Just Another Manic Monday

The first time I heard this song I must have been in fourth or fifth grade, and I knew little to nothing about what a real ‘Manic Monday’ felt like. Still, no kid liked Mondays, so we had our own connections to this anti-work diatribe and weariness-of-life pop song. In the grand tradition of ‘9 to 5’, it listed the hardships of facing the start of another work week, the set-backs that seemed to compound one another, and the wish for a rewind to a more pleasant Sunday-fun-day state. Whenever I get down about Mondays, it helps to think that most of us are in the same boat, struggling in our own way to begin the day.

Back in grade school, my concerns were whether or not my math homework was done, or if my plastic pencils were running out of lead capsules, or whether Joey would make me laugh so hard I’d get in trouble with the teacher again. That’s the kind of Manic Monday I long for now. If I could do it all over again, I totally would.

Incidentally, the album from which ‘Manic Monday’ originated – ‘Different Light’ by the Bangles – was the first full record I ever got. (Not counting Muppet Movie soundtracks or ‘The Magic Garden’ LP or other kids’ stuff.) I wore the record out, listening to these four ladies harmonize and rock out. They came to me at about the time Madonna did, and for that reason I’ll always hold them close to my heart. They offered the escapism of a pop song, the shared longing for the weekend, and aural inspiration to get through it all until Friday arrived again. Like spring, it will always come.

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Further Sunday Sustenance

To go along with the curry meatballs, I wanted something light and cool to temper the spice and heat of the meat, so I came up with this rather plain side dish of rice noodles. It was simple enough – much of the work was simply slicing and dicing, lopping and chopping (which can be just as tedious as mini-meatball-making,) but there is something peaceful about the process.

As is often the case, I took a number of online recipes and pulled the best bits of each, settling on this rather rough mix of fresh veggies and herbs. While the rice noodles were cooking I started with thin matchsticks of carrots and cucumbers.

(The thin rice noodles I used were done in a fast five minutes, at which point I drained them and rinsed them with cold water to stop the cooking and chill them a bit.)

Then I chopped up some scallions and fresh mint to add a bit of flavor. I eschewed the use of salt for this dish, aiming to be a little healthier.

Once the noodles were drained, I drizzled the smallest amount of vegetable oil over them so they wouldn’t stick together, and an even smaller drop or two of sesame oil for a hint of additional flavor.

To the noodles, I added the vegetables and herbs and tossed them all together. They chilled in the refrigerator for an hour or so, then I tossed them again before serving.

Along with the meatballs, they made up a delicious lunch. (And several snacks throughout the next few days.)

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Rolling Balls (It Ain’t the Meat, It’s the Motion)

When planning a light lunch for a visit with the twins, I decided to go for a twist on spaghetti and meatballs. Since noodles actually originated in China, an Asian aspect made perfect sense, so I tried my hand at a Panaeng Curry Meatball dish, served with a side of rice noodles and fresh herbs (coming up later). Andy has always made the meatballs in our family, but I’m learning how to do things on my own, so he had no hand in prepping these (other than setting up the mixer and explaining how I needed to remove the strings of fat that were left on the paddle).

These pungent little balls (I opted for appetizer size, much to my later chagrin) were bursting with flavor, thanks to the influx of fresh cilantro and lemon grass. Some garlic, fresh ginger, and red curry paste rounded out the taste burst, and a handful of panko bread crumbs added texture to the ground beef.

An egg bound it all together and then it was time to begin rolling the balls. This was definitely the most tedious part. It was simple enough to do – all those years of Play Doh paid off, but the amount of balls that came from 2 pounds of meat was, well, substantial. It seemed the assembly line would never end, but I kept at it, whittling away at the block of beef until it was a neatly-formed army of mini-meatballs, ready for simmering.

At this point in the recipe, you could bake the meatballs for use at a later time, or plop them directly into the sauce if they are to be served immediately. I opted for the latter. (Any chance to eliminate a step, particularly an oven step, and I am on board.) The sauce was a heavenly mix of coconut milk, fish sauce, brown sugar, more red curry paste, Kaffir lime leaves (chopped finely), and fresh basil. It simmered while I rolled the meatballs, and was ready to receive them when at last they were done.

The finished product was better than I could have hoped. Every once in a while I can be a whiz in the kitchen, and this was one of those times. The meatballs were busting with the riot of flavor that their ingredients promised. Just spicy enough to keep the tongue excited, but grounded with the earthiness of the beef and breadcrumbs to keep things on an even keel. I topped it off with a sprinkling of fresh cilantro, and we were ready to eat.

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The Great & The Gratuitous in Male Nudity

Shirtless and naked male celebrities get a lot of attention here, and this Saturday post, designed for my time in Boston, will do nothing to curb the sexy shirtless appeal for which many of you visit this site. It’s time for a brief look back at some classic guys who have garnered rave reviews whenever they doff their shirts. While no one is nude just yet (wait for it…) these guys are too hot not to feature again.

First up is David Beckham, who models the latest in his underwear line for H&M. While I’m not a huge fan of the clothing, I like the way he sells it. Far lesser stars would never have shown themselves in the briefs that Mr. Beckham braves, and far bigger stars wouldn’t have the balls either. Beckham beats both quite handily.

(On a side-note, one can’t mention Mr. Beckham without mentioning his only competition for sexiest underwear-shucker ~ Ben Cohen.

Or Mario Lopez.

Or Cristiano Ronaldo.

Or Rafael Nadal.

Another favorite shirtless male who’s not afraid to get a little naked now and then is Chris Evans. As the Captain of our country, Mr. Evans fights for truth and freedom and the right to take off his shorts and jump in Boston Harbor. (We may not utilize all of our rights, but I’m glad they’re there.)

More recently, Dan Osborne has been seen here in his altogether, in several breathtaking GIFs and also chumming it up with fellow Speedo-clad diver Tom Daley. (Whom you’ve seen here over and over again.) Mr. Osborne is no stranger to male nudity, and he seems to be the kind of 21st century guy who embraces the glances of men and women alike. Desire is desire, and flattery is flattery. And when you’ve got a body like that, well, you can embrace it all.

Last but most certainly not least is Joe Manganiello. He battled Channing Tatum for the best butt and the result was a virtual draw. (We need to see them again.) Some battles are better when there’s no Victor. Or Victor.

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The 32nd Floor

When we were kids, we used to stay at the Copley Marriott in Boston with my Mom. Sometimes Gram would join us, sometimes it would just be my brother and myself. Back then (this was the late 80’s and early 90’s), the elevators of each floor were situated around a large window that looked out onto the Charles River. (On the 4th of July, locals and hotel guests alike would station themselves at these windows to get the perfect view of the fireworks – yes, I did that one year before word seemed to get out.)

High above the city, the view of Boston always thrilled me. I felt its magic and pull, and envisioned a day when I’d be out on my own, exploring the city and reveling in its romantic twilight. It was a glimmer of independence, coupled with the safety of having a hotel room to which I could return at the end of the day. The crux of adolescence and childhood, and the bit of freedom afforded us walking through Copley Place without parental guidance was exhilarating. (We were allowed to stay out late and walk around the mall, as it was attached to the hotel.)

A few weeks ago, I was walking through the Marriott and on a whim took the elevator to one of the upper floors. I looked out to this view again, remembered when the world was filled with possibility, and felt the same expansive thrill. This weekend I’m in Boston, and feeling the magic all over again.

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Yet Another Naked Dan Osborne Post

You may be getting sick of Dan Osborne baring his male nudity here, but if you’re not, you’ve come to the right post. This one features the posterior of Mr. Osborne, which previous GIFs only hinted at. Who knew when he was named Hunk of the Day back in last October or prancing around as a shirtless Santa that he’d practically demand a category all to himself, a la David Beckham, Ben Cohen, Madonna, Tom Daley, and Tom Ford? Well, I supposed this naked post gave some indication of the Speedo splash he was about to make

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A Not-So-Lonely Grapefruit

At Brandeis, I used to eat breakfast alone. I tended to favor earlier courses – the first ones that others eschewed – not only to avoid the crowds, but also to get things out of the way for forays into Boston, or the simple luxury of free time in the afternoon. That meant I had to get to the cafeteria right when it opened if I was to make it to my first class on time. It was nice – there were no lines, no shouting students, no running out of Lucky Charms (not that I ate that nonsense). No, I was on my first health kick then, and I only had a grapefruit and some granola and an orange juice for breakfast. Occasionally, if I allowed myself a splurge, I’d take a twisted danish, wound with swirls of cinnamon and topped with a few ribbons of sugary drizzle.

It was an austere beginning to the day, but I was very disciplined. It was within my meal plan budget, it gave me enough fuel until I returned for a lunch-time sandwich (usually turkey and lettuce on a hard roll), and I could focus on the intricate task of carving out each section of grapefruit with my spoon.

Some opened up willingly, easily parting from their skin and membrane. Others put up a fight, and I would end up with their sticky blood on my hands, and sometimes more, when they decided to be extra difficult. It was good though – a nice start to making it through whatever the day had to offer. I especially savored the grapefruit at this time of the year, when the unyielding parade of snowstorms sapped the spirit and drained any remaining good-will. In the pink pucker of their orbs, I dreamed of a Southern sun, envisioning the groves where they came from, seeing the glossy green foliage thick and dark, waving lightly in the tropical breeze.

And then I’d return to the present moment, thumbing through the Living/Arts section of USA Today, ending with the weather map, hoping for more red and less blue. The half-shell of my grapefruit sat empty. I folded the paper in half. Another winter morning was passing.

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Chris Salvatore’s Underwear Line

David Beckham has done it.

Ben Cohen has done it.

Mario Lopez has done it.

Even Todd Sanfield has done it.

But the best news of all may be that Chris Salvatore is now doing it.

How did news that he was making a foray into designing Men’s Underwear escape me? I’ve got to get out more. The first I heard of this exiting endeavor was on my FaceBook feed – and it was the loveliest surprise I’ve had since Dan Osborne joined Tom Daley in a Speedo. Mr. Salvatore’s line of underwear looks intriguing, and stylish, which should come as no surprise from someone who’s made the modeling rounds within his entertainment career. He keeps things simple enough, which is the best way to begin, and I’m looking forward to trying out the goods. If they make me look half as good as he does, I’ll be a fan for life.

I can think of no one who is better suited to fit into a pair of briefs and sell it to the world. That Mr. Salvatore has always seemed like such a sweet guy makes it all the more enjoyable. (Check out some of the musical performances that feature just him and his keyboard and tell me it’s not adorable. The man’s got talent.) Even more impressive is his openly-gay status in a Hollyworld of secrets and pretend. Mr. Salvatore lives his life honestly, and is all the more effective because of it. Now he’s revealing another layer – the underlayer – and it’s fashionable, fun, flirtatious, and sexy – just like the man himself.

“Underwear is the foundation of our entire wardrobe. While it may be the least ‘visible’ article of clothing we wear everyday, I’ve always believed that it should be the most comfortable. My career has afforded me the opportunity to wear a lot of great clothes and work with some awesome clothing and costume designers over the years. I began to learn that the clothes don’t make the man, the man makes the clothes. It’s all about what makes you feel sexy and confident in your own skin, and it starts with a great pair of underwear!”  ~ Chris Salvatore Underwear

 

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We Go Deep

People who attain self-actualization reestablish their connectedness to the non-local mind. They have no desire to manipulate and control others. They are independent of criticism and also of flattery. They feel beneath no one, but they also feel superior to no one. They are in touch with the internal reference point that is their soul, and not their ego. Anxiety is no longer an issue, because anxiety comes from the ego’s need to protect itself. And that anxiety is what interferes with the spontaneity of intent. Intent is the mechanics through which spirit transforms itself into material reality.

Mature spirituality requires sobriety of awareness. If you are sober, you are responsive to feedback but at the same time immune to criticism and flattery. You learn to let go and you do not worry about the result. You have confidence in the outcome, and you start to see the synchronicity that is always organized around you. Intention provides opportunities that you have to be alert to. Good luck is opportunity and preparedness coming together. Intention will provide you opportunities, but you still need to act when the opportunity is provided.

~ Deepak Chopra

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Lights of My Life

No matter what else may be going on in my life, there are two people who always make it all better, and they’re only three years old: my niece and nephew. Emi and Noah came to visit this past weekend, bringing light, laughter, and love into our home. After a lunch of curry meatballs and rice noodles (a twist on spaghetti and meatballs), they asked to go downstairs and play. There is a pool table and television, along with an expansive length of carpet fit for chasing and running the entire length of the house. After making a few rounds through the space, Uncle Al plopped down on the couch and turned on the lazy babysitter, searching for a movie fit for the three-year-old set.

‘Harriet the Spy’ was a possibility, ‘Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets’ was nixed, and ‘Ice Age’ was requested but never found. We settled briefly on ‘Legend’ per the twins’ request – which would have terrified me as a child (I still have nightmares of ‘The Dark Crystal’) but in the end what was on television mattered less than the three of us cuddling on the couch.

Emi fussed with the heavy blanket and said, ‘Let’s get closer together,’ pulling the blanket up to her chin. Noah giggled and burrowed closer to his sister. I sat there, slightly puzzled at how such a simple gesture – just being close to someone – could be so comforting for a child. And for whatever reason, tears came suddenly and unexpectedly to my eyes. It had been so long since someone wanted to be close to me.

I thought of how safe it felt. Maybe this was why people loved children so much – they made them feel safer, brought them back to the protective cocoon of childhood.

The notion of watching G-rated movies with a couple of kids may be an average night for most families, but for me it was a novelty, a moment of respite from the darkness of so much of adult life. With other things in flux and in danger, the act of cuddling on the couch is a thing of surety. There are few things in this life of which we can be certain, and they seem to be dwindling the older I get, but of this tiny pocket of time I could be assured.

As their Dad made motions for them to leave, Emi asked if they could stay longer.

“How long?” my brother asked.

She thought about it for a second then said, “Two hours!”

They settled on five more minutes.

It was the best five minutes I’ve had in a long time.

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Creamy Smooth

Every once in a while I get on a smoothie kick, at least until the drudgery of cleaning out the blender takes the fun away. For this simple version, I followed a recipe in a new cookbook I found, which focuses on fresh and simple ingredients. It’s a blueberry-pomegranate smoothie, and is quick and simple enough to do for breakfast or a healthy dessert.

It starts with one ripe banana (I like mine exceedingly ripe, with a few bits just beginning to brown.) A handful of fresh blueberries (the recipe calls for frozen, but if at all possible I like the fresh). To retain the coolness and consistency of the frozen aspect, I added a few ice cubes. To this I poured about half a cup of pomegranate juice and drizzled in a good tablespoon or two of honey.

Blend until smooth, then add about a cup of plain yogurt and blend again. Pour and serve immediately. It turns into this pretty purple color, and is chock-full of antioxidants. It’s not too sweet, which is good.

(I can only stomach one Shirley Temple a year.)

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Cooking for Comfort

Whenever I find myself in trouble – emotionally speaking – I tend to do something that gives me a sense of control. When my heart breaks or my world falls apart, I cling to the simple tasks that I can master and see through. Whether it’s washing the dishes or cleaning the house or cooking a meal, it’s a questionable embracing of mundane tasks that I wholeheartedly perform in a sort of act of penance. It’s a way of beginning the healing process, and getting over things. It’s also a reminder that if it came down to it I could take care of myself, as I’ve done in the past.

In the frozen January of 1998, I found myself in such dire straits, nursing a wounded heart, and facing a terrifying loneliness.  Staying with the sister of a friend, in a strange city where trouble found me no matter how good I tried to be, I stood in the kitchen and watched as she prepared her family’s pepperoni sauce. On the verge of tears, I held onto the counter and willed the salty water away. Gina assembled the ingredients, dropping a bit of olive oil into a pan and chopping the pepperoni. I asked her to teach me. I wanted to be busy, to occupy my head with something – anything – else.

She added the pepperoni to the pan, along with some garlic. Soon it sizzled and spat and filled the kitchen with a delicious scent. We opened two large cans of crushed tomatoes, and a small can of tomato paste, stirring them into the pan. A mixture of Italian seasoning, some salt and pepper, a bit of sugar, and a cup of water completed the recipe. Then it was time to let it cook down, when the real magic happened, as the sauce thickened over a couple of hours. That was the big realization for me. It could not be rushed if it was going to be good.

As quickly as I wanted the pain to subside, as fast as I wanted the hurt to limp away, there was no way out but by going through. One couldn’t make it boil quicker or thicken instantly – these things took time, and they would not be hurried. The heart was the same way. To this day, I find comfort in the cooking of dishes like this – the ones that need hours of simmering – hours in which to contemplate, or to clear the mind.

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Classic Shots: 70’s Porn

While not as bad as my pornstache moment (it’s coming back, suckers), this look was all about the slinky polyester shirt straight from the 70’s and rust-colored pants that accompany it. This Classic Shot series, from the winter of 2005, was a shoot that took place mainly in the hallway that leads to our bedroom – a haphazard whim that resulted in moody lighting and contemplative poses. In other words, it was the stuff of winter. And cheesy 70’s porn.

 

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Like A Lollipop

In honor of the newly-fallen star (and one of the rare child actors who made her life into something great) I made a Shirley Temple the other evening. A simple glass of ginger ale with a splash of grenadine, and an obnoxious Maraschino cherry – as unnaturally fire-engine red as possible – it was certainly on the sweet side of things, but the ginger cuts it just enough to make it tolerable.

Once again, the first time I had a Shirley Temple was with Suzie, at a Friendly’s as a teenager. Apparently by that point we’d outgrown Mary Poppins, but not Friendly’s or its Fribble. She was astounded that I’d never had the pink non-cocktail, so I ordered one and embarrassed myself in front of a server for about the cabillionth time.

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Butt What?

This is just a blatantly gratuitous grab-ass butt-focused post to ease us into this Monday holiday. I’ve shown my ass here numerous times (shall we count the ways? ~ one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, a big fat hen), but it’s not always as covered as it is here. So that’s refreshing, right? One shouldn’t be naked all the time. Well, maybe some should. But I’m not one of them. These photos were taken after a quick shower the last time I was in Boston. It’s much too cold for such nonsense – come back in July. Or at the earliest, June. The pool will be open by then. The weather will be warm. And the whole of summer will be in fullest bud.

Until then, hunker down and cozy up in a Henley and some twill or tweed. This winter is not yet done with us, and any glimpses of skin will be in short supply for the next few weeks. (At least, my skin.) The Hunks will continue to disrobe. The models will preen and pose. And the nude male celebrities that populate so many posts will still drop trou.

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