After dissuading a pair of robins from nesting next to our patio, I stumbled upon their second attempt at a nest deeper in our small backyard, cunningly camouflaged within the variegated foliage of the Wolf’s Eye Chinese dogwood tree. There, in the crux of the branches, was an intricately-woven marvel of engineering that housed a trio of the tell-tale blue eggs (hence the original nudge away from heavily-trafficked areas such as the patio – had we allowed them to stay there, we would not have been able to walk past without risk of territorial attack).

I was happy to have the nest where it was, since I was the one who oh-so-unceremoniously put a kibosh on their original location (as is my habit this year, it seems). This was much better, and afforded me the opportunity to visit and keep track of their progress. Every day I would walk out to the protective canopy of the Wolf’s Eye dogwood, gently part the branches to reveal the nest, and from a safe distance snap a few photos. 

Checking on them as the hot days unfolded, I finally found them in the midst of breaking through the bright blue shells, their tiny pink bodies entering the world, so pure and unprotected. So devastatingly vulnerable. How could such tender and delicate things ever survive this world?

Somehow, they lasted – first one day, then two, and soon they were taking more recognizable form. Fuzzy, downy fur developed into the tiniest feathers. Beaks protruded and elongated. Eyes eventually opened. Life took its course against all odds. 

The baby robins grew little by little, becoming more animated and engaging. When awake, they would crane their necks upward, straining to reach whatever figure was in the vicinity – parent or not – so eager were they for sustenance and care.

On the morning of our anniversary, Andy called me outside to a commotion in the Japanese maple across from the dogwood tree. It seemed all the birds of the neighborhood were screaming and squawking, gathering and hopping from branch to branch in excited, agitated, and apparently terrified distress. The robins were most upset, but there was consternation in the cardinals, concern from a catbird, and fear from a pack of finches. The cries sounded like anguish and warning. I thought immediately of the robin’s nest, and cautiously walked in that direction.

Pulling apart the curtain of dogwood branches, I found the nest upended and in disarray. It looked like something had pulled it apart. No baby robins were to be found in the tree, or under it. I assumed there was one where the birds had gathered in such upset but when I approached they began the typical swooping and dive-bombing that meant I was not welcome there.

At that moment the sky was about to open. It had turned dark gray and was just waiting to pounce. I hurried back toward the patio, when I came upon one of the baby robins. Calling to Andy, I asked what we should do. He asked if I could right the nest. I did so, and he scooped the little robin up in his hands and deposited it back in the nest. The birds continued their agitated vigil near the Japanese maple, but the storm had arrived so we had to rush inside. We’d saved one, and who knew if they would return to the nest anyway.

Andy surmised it was an attack from a hawk or possibly a crow – both have been known to raid other nests. The thunder sounded and the rain poured down in a deluge that I hoped would be healing. It passed quickly, and when we looked back outside a cat was prowling the area, licking its lips – the likely offender. It slinked back toward the maple where the birds were once again screeching. I did my best to chase it away. I looked for the other little birds but couldn’t find them. 

We watched from back inside the house to see if the robins would return to the baby we had returned to the nest. We didn’t have much hope. But when the rain subsided and light came back into the sky, we saw an adult with a worm in its mouth fly over to a branch near the dogwood, and then, in a wonderful moment of relief and hope, it returned to the nest and fed the last remaining baby. Together, Andy and I had saved one little bird from the cruel attack of life. It was all we could do and, on that morning, it was enough. 

Ever since a childhood of disappointing Crackerjack boxes, I’ve come to be suspicious of anything promising a surprise inside. And ever since an adulthood as a gay man, I’m even more skeptical of anything promising a surprise inside. At this point, the best surprises inside are those that arrive unannounced and unhyped, such as in this plumcot.

The plumcot is a cross between a plum and an apricot. I love both of those, so it makes sense I would love a plumcot, but such hybrids don’t always produce good results. (Think of when two pop superstars come out with a tepid duet – hello Britney and Madonna and the travesty that was ‘Me Against the Music’.) In the case of the plumcot, I was hopeful, but not quite ready to put all the stone fruits in one basket.

Luckily, I was happily rewarded – this particular variety of plumcot is absent of pesky fuzz, carrying the initial bright tartness of an apricot before resolving gloriously in a juicy burst of the plum’s sweetness. Best of all is the striking surprise color of what lies just beneath the otherwise subtle skin. Entire color schemes are built around shades like this. It’s the color of summer, of sweetness and heat, of all that is vibrant and living and brilliant.

Back when all parts of this story took place, I wasn’t quite as adept at figuring out when someone didn’t like me as I am now. Years of practice do that for you. Before 2000, however, I still had trouble believing there were people who really didn’t care for me. (I was nothing if not happily delusional.) When it became apparent on those occasions when I rubbed people the wrong way, it didn’t feel great, especially when I wasn’t expecting it.

It was early spring when Alissa and I walked into the Harvard Square Structure – one of my former stores (though I’d only worked in the Harvard location a few times – my main stores were on Boylston and at Faneuil Hall). On this day I was already retired from my retail years so we entered as customers, and what a lovely change in roles that could be. As we rounded a table of sweaters, I saw my former co-worker John standing there, looking at me with a distinctly unfavorable slant. He’d always been a little edgy with me, so at first I just attributed it to that, but soon it became clear more was at work.

There was something off about him, and while I’m accustomed to the general public having a problem with me for no apparent reason, it’s different when that comes from someone I once considered a friend. He wasn’t just testy, he was aggressively angry, and it was instantly awkward. I tried to turn it round, and I thought I had, asking him how he was doing and requesting his updated contact information now that I was back in Boston. He wrote his number down, handed me the paper, and then went back to being nasty. At this point we were about to leave, and Alissa noticed the strange exchange, and backed slowly toward to the door, uncomfortably part of this odd turn of emotion.

“What was that all about?” Alissa asked, just as taken aback by the insanely tense atmosphere we had exited.

“I have no idea!” I said, wracking my brain to think of any possible slights I could have committed against him, but nothing came to mind. We’d spent an uneventful night together a couple of years before that, but nothing had happened so there was no reason for such viciousness. It was truly puzzling, because I usually know if I’ve done something to cause that kind of annoyance. More puzzling was the number in my hand, and why it was even proffered.

Immediately, I felt offended, and some pride was on the line. Partly as a show for Alissa, and partly as a way to save face to prove that he meant nothing to me, I walked dramatically to the nearest garbage can and tossed his phone number nonchalantly into the metal mesh without looking back. Some people find it easier to hold onto hate than love. I didn’t want that to be me, and so I genuinely let it go. Later, though, years later, I tried to make sense of it.

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I’d met him when he came to work at Faneuil Hall as a relatively new manager. Gawky, bespectacled, and scarecrow-thin, he wore his clothes cinched tightly with a belt, and everything was big and baggy on him. We hadn’t gotten off to the greatest start. Early on we somehow got into a discussion on Madonna (and by somehow I’m guessing I insisted on it) and he had dismissed her with some disingenuous disdain. When certain problematic people find out how much I love Madonna, they will occasionally take jabs at her just to bother me, even if they like her. That’s all it took to leave me suspect of his taste and sensibility.

He was also openly gay, which by that time in my retail career was not in the least uncommon. While he was rather dorky, and I typically adored dorky, he wasn’t of romantic interest to me, which boded well for our working relationship. As for how well we worked together, I never had a problem when someone was ‘above’ me in the office or retail hierarchy. As the manager, he had the authority and say, and I was cool with that. It’s been one of my keys to success in every job I’ve ever held. Respect the chain of command, even if the chain took advantage of that. John didn’t do that, but I always knew if I pushed it he would not hesitate to pull rank.

After work one day we ended up going out with a group and crashing at my place at the end of the night. Both of us were too tipsy to do much more than pass out in the bed. I was between boyfriends so it would have been perfectly acceptable, if slightly messy, had we hooked up, but I wasn’t interested. That was something new for me. If a man with a working penis was in my bed, most often I made use of it. You don’t look a gift horse in the mouth. As the grogginess wore off and the first light of day crept into the room, I felt him behind me, pressing his body into mine. I thought about it.

Thought about turning toward him and kissing him.

Thought about how that might affect a working relationship.

Thought about how I didn’t want any of it.

He put his arm around me. Maybe it was just a simple act of affection, a friendly sleepover with nothing but platonic over-and-undertones.

I moved away from him and willed myself back to sleep.

It was how I said no back then.

We resumed our work, and a year or two later I moved store locations to be closer to the condo. Though I didn’t see John as often, he was still part of my retail family, and invited to all the parties I threw. That December, at a ‘festive gathering’ apparently, where I was introducing my old work friends to my new boyfriend, John attended, as testy as ever, so I mostly avoided him. He knew others there and was not on his own, and he was good enough to sign my guest book:

December 5, 1998 ~ ‘Alan – I promise you nothing, and in ‘nothing’ I promise you my respect and love. I would never discount anything that didn’t come at too high a price. I’ll never be able to afford you and it has nothing to do with how much I make. Keep being you. Love, John— This was probably more sentimental than I intended – please disregard.’

That would be the last time I saw him until our negative run-in at Harvard Square. During that interim I would move to Chicago with my boyfriend, break up and move back to Boston, and then feel for the shift of the seasons to save me. I never thought of John again after our mysterious falling-out until his name came across a FaceBook feed. I recognized the photo before the name. 

He had died a few years before the FaceBook entry. I barely remembered his name, but then suddenly it all came rushing back, in all its mixed emotional messiness. I hadn’t seen him in so long and had never been that close to him to shed any tears. It haunted me in a different way. In the way it had happened so many years ago and I never knew. The cold callousness of not knowing that. He succumbed to a disease I can’t remember, something I didn’t know about, and it ended up killing him. Before he was even forty years old. That’s what was so haunting about it too. I would never find out what caused the anger toward me. I can’t ask Alissa what she remembers from that time either, as she is gone too. 

The age of losing friends had begun. 

Andy called me outside to see it when the heat began. At the sun’s zenith, we peered down into the empty pool frame and looked at the sand. There, fluttering about, was this beautiful butterfly. A dark wonder dotted with markings of blue, it toured the cavernous sand pit, rising out of the depths and crossing first by Andy and then by me. It swung around the weeping larch, then brushed past us again. Pausing at the cup plant, doting on the ostrich ferns, and finally soaring over the dogwood and into the sky beyond our yard, it would come back to visit a couple of times over an overheated weekend. Summer is at hand. On with the weekly recap…

Our backyard tried to keep us cool.

The mask as artful accessory.

This #TinyThread poked through the heat.

Zac Efron’s shirtless and widely-appreciated new body. 

Ring these lady-bells.

Duck this.

Summer evening by Tom Ford.

Not 200 balloons, but one.

Rock out with your mock out. 

Shasta not shy. 

Pretty pooper without a party.

Summer-sweet.

In a world of racists, be an antiracist.

Breath of the ocean.

97 degrees.

Hunks of the Day included Daveed Diggs and Calvin Martin.

Ok, universe, we get it.

We learned our lesson well, whatever it was we were supposed to learn.

Ease up on this heat until our pool is back in effect, please.

For fuck’s sake.