fill in the barren branches of winter, the pots newly planted and looking a little sparse. It is always that way in the beginning. The artificial light casts an eerie glow to the surroundings, warmer than the moon, but also more sickly. It is the pallor of another world, the shading of a different brush. Tell-tale signs of the day remain: the patio furniture slightly askew, the overturned wheelbarrow, the hose running through the yard like an endless snake.
A coral bark maple tree leaves streaks of crimson across the black firmament, echoing the dull blood of a brick wall, highlighting the golden beauty of its first flush of foliage. What arrogance, what cockiness, what rightful-pride-of-place it takes in its corner location, both anchoring and softening the end of the house. Its prettiness doesn’t shout like the yapping yellow jonquils or the tweeked-out tittering tulips – it rises quietly above that, into the night sky, reaching for loftier aims, higher goals.
In its silent stance, it is elegance in tree form. In this strange light, it shines forth other-worldly beauty, reflecting its own star-shaped-leaf-light. Red limbs provide structure like bloody bones, their almost-alien form ribbed by the scars of lost branches, illuminated in the glow of such absurd light.
The night wind begins up above. The song of spring is high at hand. The rush of life-giving rain awaits its cue.
On this night, all is hope, all is possibility, all is set… for the summer.
May
2013
A Tree Grows In… Our Pool
By the time I worked up the courage to venture out on a literal limb and begin pruning the cherry tree that had gone unattended for about three years too long, I neglected to factor in where the pruned branches might fall. My initial concern was the plants below, but once I got up there I was too scared to really worry about anything other than a power line and my own precarious balance. So this is one of the end results: a little tree in our pool. Along with a single felled peony branch, and a number of scratches on my arm, I think we all turned out rather well, especially when one considers the alternative: decimated peony plants, broken bones, and torn pool liners.
May
2013
Me In A Tree
As often happens only when I reach the top of a twenty-foot ladder or the upper-limbs of a cherry tree, I was reminded of my fear of falling this weekend as I pruned the bejesus out of the tree seen here. (It was much higher than it appears, I swear.) It’s actually not so much the fear of heights that bothers me, it’s the fact that while doing things like painting or pruning, there is less of an opportunity to stabilize yourself when having to reach for things, or maneuver a long pair of pruning shears. That stability, or lack-there-of, is what sets my mind into overdrive imagining scenarios of losing my footing and falling, of a ladder buckling or a branch breaking beneath my feet. At that point, my legs start shaking, a panic sets in, and I cling to whatever is closest on hand for some grip on anything that won’t topple to the ground with me.
I haven’t climbed a tree like this in about two decades, and aside from the onerous sawing and pruning involved, it was actually pretty fun. While I don’t see myself climbing trees again anytime soon, it was nice to remember how to place my feet, navigate the climb upward, all with an eye on the journey back down. I used to climb the maple trees in front of our home when I was little, as soon as I was tall enough to jump into their lower boughs, as well as a sky-high evergreen that had perfectly-placed limbs like a magical spiral staircase, waiting to bring me heavenward. The bird’s eye view was exhilarating, and I don’t remember the fear that so quickly gripped me this time around. Like so many things, that fear is one of the atrocities of growing old, but I’ll fight against it in ways that don’t involve the possibility of a thirty foot plunge to earth.
May
2013
Eight And A Half…
It’s getting more and more rare to find a real Renaissance man these days, but if such a creature exists, it comes in the form of Matthew Camp. From go-go-dancer to designer, Mr. Camp has dabbled in a little bit of everything, and all of it quite well. Even so, I had to raise an eyebrow when he announced he had a fragrance coming out. (I wasn’t even a fan of Madonna’s entrance into the perfume market.) However, upon sampling his new scent, I’m happy to report that it’s everything it has billed itself as: sexy, smoldering, masculine, and edgy.
Reminiscent of a harder, more raw version of Tom Ford’s Tuscan Leather (no mean feat in itself), 8.5 is a thick, rich, musky scent that lingers with its sexy sillage, announcing itself not subtly, but with a big, bold, crotch-in-your-face stance perfectly befitting its aggressive nature. It’s not a scent for the squeamish or prurient. Like its creator, 8.5 is impossible to ignore, a ‘concocktion’ that seems to originate not only in the listed ingredients of Black leather and Earthly cedars, but from something more primal ~ a place deep within the nether regions, where the darkest, most wild desires are hidden, waiting for release. It’s an entrancing and impressive entry into the fragrance world, perfectly capturing the grit and glamour of New York City night-life.
Mr. Camp has made a career of surprise, of staying one step ahead of where the world thinks he should be. This latest endeavor is no exception, combining the dark sensuality he naturally exudes, with the playful, sexy side his fans have always embraced. And if you’ve ever wanted to get an up-close-and-personal whiff of Mr. Camp himself, this may be the best way to do it.
May
2013
A Ginkgo Grows in Albany
Though the feature photograph here was actually taken in Boston a few weeks ago, I’ve noticed that several ginkgo trees have been planted on Broadway in downtown Albany this spring. It makes me quite happy, as the ginkgo is one of my favorite trees. I’d have one myself if we had the space, but these can grow into some pretty big specimens, albeit rather slowly.
Their ruffled, fan-shaped leaves always looks fresh, especially when they first emerge in the spring, after which they slowly ripen into a deep green with a silvery underside. Fall color is a bright yellow, resplendent in the sun of September and October. They are one of the oldest trees we have here, said to date back to prehistoric times. That kind of perseverance is admirable, and those survival instincts are impressive.
May
2013
Rainy Morning Recap
Curious thing, my feelings on rain. Initially, and upon first storm, I carry on and flail wildly against it, ranting and raving like a water-allergic maniac. I throw a fit and a tantrum and bring the world down around me. Then it’s over. And if the rain persists, I come to appreciate it, almost embracing its calming effect on the world, how it can be a source of succor in a dry, arid dustbowl of a spring or summer. Once I become accustomed to it for a few days, I can make my peace, give it a nod, and walk side by side with it, umbrella and Burberry in hand. Anyway, onto the week in review, which was largely a sunny one.
The scent of spring 2013 was found in a little orange bag on Boylston Street.
A quiet little project continues its under-the-radar flight.
The beauty of art and friendship in a single piece of pottery.
A big fat Super Why? Well, why not…
Cocktail time: The Aviation, and a lemon twist on the classic gin & tonic.
Greenery provided by the following: the ostrich fern and sweet woodruff.
I was slightly obsessed with Anne Murray. Could I have this dance?Â
The lusty month of May continued to provide interesting fodder for the Hunk of the Day, with the smorgasbord-like collection of Ryan Seacrest, naked Superman Henry Cavill, and Tom Hopper, buffered by a retiring David Beckham.
May
2013
A Peeping Tom In Our Bedroom
This little guy or gal was caught digging in my hydrangeas outside the bedroom window. I knocked on the pane loudly to scare him/her off, to no avail. In fact, the bold beast turned around and promptly lifted its tufted butt and shook it brazenly in my direction. I opened the window and hissed, and it climbed to the top of the fence post and stared me down. Cheeky thing. My hat is tipped to any creature with the balls to defy me in my own bedroom.
That’s one saucy squirrel.
May
2013
Could I Have This Dance?
Maybe it was the fact that I just watched ‘Brokeback Mountain’ again and have sad country songs running through my head, or maybe it was the memories of piano lessons coming back to haunt me, but this song popped into my head the other night, took up residence, and refused to let go. The only way to exorcise something of this dire ilk is to work through it in words.
It was one of the first ‘pop’ songs I learned on the piano, after graduating through the rudimentary building blocks of ‘Porcupines have prickly quills/ don’t go near their favorite hills/ if you go you’ll have bad luck/ cause you surely will get stuck.’ Compared to that, this was practically Beethoven.
I’ll always remember the song they were playing the first time we danced, and I knew
As we swayed to the music and held to each other, I fell I love with you
Could I have this dance for the rest of my life?
Would you be my partner every night?
When we’re together it feels so right,
Could I have this dance for the rest of my life?
I could only have been nine or ten years old, and could not have known the kind of promise a lifetime together meant. I could not have known romance, I could have only barely known longing, and the childhood innocence in which I was so blissfully unaware protected and shielded me from the precipice of pain that such a romantic love precariously perches upon.
I’ll always remember that magic moment when I held you close to me
As we moved together I knew forever, you’re all I’ll ever need.
Could I have this dance for the rest of my life?
Would you be my partner every night?
When we’re together it feels so right,
Could I have this dance for the rest of my life?
All I knew was the melancholic undertone of the music, the way love seemed somehow always tinged with sadness, and that if it wasn’t hard, if there weren’t obstacles, then something was wrong, something was missing. It was written then, before I even knew what romance was, that love would prove a difficult thing. But I also knew, deep down inside, that I wouldn’t have it any other way, and it would always be worth the heartache, worth the longing, worth the pain. Because on certain nights, there would be a dance like this, and as long as we had that dance, the world would be bearable.