Florabotanica by Balenciaga

When throwing a Flower Party, the featured fragrance should be, well, floral, no matter how non-groundbreaking that may be. At the very least, the invitations should have a floral scent to them. Enter Balenciaga’s sumptuously flowery ‘Florabotanica’ -which is what I used when crafting summer invitations earlier this season.

Oddly enough, I never used to be a fan of florals for fragrance. There are exceptions, and summer is the time when they happen: I love a neroli or a bergamot for the hot days – and any sort of citrus blossom is enough to bring back sunny memories that may or may not have actually happened. The feeling it invokes is so sweet, however, that it doesn’t matter. They’ve come to exist on a memory plane that belongs solely to them.

Balenciaga created a pair of fine florals a couple of years ago, and Florabotanica spoke to me because it had a green freshness that worked to temper the sweetness of its floral focus. The literature for this fragrance is as over-the-top as the scent itself, so of course I adore it:

The astonishing FLORABOTANICA came to life in a four-hand score. The two composers are Olivier Polge and Jean-Christophe Hearault. These two internationally renowned noses have written a music of scents that play on two major accords, like a plant world within a world. The Vetiver, Amber and Caladium Leaf accord to create a resonance of mossy and mysterious dark wood. And the Rose, Carnation and Mint accord like an exhilarating note with juvenile freshness. It should be specified that we are not talking about those extremely well-known roses from the Vulgaris Rosacea family. It is a hybrid rose born of the olfactory imagination of our two orchestrators. We cannot reveal all the secrets of these two floral, alchemists, but the Experimental Rose finds its origins in opulent Turkey. To give it a fairytale air, the two perfumers have added a formula of psychosensory plants, making it particularly enchanting. This Experimental Rose has the power to endlessly charm.

This isn’t one for everyday wear in my world – it’s too potent and dramatic. (And if I’m saying that, take heed.) But it is a beauty, one that opens up like its proverbial rose inspiration, and dries down to a slightly more delicate form. It is definitely floral as fuck, and shot through with enough greenhouse dreaminess to entwine the wearer with wreaths and tendrils of jungle sweetness. A guaranteed precursor of a summer swoon to those brave enough to try it on.

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The Robe of Falling Flowers

Sometimes costume gimmicks create themselves, as was the case with this semi-home-crafted fabric-glued party ensemble that had me adhering silk flowers to a watercolor robe, only to have them slowly fall off one by one during the entire duration of a party. It worked out well enough, and I promised that something magical would happen when the last flower fell. It’s good to build anticipation, even without a payoff, as we never did reach the final flower. A bit of performance art, that lasted but a day, and all the more beautiful because of it. Hey, you gotta have a gimmick, and I’m no good at bumping it with a trumpet, so falling flowers it is.

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Tiny Threads: An Insignificant Series

Are you the kind of person who cuts all the pancakes before you start eating them, or do you cut one bite at a time? In my life, I’ve mostly been the former.

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Summer Hunk Break

Summer was made for gratuitously shirtless posts like this, featuring that now-infamous photo of a very naked Liam Payne, who has previously been a Hunk of the Day and looks to be again if this gloriously-nude session has any other shots. And here’s an underwear photo to grow on. 

The wise among us noticed Yona Knight-Wisdom a long time ago. He’s making another splash with these Speedo shots. (Watch out Tom Daley.)

All the world (at least all the world that comes to these parts of the internet) loves a ginger. Hence Greg Rutherford.

Four of my favorite things are on display in the next two photos. Count Tom Ford and underwear among them, and the rest you’ll have to sort out for yourself. Jason Momoa got some online abuse for having a perfectly sexy and supposedly Dad-like bod in recent photos. Hey, if that’s your idea of a Dad bod, I want one. Antoni Porowski modeled some Tom Ford skivvies, and I’m all in for all of it. 

A very naked Orlando Bloom practically broke this site a couple of years ago in the summer season, because apparently there is serious thirst for nude Orlando Bloom photos

A two-fer in the form of Jake Gyllenhaal and Tom Holland, making their promotional Spidey rounds and coming together in tight-butt posts like this.

Speaking of tight butts, here’s a triptych of a shirtless Zac Efron, who can be seen in even less here

 

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Tiny Threads: An Insignificant Series

Let the serrated knife do the work it was designed to do.

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Summer Song: Breathe Me by Sia

The older I get, the more difficult it is to make new memories, and most of them pale in comparison to the old ones. That’s the beauty and the tragedy of memory. One day, though, the experiences we are having now may be tinged with that rose-colored hindsight of memory and become something better than they are today. Such is the simple scene that came to mind when I played this song by Sia. I’d been playing that album as I floated in the pool for one entire summer, idly turning the pages of a book while trying not to get it wet, then pausing for a stint in the sun and some iced tea. Then I’d return to the water, awkwardly scrambling atop some cheap float that served its sole purpose for a single season.

When my mind wandered from the book to my surroundings, it would also imbue the gentle trajectory of my float’s journey around the pool with fantastical notions of cruise ships stopping at various Ports of Plants – beginning with the Japanese cherry tree, moving through the grove of arborvitae, and rounding the corner of the weeping larch. We’d pause for an excursion through the side garden, beneath the coral bark maple and the climbing hydrangea, before re-boarding and sailing past the potted angel trumpets and feathery-topped papyrus.

 The water would push us along to the next stop at the main gardens, where we would disembark for a tour of the shade border, rife with hosta in bloom, Japanese anemones in bud, and Japanese painted ferns in full splendor. A variegated Chinese dogwood still held onto a few of its creamy bracts, while its non-variegated cousins provided welcome shade beneath their handsome green canopies. In the main garden bed, an explosion of fountain grass rose to the sky, matched by the brilliance of a stand of cup plants. The latter hosted butterflies and bees in a busy flower market; one had to look closer and delve deeper to find a lavender-hued lace-cap hydrangea hidden beneath a dogwood and slightly behind the fountain grass. There were some special singe-flowered peonies there too, but they had long since passed their blooming period.

Back in the water, floating over the deep end, we would proceed to the Forest of Ostrich Ferns, which hadn’t quite decided to start their typical scorched decline just yet. A few stalks of Joe Pye weed rose above them, taking advantage of the extra water the ferns got, and the way they shielded the soil from drying out too much. A Korean lilac drifted by, or rather we drifted by the Korean lilac; once in a while it would throw out a welcome re-bloom with the fragrance that brought one back to the very beginning of the summer season. Here we were already a month solidly into it, and that gone too soon.

A stiff upright stand of zebra grass rose behind the pool ladder, then we sailed into the welcome shade of a seven sons’ flower tree, just sending out its late-season buds of sweetness. They would soon open their tiny white blossoms to the giddy intoxication of bees from all over the neighborhood, and as I returned to the spot where my cruise-float began its journey, I was relieved to think there was still much summer to come.

On another song from this album, Sia sang of a sweet potato, bringing to mind the ever-fresh chartreuse shades of the sweet potato vine. There were dark burgundy varieties that some planted to contrast with the lighter green, but I was never a fan. I wanted things to be fresh and bright always, to keep the beginning of summer and not let it deepen too much. There was enough of that on the oak leaves, already deep green and leathery, and the acorns that were forming and just beginning to fall. Ahh, that word. It’s been said. Let us not utter it again.

Back in the pool, there was more summer to be had. My cruise around its perimeter left me dizzy from a sun-baked haze. The undulating water threw shards of reflected sunlight back at my face. There was something disconcerting yet giddy about this in-between state. Between solid and liquid, between light and shadow, between sunlight and water, we rode the little waves as a song about a sweet potato played in the background – a mesmerizing siren call that left the listener doped in a sweet trippy state of aural intoxication.

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Tiny Threads: An Insignificant Series

I can never just bite my tongue once. It always has to happen twice, in the exact same spot, within minutes of the first. Does anyone else have this problem? No matter how careful I am, it still happens.

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Roger That: Stretching Into The Comfort Zone

Previously profiled here, Roger Frampton has a new stretching program available to everyone (‘The Frampton Method: The Essential Guide to Stretching’), and after exploring some of his simple stretches, I’ve found it’s unleashed a better way of living, so I’m recommending everyone give it a try. It’s amazing the transformation a consistent but easy program of stretching can provide. I’ve spent the past few months getting into the surprisingly life-changing squat, which has provided relief and re-energizing inspiration during an office work day. It’s the pose on the cover of his new book, and it has completely reinvigorated and revitalized my forty-something bones. The age of the importance of flexibility is upon me, and I’m listening to what the body needs.

Frampton offers a program that is less focused on developing vanity targets, and more about providing the framework and tools necessary to improve the quality of life. It certainly does make things much more comfortable and enjoyable, and at a time when I’m less concerned with appearance and more concerned with maintaining some semblance of health as I gear into the later years, this is of utmost importance. Of course one side effect is that your body will, as a general rule, look better when you engage with a fitness program; Frampton has already earned his Hunk of the Day crowning as evidence of this. Check out the new program here.

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Tiny Threads: An Insignificant Series

Why do so many parents take any criticism of children in general as a direct attack on their own kids? Guilt? Projection? Inferiority? Fear?

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Floral Lull

The garden moves in cycles – drifts and bounty one week, droughts and drawbacks the next – and it ebbs and flows like so much of life. If you’ve come to gardening seeking perfect satisfaction, precise schedules, and predictable outcomes, you are probably in the wrong hobby. That said, there are incredibly consistent things, even when growing seasons start in cold and wet fashion, as this spring did. Nature caught up to herself and things are generally on their usual track.

At around this time, there is usually the first of what will be several lulls in flowering sessions. We had a nice long extended first flush of floral fireworks, aided and abetted by the cool and moist weather. That soon subsided for a stretch of hot and dry days, and it’s that which brings about a floral lull. The trick to getting through it and maintaining color throughout the season (if such is your wish) is to supplement a garden with annuals or long-blooming perennials. Rudbeckia and echinacea work wonderfully for this. Our cup plants have a pretty lengthy showing as well. Hydrangeas, particularly the ones that bloom on new wood as well as old, also throw off flowers pretty regularly. These are the backbone champions that see the garden through the tough high-heat/high-sun times.

Personally, I’m grateful and appreciate these little lulls. They are a pause in the boisterous riot of color the summer season produces, a chance to ease the eyes with the sumptuousness of green before it begins to yellow and brown off. That’s why I rarely bother with annuals. I don’t need the constant cacophony of blooms to reveal the beauty of the garden. It’s there in its structure, in its leafy canopies, in the long-forming buds of the sedum or the fountain-like grace of the grasses. A summer lull is a pleasant reminder that it is, still, summer.

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Tiny Threads: An Insignificant Series

Co-worker, lecturing me: “You need to make better choices.”

Me, in response: “You are the billboard for bad choices. That brace is a bad choice.”

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Happy Cup

One of my favorite plants came into bloom last week: the cup plant. This year it’s making a grand show, thanks in part to last year’s preparation (lots of manure and water) and this year’s wet spring. I’ve also given them lots to drink as the air has gotten hotter and more dry, so they are rewarding us with enormous stalks (these rise to eight or nine feet, towering above my most strenuous reach) and a liberal sprinkling of flowers.

These are one of the happiest garden features we have, not only for the sunny disposition of their bright and cheery daisy flowers in pure yellow, but also for the neat cups their leaf axils form to collect water, allowing birds and butterflies to drink while visiting the flowers. The set-up is especially attractive to a regular crew of yellow finches, whose color mirrors that of the flower petals, eventually lending the impression that some of the blossoms themselves are detaching and taking flight. It’s a magical effect. The birds are especially fond of the seed-heads once they begin to ripen, often not waiting until they are fully formed before trying to pull them off.

I’m happy to have them take their fill ~ the minor drawback to the plant is that in location and conditions it likes, it will reseed and soon set up plants where you may not want them, so the early editing of the finches is a welcome bit of help. Based on the cup plant’s eventual immense size, it is not fit for most front-of-the-border positions, which is usually right where the seeds end up. Those are easily dispatched if caught early in their growth cycle, so it’s not very onerous ~ just requires an observant eye and some persistence. On good days I exhibit both.

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19 years… and counting

It was on this evening, exactly nineteen years ago, that I met Andy in the quaint, old-fashioned, universally-destined way that people used to meet: at a gay bar. Back then that was how things worked, and if you didn’t happen to be in the right place at the right time, you might have missed out on what was to be written in the stars. In that respect, we lucked out, and ever since then every day has brought an abundance of adventures and riches that have only gotten more wonderful as the years tick quickly by.

In many ways, we’re still the same guys from that rainy Sunday evening at Oh Bar, just hoping for some peace and happiness and someone with which to share it, yet in other respects we are decidedly different. Both older, and hopefully a bit wiser, the years have taught us about each other, and ourselves in the process. There’s no one else I would rather take this journey with, no one who could be as supportive and protective of what we’ve created together. Sometimes – most times in fact – it’s the little things of getting through the day that comprise true love. Those little things gradually build into something more, if you let them. They become a tapestry of love, a blanket made of affection and kindness, with more good-will and appreciation building upon them, until after all these years we can look back with wonder at what a beautiful life we’ve made with each other.

I’ll keep it to that this year, because some years it’s better to be quiet about things, and then we’ll begin planning for #20 in 2020…

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The Day Pier 1 Imports Refused To Sell Me A Pillow

Pier 1 Imports and I have had a long and, until the incident recounted here, relatively happy history together. We go a long way back – all the way to roomfuls of wicker furniture (and a sturdy wooden armoire that we still use in Boston) and their fashion foray into gypsy-like garments and jewelry (I still have a patchwork velvet vest from their old Porter Square location). Throughout their various focuses over the years, the one thing that they have done better than almost everyone else is their selection of pillows. Instead of having the same things that every Pottery Barn or West Elm store has, they have always maintained a unique collection. Some of the more extravagant ones tend to be pricier than many other places, but are usually worth it. They also supplement those with regular sales that have kept me coming back over the years. That all changed a few days ago.

I was in the process of revamping our guest bedroom, as two of the pillows we had on the bed were finally done, and I was on the lookout for something to match or complement the duvet, which was a difficult paisley riot of soft salmon and a green that sat infuriatingly along the lines of celery and celadon, something to which most pillows failed at doing justice. After exhausting the Marshalls and TJ Maxx and Homegoods at local disposal, I remembered Pier 1 Imports and made the very short drive around the corner to their Wolf Road location, Store #0116.

As usual, I got distracted by the displays and ended up almost taking all their summer outdoor goods home with me, then I got my focus back and headed to the wall of pillows. I knew the colors and design of the bedspread, and I knew what would work. I made several passes of the wall, and the clearance section, and just as I was about to give up, the perfect accent pillow appeared as if by magic. It was marked down to $19.98, but I would have gladly paid full price because it would work out perfectly. The colors were the muted ones of the bedspread, the cream in it was just dark enough to match the underlying background of the design, and the pattern was strong enough to stand up to the swirls of paisley, but quiet enough to blend in with muffled harmony. It was as if the pillow gods had smiled upon me for one brief shining moment. I quickly brought it to the register but it wasn’t ringing in. (I’m from the retail days when you could actually override items and key in their correct price.) Just then, the manager was coming in from the back room, and when she saw what was going on she was more than pleased to announce that if it was a redline item they wouldn’t be able to sell it to me.

Now, I worked in retail for a number of years. I know how it works. There are rules, and there are customers. When the two don’t exactly align, a good manager works with the latter to achieve satisfaction on the part of a returning entity. She was not a good manager.

“I can’t sell it because if I sell it then a notification will go out and we’ll get in trouble for selling it,” she said with a smug smile. (I’m not sure how a notification would go off when it wouldn’t even ring in, but whatever.)

“Wait, you have an item on your salesfloor that is marked with a price on it, and you can’t sell it to a customer who wants to purchase it?” I asked, more than a little incredulous, but trying to be nice because I knew how some people with a tiny amount of power tend to abuse it, particularly in the retail world.

“Sorry, it’s redlined, I can’t sell it,” she said.

“Well, why was it out on the sales-floor if you can’t sell it?” I asked, watching the pillow slowly being taken away.

“Oh, I will be dealing with that too!” she said gleefully, and with that she whisked my perfect pillow into the back room, never to be seen again.

If the policy of Pier 1 Imports is not to sell their ‘redlined’ items, I understand. But when one finds its way to the salesfloor, and you have a customer willing to pay the full price on the ticket for it, I’m shocked that they would rather bring it back to the lost land of redlined pillows instead of making a sale. Where do those pillows go now? I’m guessing I would have paid more for that pillow than whatever other fate is about to befall it, and I would have a guest bedroom that I could tell people looked so perfect because of Pier 1 Imports.

Now the world and our guest bedroom visitors will be getting a very different story.

And Pier 1 Imports just lost a loyal customer.

UPDATE #1: Shortly after this post went live, someone from Pier 1 called me (as I had also sent the abbreviated story to their e-mail contact address). The woman apologized and said that in some instances they could not sell a redline item, and she asked if I had the item number so she could check. I told her I did not, but that the manager had checked and it was definitely redlined. She then asked if she could help me find an alternative. I thanked her and said I was capable of finding another pillow from elsewhere. So, I’d give them a point for reaching out, and take away a point for not offering a viable solution to a dumb, business-losing policy. In other words, this post stands.

UPDATE #2: Well, I’ll just let you read the e-mail for yourself.

UPDATE #3: Pier 1 called again, so maybe someone finally read the e-mail, or this long-winded never-ending post, and is taking this pillow PSA seriously. The representative said she was reading over what happened and that she didn’t think they had explained things well or done enough to remedy the situation. I said I thought it was explained fully: they destroyed their redlined items. She said she wanted to go over what redlined meant and that it was for items that shouldn’t be on the sales floor due to something being hazardous or wrong with them, such as illegal use of a copyrighted image or not meeting industry standards. So that makes the company look so much better. (What would something like that be doing on the sales floor in the first place??) I asked her to follow up with whatever issue that pillow had. I mean, if it was made with uranium I want to know in the event I need a Silkwood shower. She said it was nothing like that. 

She’s sending a gift certificate in a couple of weeks. I’ll let you know how much bad publicity is worth these days when it arrives.

UPDATE #4: The gift card arrived in the rather generous amount of $50. I say that with genuine appreciation, and a healthy dose of astonishment that instead of selling me a pillow for $19.98, they’d rather send me a $50 gift card. This is why I couldn’t run a business: that kind of math doesn’t make sense to me. 

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A Hotsy-Totsy Recap

Continuing our extreme weather conjuring whenever we throw a party, this past Saturday was a scorcher in every sense of the word. Luckily we bounced guests and ourselves in between the pool and the air conditioning and all was well with the world. Let’s take a quick look back, because some of us need to get back in the pool to survive.

Ease into things with these #TinyThreads.

No teasing, just pleasing. 

A gay summer read.

A hotel in Savanah: the DeSoto.

Yes, Mercury is still in retrograde. Hold onto your hats.

Preventing the ostriches from burning

The New Project: Once Upon A Watercolor.

And a promotional interview from fantasyland: Part 1 and Part 2

The first Madonna Timeline featuring something from Madame X: ‘Future’.

Keeping things even hotter were Hunks of the Day Charlie Taylor, Jacob Elordi, Rylan Clark-Neal, and Rafael Lemes

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