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Author Archives: Alan Ilagan

A Dazzling Recap

March dazzles in its own blustery way, and this week will supposedly bring in some spring-like temperatures. Having been burned, or more accurately, frozen in the past, I’ll not hold my breath until such a heat wave deigns to descend. Until such time, let’s recap the previous week of dazzlement. 

The Monday Blues were turned on their head by Kylie Minogue and her disco stick. 

Feeling nostalgic, and mourning the loss of two more Ogunquit establishments, here is my homage to the Ogunquit Oatie

Approaching peace in half an hour

Channeling Hollywood glamour in black and white.

Madonna’s greatest album ever.

Listening to the birds before the lions arrived.

Putting on a flower show in my mind.

A green twist on a popular pasta dish.

The long-lost art of impeccable customer services breeds glamour

Bloody beauty.

Darling, I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream.

Ambrosia x Watergate: an Easter salad

Dazzlers of the Day included Dr. Angela DavisRegé-Jean Page, Audra McDonald, Tyler HoechlinJavier Muñoz and Margaret Cho

 

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Ambrosia x Watergate

For the bulk of my four-decade-plus life I’ve despised an ambrosia salad. How the gods would have eaten this canned and artificially-sweet mush of blandness is beyond me. In my older age, however, my tastes have changed and evolved. Things I once derided I now enjoy – pineapple, for instance, and coconut – and so when a Watergate salad recipe made a splash online recently, the kitschy green pastels and 70’s-era ingredients appealed to my sense of nostalgia, and I decided to give the ambrosia another go. 

The recipe I based this on was one for Watergate salad, and I added elements of what Andy could recall from his Mom’s ambrosia salad recipe. The result is a hybrid that is now part of our planned Easter lunch festivities, thanks to its fluffy sweetness and pretty pastel color. Modify as desired.

Ambrosia x Watergate salad for Easter Garishness

  • 1 package pistachio pudding mix
  • 1 can crushed pineapple (liquid too)
  • 1 container thawed Cool Whip (mandatory for any kitsch recipe)
  • 1 cup marshmallows (the tiny kind, not the big-ass smores kind)
  • 1/2 cup sweetened coconut flakes
  • 1/2 cup chopped pecans or other nuts (optional)

Method: Mix all the shit together and stir. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Margaret Cho

She embodies what the line ‘Ladies with an attitude’ truly means, and Margaret Cho, with an impressive herstory of accomplishments and courage, easily earns this Dazzler of the Day. She continues to wow audiences and the world over with her cutting social commentary and witty delivery, backing it all up with that rarest of Hollywood careers: a long and sustainable one. She’s been trailblazing for decades, and isn’t slowing up anytime soon. Dazzle on, Queen.

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Darling, I’m a Nightmare Dressed Like a Daydream

This song came out right around the time when the tide of Taylor Swift was turning for me – I love everything about it. Prickly, defiant, and slightly-psycho – all the things that I once embodied, and reserve the right to embody again – on beautiful display in revenge fantasy form. Behind the glittering curtain we go, into the Blank Space we’ve all occupied or created for someone, the expanse of insanity involved in investing so wholly in someone else, going all-in and giving it all up.

Nice to meet you, where you been?
I could show you incredible things
Magic, madness, heaven, sin
Saw you there and I thought
“Oh, my God, look at that face”
“You look like my next mistake”
Love’s a game, wanna play?

I CAN MAKE THE BAD GUYS GOOD FOR A WEEKEND…

Loves makes people do crazy things. That which we sometimes confuse as love sometimes makes people do worse. Lust, obsession, and those insensible crushes of our youth – they bring out the worst impulses, turning us into people we wouldn’t recognize in times of peace and reason. This song reminds me of those lovely emotional roller-coasters, and I look back at them almost fondly, in the distance and rare instance of some semblance of personal growth. It’s good to keep such memories filed away so as to ward off any future dips in sanity. We’re all just a few bad decisions away from falling back into the abyss, or slipping into the madness of rage touched on in this piece of pop perfection.

So it’s gonna be forever
Or it’s gonna go down in flames
You can tell me when it’s over
If the high was worth the pain
Got a long list of ex-lovers
They’ll tell you I’m insane
‘Cause you know I love the players
And you love the game
‘Cause we’re young and we’re reckless
We’ll take this way too far
It’ll leave you breathless
Or with a nasty scar
Got a long list of ex-lovers
They’ll tell you I’m insane
But I’ve got a blank space, baby
And I’ll write your name

The video’s a masterpiece, the kind of thing Madonna once did best – stylized and nuanced, pretty yet packed with considerable punch – and I’ve always been a sucker for those times when beautiful clothes and gorgeous settings provide the backdrop and wardrobe for some serious fucking-over of those who dared to do one wrong. These days I don’t think about such revenge tactics – there are better ways to deal with being wronged. But it’s still fun to fantasize… 

Darling I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream…

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Bloody Beauty

The juice of the blood orange, despite all possibly negative connotations that the idea of blood has, is a thing of beauty. This simple mocktail is just some mandarin seltzer combined with the juice of two blood oranges. It’s as pretty as it is simple, and these days I’m all about both. (An easy citrus twist does wonders for any presentation too.)

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Dazzler of the Day: Javier Muñoz

Javier Muñoz was an easy selection as Dazzler of the Day, given his penchant for showstopping, scene-stealing antics in such celebrated shows as ‘In the Heights’ and ‘Hamilton‘ – and his personal triumphs over cancer and HIV give an additional layer of strength and vulnerability to his storied journey. The greatest dazzlers are survivors – on the stage and in their personal lives. 

 

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The Glamour of Impeccable Customer Service

Exceptional customer service seems to be a rarity these days, so whenever I have the privilege and joy of experiencing it I like to call it out. Such was the case with a recent online shopping expedition for the elusive bit of fragrant glory known as ‘Portrait of a Lady’ – a search that brought me to a fortuitous sale and a brush with the kind of detail-oriented work and care that is largely missing from much of the world today. Fragrance rarely goes on sale in the fancy department stores – it’s usually the first thing listed in the fine print of any such percentage off – so when there’s a beauty sale it’s a big deal. Couple that with a generic gift card I’ve had since Christmas, and it seemed a good time to splurge on something I’ve been wanting for at least a year, and if it’s still haunting you after a year you know it’s not a passing whim. 

After attempting to use the gift card online in addition to my credit card, it wouldn’t allow the transaction to go through, so I made a call to their headquarters who indicated that I’d have to do it in person with the store. Recalling Andy’s similar situation with a rush order for Tom Ford’s ‘Our Minerale’ before our vacation to Maine, I got in touch with the Bergdorf Goodman store in New York and was told someone would call me back. 

Within an hour I got a call from Jason, who helped me out with the transaction, making use of the gift card, the sale, and the friendly guidance of a seasoned professional. It was quick and easy and quite more enjoyable than the frustrating online system – a testament to the power of simple old-fashioned customer service, human to human. At a moment where that feels uncommon and unexpected, such service and support carries its own sense of rarefied glamour, setting a store like Bergdorf Goodman apart from all the rest.

Yesterday, the package of ‘Portrait of a Lady’ arrived, and with it came the goodie bag of all goodie bags, which included a sample of the new Tom Ford Private Blend ‘Tubéreuse Nue’ that I’ve been dying to try, and a quartet of Creed samples that will accentuate the bottles of ‘Aventus’ and ‘Royal Oud’ that currently line my top cologne shelf. The care that had been taken to provide such a happy treat did not go unnoticed, and thanks to Jason and his efforts I feel an allegiance and gladness in returning to Bergdorf Goodman for future fragrance desires. 

 

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A Viral Variation in Green

A variation on this viral TikTok recipe ~ a bed of zucchini, a brick of feta, and some fresh basil, parsley and baby spinach give a green slant to the dinner proceedings, perfectly timed for anyone looking to forego the meat on a Friday in Lent. The baking of the veggies and cheese at 400 degrees is what does most of the work – some saved pasta water makes it as light or as creamy as you like it. Fridays call for simple dinners like this. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Tyler Hoechlin

This Man of Steel is winning raves in his current turn as Superman in the most recent re-boot of that ageless superhero. Tyler Hoechlin earns his first Dazzler of the Day after previously stunning with his Hunk of the Day feature. It’s a good Friday when there’s a Hunk who deigns to Dazzle. 

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Putting on a Mental Floral Show

It’s been far too many years since I last attended the New England Flower Show – and to be honest I’m not even sure they were having it even prior to COVID. But every March I get the same restless hankering for something that brings me closer to spring. This year my weekly visits to the local greenhouse will have to suffice, where I can take my time walking past African violets like the ones shown here and dreaming of the days when similar blooms will be showing off in the gardens outside. 

With the exception of this crazy cactus, we don’t have any indoor plants that bloom. I’ve been toying with the idea of adding a Clivia to our collection, or finding another walking iris, but outside of bloom those are both pretty dull performers. Instead, I’ll force a few bulbs every year (a forgotten bag of Paperwhite narcissus was just discovered on the attic stairs and I immediately plopped them into a vase of water and pebbles – we will see if it’s not too late to salvage a bloom or two, as always seems to happen) but other than that our houseplants are mainly for foliage and form. The older I get the more my tastes seem to shift to the subtle. 

That doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate the blooms seen here. An African violet is a thing of beauty indeed. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Audra McDonald

The very first time I witnessed the wonder that is Audra McDonald on stage was in the 1995 production of ‘Master Class’. She has been dazzling audiences ever since, hence this long-overdue Dazzler of the Day honor. While the stage of ‘Master Class’ was cluttered with the chewed-up bits of Zoe Caldwell’s scene-devouring, every time McDonald appeared she stole whatever bit of scenery remained with her luminescent star-power and seemingly-super-human talent. I was mesmerized, and my fandom has been burning brightly ever since.

A couple of years later I was lucky enough to see her turn as Sarah in ‘Ragtime’ where she once again rose above an already-impressive ensemble to achieve new heights with that gloriously soaring voice. Since those indelible Tony-winning performances, she’s gone on to win multiple Tony Awards (so many in fact that she holds the record for Tonys given for performances), made memorable impressions on film, and taken up the admirable mantle of activism in helping out all of us who have been marginalized in some way. She continues to dazzle and astound, and she’s one of those people who just makes me feel that the world is a little better than it sometimes seems. 

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Birdsong Before The Lion’s Arrival

Restarting the mood on March 1st began with a step outside. 

The air was still and cold, but not unbearably so. It was above freezing, and water droplets hung from the Chinese dogwood branches. It didn’t feel like lion weather, so the old adage for March entering like that majestic beast had not yet come to pass. This early in the morning, before work, before the delivery trucks rumbled by, before the mailman made his stop, the stillness of the start of a new month – the month in which spring arrives – felt rife with a strange and almost-unfamiliar sense of hope. I think it was the birdsong that surrounded me.

Glorious, continuous, all-encompassing birdsong filled the air – birds were suddenly in the trees and the bushes and the sky – their chirping and calls a most wonderful symphony. It was service to the soul, a long deep drink that quenched a parched thirst I had’t quite realized was there from all the winter silence. Such peace was not to last, nor were these droplets on the dogwood tree. 

When the work day was done, I sat down to a meditation, while outside the wind picked up. It would continue to grow, howling and raging and announcing that the birds were gone and the lion had arrived. March begins again, with a roar.

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Dazzler of the Day: Regé-Jean Page

The cultural sensation that is ‘Bridgerton’ has brought Dazzler of the Day Regé-Jean Page to the pop culture forefront, and there he sparkles with the charismatic magic that has made him an instant star. I have’t yet had the pleasure of indulging in ‘Bridgeton’ but it’s on my long list of hopeful viewing options, thanks in no small part to Monsieur Page. 

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Madonna’s Greatest Album

Released in the US on this day in 1998, Madonna’s ‘Ray of Light’ album is considered by most fans and music historians her best album to date. I’m in complete agreement of that, and have the added bonus of being at just the right moment to soak in its mysteries and majesty at the ripe old age of 22. When you are that age music somehow means more than it does at 45, and I’m not sad nor unhappy about that. It was perfect for its time, and it came out at the precise moment I was ready to hear it. 

Ray of Light‘ has mostly been about searching and seeking – universal themes that don’t diminish or deteriorate with time. If anything, such matters become more prescient and resonant the older I get, which is part of the artistic merit of the album. It’s always worth a listen – and all the way through – especially when the seasonal year is about to be reborn… 

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Channeling Hollywood Glamour

“There are many things in your heart you can never tell to another person. They are you, your private joys and sorrows, and you can never tell them. You cheapen yourself, the inside of yourself, when you tell them.” ~ Greta Garbo

“I’m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I’m out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” ~ Marilyn Monroe

Glamour is what I sell, it’s my stock in trade.” ~ Marlene Dietrich

“I can remember a reporter asking me for a quote, and I didn’t know what a quote was. I thought it was some kind of soft drink.” ~ Joe DiMaggio

“I don’t think that people generally realize what the motion picture industry has done to the American Indian, as a matter of fact, all ethnic groups. All minorities. All non-whites. People just simply don’t realize. They take it for granted that that’s the way people are going to be presented and that these cliches are just going to be perpetuated.” ~ Marlon Brando

“You try to be yourself, do only what you’ve always done and like to do, and right away, you’re tagged as an oddball.” ~ James Dean

“I was constantly falling in love, and it never occurred to me that this was wrong or bad.” ~ Grace Kelly

“Women like me because I don’t look like a girl who would steal a husband. At least not for long.” ~ Jean Harlow

You dance love, and you dance joy, and you dance dreams. And I know if I can make you smile by jumping over a couple of couches or running through a rainstorm, then I’ll be very glad to be a song and dance man.” ~ Gene Kelly

“The hardest job kids face today is learning good manners without seeing any.” ~ Fred Astaire

“When two people love each other, they don’t look at each other, they look in the same direction.” ~ Ginger Rogers

“All I wanted was just what everybody else wants, you know, to be loved.” ~ Rita Hayworth

“You can’t start worrying about what’s going to happen. You get spastic enough worrying about what’s happening now.” ~ Lauren Bacall

“We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers – but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s always your fault, because if you wanted to change you’re the one who has got to change.” ~ Katharine Hepburn

Humor has been the balm of my life, but it’s been reserved for those close to me, not part of the public Lana.” ~ Lana Turner

“In this business, until you’re known as a monster, you’re not a star.” ~ Bette Davis (we love you)

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