The Holiday Stroll 2013: Part 2

The day dawned bright and sunny. Kira and I slept in no later than usual, padding out to the kitchen by nine o’clock, and sipping on some Spicy Ginger tea. Only a bit of shortbread made up the rest of our morning meal, so full were we from the night before. Groggily, we recounted the previous evening’s chow-down, and vowed to order less the next time around. But it was worth it, we agreed. It’s always worth it with a friend.

I presented my loose itinerary to her, with a few of the requisite stops to find some holiday gifts (I realized I still had some gift-buying to do for my family and friends). After walking through the Prudential Center and Copley Place, we turned up Boylston and found things for the twins and my boss, at Marshall’s and Nordstrom Rack. (Hey, if you can’t get economical with a three-year-old, how can you save anything at all?) After that, we walked through the Boston Public Garden, whereupon we met up with this fuzzy fellow and his compatriots, flirtatiously jumping about our legs hoping for a treat to drop from our hands. There were no treats to be had today, but he posed for this photo anyway.

Exiting the Garden, we walked along Charles Street, peering into the antique shops, and almost falling prey to a Christmas-tree-adorned pair of bright red corduroys, before I realized that I just couldn’t get my head around corduroy (or its accompanying $198 price tag ~ poor-man’s-velvet my ass). We were both getting a little peckish at this point, but before heading to a Thai place I had in mind, we made a slight across-the-street detour to The Liberty Hotel, and their whimsical upside-down Christmas tree presentation.

 

We’d first stopped here on an earlier Holiday Stroll – quite by accident, when our feet wouldn’t take us any further. The best place for a brief respite is a hotel lounge. When it happens to be a hotel as elegant and interesting as the Liberty (a former prison), that makes it all the more merry – as did their weekend Bloody Mary bar, which came with all the fixings and then some (I saw ingredients I’d never have thought to invest in a Bloody). Though it was after noon, I passed on a drink (despite those pesky rumors of alcoholism, and the wonderful set-up before our eyes).

Instead, we took off our coats, found a pair of winged arm-chairs, and settled in for a chat and some ogling of what looked to be several hockey players. Unfortunately, I couldn’t pick out a Boston Bruin from a ceiling fan, so I can’t verify who anyone was, and my text to my brother didn’t reach him in time.

After a few minutes of relaxing, and an indulgent bathroom stop to wash my hands with their Molton Brown Thai Vert soap, we headed back out, turning in the direction of Government Center. There used to be a Thai restaurant along the way near the foot of the street where I first kissed a man, but it was no longer around. Disappointed (I was fiending for some Pad Thai, and so was Kira) we changed tactics, hoping for some fish-and-chips or raw oysters at the Union Oyster House. As always, it was too crowded, so we fought the crowds at Faneuil Hall and made our way to the waterfront, where The Chart House stood, and which we figured would be decidedly less busy. The journey was riddled with holiday cheer, however, and it’s impossible to be too angry or annoyed with people when they seem so happy over the season, the holiday decorations, and the sunny day. I listened and smiled as strangers wondered at the enormous tree before us.

After lunch, we braved the more treacherous crowds of Downtown Crossing to find my Mom a gift at Macy’s, which we managed just as the crowds were surging. We found a cashier and finished up before the lines suddenly appeared. The day was dimming. I was undecided about taking the T back or walking, but Kira suggested the walk, so we went along Boston Common, and the beginning of the Freedom Trail, stopping to see the skaters on what I think is called Frog Pond.

While you’ll never get me on a pair of ice skates, I loved watching the people whiz by (or barely stumble by, depending on skill level). It was the perfect holiday postcard, a cross between Currier & Ives and Norman Rockwell, and as bitter as you all want to believe I am, I still get happy at the holidays because of scenes like this.

We did not stay long. The evening was approaching, and the temperatures were dropping. A rough wind picked up a bit before our final stages of this year’s stroll, and we meandered along a few Newbury Street shops as the sun went down behind the city. By the time we reached the condo, it was dark. We sat for a bit recounting the day’s events, considering it a tradition worth carrying on. I walked Kira to the T station and hugged her good-bye.

 

That night, I crawl into bed alone, thinking of what great, good fortune it is to have friends like Kira in my life. I’m far from a perfect son, I’m far from a perfect husband, I’m far from a perfect person, but I am a good friend. And my friends – the good ones – have become my family. Sometimes that’s what you need to do to survive, to stay warm in a world that can too often be cold and cutting. We can choose our family – they’re the people we decide to surround ourselves with, the ones who are there for everything and who love us unconditionally. That kind of love never wavers, never fades no matter what mistakes you make, never dims no matter who you become and no matter how less-than-perfect you are. Thank you, Kira, for a wonderful weekend. I’m already looking forward to next year – and maybe by that time our stroll will begin in my own backyard.

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The Holiday Stroll 2013: Part 1

It was dark by the time we started out. Dusk falls quickly at this time of the year, and when Kira arrived at the condo the sun had been gone for several hours. Our holiday stroll weekend had begun, and we settled in for a brief warm-up before heading out. Since arriving earlier in the day, I’d had the heat up, and now it was toasty and warm and perfect for the encroachment of colder temperatures. We caught up quickly, going over the travails of Thanksgiving, then bundled back up for a walk to dinner.

For one of the first times, I didn’t have a dinner plan. There were no reservations, and no general notion of what to eat, but we headed out onto Tremont Street, walking towards Downtown. The wind whipped around us, and we shuffled hurriedly to generate some warmth. We turned in the direction of Chinatown. Suddenly hot tea and Peking duck seemed the right way to go (as per these happy memories). For the latter, we decided to try the place we’d eaten at a couple of summers ago.

It was still open at the ten o’clock hour, and rather unpopulated (the way I like things), and we sat down in a corner booth to a pot of tea. I contemplated asking for a beer (a friend said that a beer was actually the best thing to cool off hot, spicy food), but since I wasn’t planning on going too spicy tonight, I settled for the tea and water. (Strange behavior for an alcoholic, I know.)

We ordered the Peking duck and a pork dish, and, since my eyes are always bigger than my stomach, some steamed dumplings. Kira could take it all home the next day if there were leftovers (and there would be – lots). The tea warmed us instantly, as much inside as it did cradled in our cupped hands. The dumplings arrived first, more drops of savory warmth into our stomachs. The chill of the night was a dim memory.

By the time the duck arrived, we were giddy with anticipation, and the giddiness turned to delight as we assembled the Mandarin pancakes, the filigrees of green onions, and the hoisin sauce. There’s nothing that a little Peking duck can’t fix, or a dear friend. Stuffed and elated, we sat at the table remembering things past, and then it was time to depart. The next day was our Holiday Stroll. I just hoped it wouldn’t be cold enough for a bunny suit.

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Tom Daley is Dating A Guy

Holy shit.

Yes, Tom Daley, as he explains in this intimate and moving video, is dating a guy.

Though he says he still fancies girls, he had found a guy who makes him feel “so happy, and safe, and everything just feels great”.

That’s love.

“Right now I’m dating a guy, and I couldn’t be happier.” ~ Tom Daley

There are lots of questions left – is he gay? – but for now, I say congrats, and wish him well.

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A Recap & A New Month

The kitchen renovation has been delayed a week (more on that later – much more), so we’re in a holding pattern. Yet things here must go on, so I’m populating the posts for the week ahead and doing what I always do in the name of survival. There are people that count on the daily dosage of soft gay porn that this site supposedly provides, so let’s get to it. There will be deeper things too, stories you wouldn’t even believe so I may just document them under fiction and avoid sticky questions. For now, the typical Monday look back.

It’s always best to begin with a poem.

If anyone knows anything about male grooming, it’s Tom Ford.

And if anyone doesn’t need much grooming, it’s a toss-up among the Hunks of the Day: Alexander Ludwig, Ashley Gibson, and Nathan Owens.

A tentative plan ended up playing out perfectly, but I’ll detail that in a later post.

Thanksgiving came and went…

And December reared its questionable head.

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A Thanksgiving with the Twins

And the food…

Little Princess and Brave Eagle.

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Ghosts of Decembers Past

The calendar is giving a rather rude wake-up call this morning, as it changes all-too-soon into December. The month of Christmas. The end of the year. The shortest and darkest day. All of that and more marks December. This year is a little different, for a number of reasons, but before we go too far off the beaten path, here’s a look back at a few December posts that came before.

Sleigh bells ring, are you listening?

The last time I would ever sing for them.

I still love these pants. They make me feel like an elf.

The Christmas DJ, spinning it right round.

This brotherly tradition began in Amsterdam, NY.

A favorite decoration, rustic and true.

Let’s have a holiday party!

A magical entry for a door that soon won’t be there anymore.

Driving Miss Daisy.

Tipping my top hat.

A car full of love.

Come on baby, light my fire.

Porny, horny Santas, dancing.

Christmas is for the kids.

Some December days are foggy.

And some are made cozy with fire.

This Christmas Tree will have to serve for this year too.

My family jewels.

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Everywhere, Art

Art in Washington, DC is not confined to the National Art Gallery. In fact, in most places that’s the case. One just has to be aware and open to the surroundings. A subway station. An electrical box. A garbage can. An underpass. An alley. All can become little make-shift galleries, thanks to law-bending artistic citizens.

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Red Room, Red Room

Sexier pics from this shoot can be found HERE. Go on and click it. You know you want to.

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A Holiday Stroll

Last year, at around this time, Kira and I made our second holiday stroll, whereby we dedicate a day to a leisurely walk through a holiday-bedecked Boston without any definite plan or holiday shopping to-do list. We might take a peek into the antique-laden rooms of Charles Street, buy wool gloves from a Tibetan store to keep out the cold, or take in a lunch of dim sum in Chinatown. We might stop at Jacques for a drink with a drag queen or warm ourselves by the fireside of Cuffs. We may parade past the towering tree at Faneuil Hall and then its smaller sister at Copley Place, then find our way back to the condo for a candle-lit night-cap.

There is no rhyme or reason to the path we take, or the stops we make. We travel by wish and whim (which leads us to transitory treats, like the pop-up market we found last year at Downtown Crossing), guided by the shifting light of the day, or forced indoors by an unyielding wind.

This weekend tentatively marks our third year of carrying on this tradition. Beginning at The Liberty hotel, I’m not sure where the day and night will take us – I only know that it will be filled with the warmth of a dear friend, the good sentiment of the season, and the luxury of being in my favorite city at this most wonderful time of the year.

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Imminent Destruction

 Next week marks the official start to our long-awaited kitchen renovation. I think it deserves its own category, but for now we’ll lump it into the Home Design section. (At least until I can bring myself to create a ‘Disaster’ category.) Trust me, I’m just as frightened of this whole situation as you are – probably more-so, but the end result will hopefully justify a few weeks (months?) of inconvenience. (Please God let it be so.)

In anticipatory preparation, I’ve set in place a few escape plans should this prove to be too much stress, too much disruption, or too much dust. As Andy seems unconcerned by things (with a blind faith that it will be done on time and on budget, despite my admonitions and pleas for a buffer zone on both accounts), I’ve not included him on these, though he’s always welcome join.

Option #1: Boston. And this is really where I intend to be on weekends and days off, as much as possible. When we lost heat for three days a few winters ago, after a tree came through our roof, I high-tailed it to the condo and had heat and hot water and a warm respite. This construction will prove no different.

Option #2: Amsterdam. Despite the encroachment of the twins, and my brother’s increasing destruction of my bathroom, I’ll still lay claim to my childhood bedroom (even if I won’t be living there full-time like him). It would also be nice to be home again at holiday time.

Option #3: Your place. Yes, that’s right, you. And you know who I’m talking to. If you’ve been to my home for the weekend you owe me. Payback’s a bitch. And so is your new guest. Roll out the red carpet, stock the bar, and pray for it to be quick.

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Happy Thanksgiving

A lot of complaining goes on here. A bit of whining. Some negative commenting, some cutting quips, some hateful attitude. Hey, it’s my blog and I’ll bitch if I want to. But some days should be free from such nonsense, and today is one of those days. I shall refrain from bitching about the Crocs and the Uggs and the Vera Bradley and focus on all those things for which I am thankful.

First and foremost is my family ~ Andy, Mom, Dad, Paul, and Emi & Noah. Without them, I’d be lost, and any sense of loyalty, goodness, and honor I owe in large part to my parents and how I was raised.

Second, but just as important, are my lifelong friends – the ones who have been around for most of my adult life (and some even longer) ~ Suzie, Chris, JoAnn, Missy & Kira. They had taught me to be to be kind, and sensitive, and aware that not everyone is as lucky as me.

Third, yes – I am thankful for my Tom Ford Private Blend collection. Sue me.

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The Poet With His Face in His Hands

You want to cry aloud for your

mistakes. But to tell the truth the world

doesn’t need any more of that sound.

 

So if you’re going to do it and can’t

stop yourself, if your pretty mouth can’t

hold it in, at least go by yourself across

 

the forty fields and the forty dark inclines

of rocks and water to the place where

the falls are flinging out their white sheets

 

like crazy, and there is a cave behind all that

jubilation and water-fun and you can

stand there, under it, and roar all you

 

want and nothing will be disturbed; you can

drip with despair all afternoon and still,

on a green branch, its wings just lightly touched

 

by the passing foil of the water, the thrush,

puffing out its spotted breast, will sing

of the perfect, stone-hard beauty of everything.

 

~ Mary Oliver

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This Guy Can Groom Me Anytime

Tom Ford.

[Sigh.]

Is there anything this man sells that I don’t want to buy? I’d put a down payment of my life’s savings on a burning building if he asked. Luckily, no such product exists at the moment, so I can safely make-do with his new line of men’s grooming products. As high-maintenance as some might think me to be, the truth is I’m rather easy in the shower. Shampoo, soap, and a little Neutrogena for my face and I’m good to go. No elaborate moisturizer routine, no special facial mask, no delicate eye serum – the only indulgence (and, granted, it’s a big one) is fragrance. But now Mr. Ford is releasing his line of skin care products for men and suddenly it’s all I can think about.

Truth be told, unless Santa works his magic and works it quickly, I’m probably not going to get anything featured here, particularly if the price points are aligned with those of his fragrances. But I’ll definitely be browsing. Perusing. Contemplating. And imagining a better world than Dove soap.

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Monday Laugh

It’s not a real book but it should be.

(I especially like her previous work.)

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Frigid Monday Recap

Hello winter weather, and thar she blows! The wind was whipping up something fierce last night, and… hold up, why am I talking like someone on ‘Hee Haw’? It must be the onslaught of holiday insanity, arriving just in time. This is the week of Thanksgiving – there’s no pretending we’re not in the season anymore, so rather than fight it, I’m embracing it, as I always try to do (and often fail). It’s a different sort of year, given that our kitchen will be (literally) tore up from the floor up starting next week (that’s right – next week – and I’m just as interested in you as to how the kitchen will be emptied by that time). On with the recap!

Warning: Graphic images!

Some fierce fun with Kira, with whom I could let my hair down (no word on whether my pants followed suit).

Update: my pants came down.

Washington loved this coat.

Henry Cavill worked it all out. Shirtlessly, of course.

Steve Grand worked it shirtlessly too.

Chord Overstreet… yup, shirtless.

Jon Varak simply bulged.

Give it up for a naked Liev Schreiber too.

I covered back up with the most important outfit of the year. And here’s a better view.

There’s something about a red room.

For all those who have wanted to make me cry, here’s the no-longer-secret way.

But there’s always a thing or two of beauty to act as balm for the soul.

Finally, my favorite holiday tradition is intact, and Andy and I saw this on the big screen in Saratoga for the first time ever, followed by a frigid and wind-whipped stroll on Broadway after the show.

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