Author Archives: Alan Ilagan

Boston Wedding Anniversary 2020/2021 ~ Part 1

The city looked and felt differently from when we last met. In a year fraught by a pandemic, Boston had been forced to update its cobblestone-weighted history and forge a new way, like the rest of the world. Yet spring still returned, and as we made our way back to celebrate our 10th and 11th wedding anniversaries, it felt like there was hope in the cool air. Happily, we would find Boston filled with blooms and sunshine and all the typical accoutrements of a proper new season, because no matter what happened in the previous year, spring would do her song and dance. 

As we pulled out in Andy’s least favorite car ever, it felt strange and wonderful to be going somewhere at last. The drive was a sunny one, with a perfect blue sky studded with the occasional white cloud, and we arrived to blooms and blossoms along every path. 

The Southwest Corridor Park – our main route and access to the condo – had just begun its season of glory, with everything from the lowliest geraniums to the American dogwoods that flowered even before their foliage deigned to peek through. 

Even more dramatic was this yellow-hued bleeding heart, whose pink flowers danced thrillingly against a sea of chartreuse leaves, the combination a pretty little marriage of color and light – a celebratory pas de deux emblematic of all the love that was in the air.

There was music too, sweet music that called to us from memory, and a soundtrack largely culled from the work of Cole Porter. 

You do something to me
Something that simply mystifies me
Tell me, why should it be
You have the power to hypnotize me?

Let me live ‘neath your spell
Do do that voodoo that you do so well
For you do something to me
That nobody else could do…

Andy graciously provided the new fragrance that will mark a new memory: Tom Ford’s latest Private Blend ‘Soleil Brûlant’ – an exquisite spring and summer scent that has already carved out a place in my cologne-loving heart. 

After a largely gray and drab winter of discontent, the colors and sights of Boston were again a wonder to behold, and seeing them after such a long time away imbued them with an even greater freshness and potency. 

We dressed for our anniversary dinner at Mistral – which was the only restaurant from our original trio of wedding restaurants that remained open. A sad commentary on what the past year has wrought, but we focused on the magic of Mistral and had a lovely dinner. 

Andy tried out their Tahitian sidecar while I opted for this lemony fresh mocktail. We looked around at the other diners and felt a jolt of normalcy. Simply dining in the vicinity of other people was tinged with a giddy nostalgia. 

Pistachio chocolate profiteroles capped off a wondrous meal, and I thought back to our very first dinner as a married couple eleven years ago. Many memories had been made since then, and we carried all the memories from the ten years before that, when we first met in 2000. They felt both far away and impossibly recent – the ticking of time a constant and unnoticed rhythm that fades into itself unless marked by something memorable, like this return to Boston. 

It was a very sweet ending to our first day back…

{Fragrance of the Evening: Portrait of a Lady.)

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Mandarin Hospitality

“Hospitality means primarily the creation of free space where the stranger can enter and become a friend instead of an enemy. Hospitality is not to change people, but to offer them space where change can take place. It is not to bring men and women over to our side, but to offer freedom not disturbed by dividing lines.” ~ Henri J.M. Nouwen

It should come as no surprise or secret that one of the things I’ve missed most in the past year-plus of not traveling is the joy and indulgence of staying at a hotel. There is something thrilling about inhabiting any home-away-from-home, especially if an establishment is skilled at the art of hospitality. Auspiciously, that spell away from such joy is about to come to a happy ending, as I’ve just booked a visit to the Mandarin Oriental in Boston for next month. No other hotel has their hospitality game as together as the team from MO. 

My first brush with the Boston Mandarin Oriental came shortly after they opened their five-star spa and I won a certificate for a massage. Ever since then, I’ve been spoiled for massages and services, as the experience was beyond any other I’ve had the pleasure of enjoying. It isn’t only their spa that’s amazing – all of their services and spaces have proven exquisite, from the lobby to the restroom; I’ve stopped in whenever I’ve been in Boston, sometimes for a spa treatment, and sometimes just for a cocktail

My first proper overnight stay at a Mandarin Property took place a little later in Washington, DC, for my cousin’s wedding. The pool and spa and other on-site amenities were such that one barely had the need to wander far to find beauty and relaxation – and the wedding reception that took place at the hotel itself was an essay in celebratory refinement. Since that time I’ve been waiting for the right moment to indulge in a stay at their Boston location, and when Skip and I started planning this year’s Boston trip, it felt like the perfect time.

We’ve booked a room to celebrate our comeback for another BroSox Adventure. Combining a Red Sox game and the fortuitously-tied LGBTQ+ Pride celebration in one glorious June weekend, it will mark a return to everything we once loved in an age of uncertainty and ultimate triumph. Boston, baseball, friendship and hospitality ~ I can’t think of a better place than the Mandarin Oriental to honor such a tradition.

{Bonus: their renowned Spa just reopened too. To keep up with all their updates and amenities (such as the cool crew of bikes available as seen below) follow them on Twitter or Instagram.}

“True hospitality is marked by an open response to the dignity of each and every person. Henri Nouwen has described it as receiving the stranger on his own terms, and asserts that it can be offered only by those who ‘have found the center of their lives in their own hearts’.” ~  Kathleen Norris

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Instafloral Glory

Consider this a shameless (or partly shameful) plug for following my Instagram account, as that seems to be where all the fun is these days. (You are more than welcome to follow me on Twitter or FaceBook as well, but those get too bogged in nonsense of late.) Instagram provides a simple visual check-in throughout the day, and that’s about all my brain can take right now. 

Instagram is often where I’ll post the first glimpse of whatever I’m doing or working on, such as these colorful images from a recent trip to Boston. That won’t be documented on this blog until the weekend, but Instagram followers will get a sneak peek.

As far as 1000 words go, I think that’s cutting things a bit short, but I’m someone who enjoys a picture as much as I enjoy a long-winded passage. At any rate, I would be thrilled if you’d deign to follow me there.

“Heroes must see to their own fame. No one else will.” ~ Gore Vidal

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A Cherry Popping poem

“In the cherry blossom’s shade
there’s no such thing
as a stranger.”

Kobayashi Issa

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I’m A Delicate Flower

Someone finally made a lotion for me. 

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Lilacs-Come-Lately

Withstanding such cool temperatures this late in the season (we have long since passed the frost-free date, but it feels like every night could threaten to dip below freezing) has but one benefit: flowers that would typically bloom and expire quickly in the heat have lasted far longer than usual. Daffodils in particular have been in bloom for weeks, showing no signs of expiration or deterioration. Add the lilacs to this extended parade of perfume and prettiness, and the cooler weather suddenly doesn’t feel so bad. 

Andy asked if we could get one more bouquet out of this season’s crop, so I went out early in the morning and clipped these from one of the descendants of the original Lilac bush that his Mom gifted to us two decades ago. From that single bush in our backyard, we now have several patches of them, and their suckers are ever-encroaching on the lawn. This variety, a double for more perfume and pizzazz, seems to do particularly well in this area. I may transplant a few more to the side yard, part of a sunny bank where not much else grows well. We have to use our pretty warriors to our advantage. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Eddie Robinson

With his latest endeavor making a splash in the podcast world, veteran NPR news anchor Eddie Robinson earns his first Dazzler of the Day crowning thanks to his show’s impressive aim at illuminating those disenfranchised communities that have historically been silenced. Robinson’s new ‘I SEE U’ podcast aims to share and enlighten stories from those of us who have not yet had our voices heard: 

I SEE U is a unique new program that gives voice to those who have often been unheard. Hosted by Houston Public Media’s Eddie Robinson, I SEE U explores cultural identity through the stories of people and places that have been transformed by the effects of long-standing biases. Eddie guides fascinating conversations with newsmakers who share their personal histories, their struggles and their triumphs. In listening, we learn to empathize and hopefully experience a few ‘a-ha’ moments for ourselves.

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From the Valley of Perfume

A favorite fragrance of my Grandmother, these lilies of the valley make for a poignantly-perfumed bouquet. Even its small size and stature emits a potent scent that carries on the slightest breeze, or fills a small room of the house. It’s a tenacious ground-cover, colonizing and expanding, particularly if it finds fertile and hospitable soil, such as often occupies a garden. For that reason, I try to keep it on the outskirts of our backyard, as I do with mint. 

These sweetly-scented sprawlers will take over their allotted space, and then reach for more. I admire such strength, as much as I appreciate the fragrance they produce at this tender time of the year. To make an impact, they must be used en masse. 

In a little vase, and viewed up close, they become the central figures of today’s story – a story rooted in the scent of memory

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Vaxxed & Masked

Even with our completed vaccinations, we are holding tight and true to mask-wearing when in public and tight quarters. That’s what good, compassionate, concerned and caring citizens of society do. And those who have a problem with that should look deeper into themselves and their reasons. PS – Get vaccinated. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Lea Salonga

Broadway superstar and theatrical legend in her own time, Lea Salonga easily earns her first Dazzler of the Day honor. My Mom and I saw her magical performance in the revival of ‘Once On This Island’ and she’s been conjuring such indelible achievements for decades, from Eponine in ‘Les Miserables’ to the voice of Princess Jasmine in ‘Aladdin’ as well as her Tony-winning turn in ‘Miss Saigon.’ In recent years, she’s made a successful turn in touring, as well as album work, including a collection of traditional Filipino songs entitled ‘Bahaghari.’ Check out her gorgeous website for more

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Unleashing the Maiden

Some plants begin looking very much as they will look for the duration of an entire season. Others, change immensely. This is one of the latter – and this is the beginning of the Maidenhair fern. Also known as the five-finger fern, it’s digits haven’t quite begun to uncurl and extend themselves, holding still like little knuckles. if they seem tense, it may be due to the cool weather we’ve had. Cold nights don’t make for pleasant conditions for maidens or men or all sorts of the beautiful in-between and outside. 

Despite its delicate appearance, this is one of the hardier ferns. Its elegant leaves are so light and airy, they allow the coldest winds to pass right through them. It’s an ingenious hat trick for a plant, and the lesson is a very good one. 

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A Lilac-Scented Recap

May has been filled with more rain than I’d like, and cooler temperatures than most of us would prefer, but there are still moments of beauty, like on the semi-sunny day this lilac started popping. It’s a hybrid, a posthumous gift from Andy’s Mum that has grown enough to fill out three separate patches in our yard. This was a small-bloom year, as lilacs will sometimes deliver, but that makes this one all the more valued. On with the Monday morning recap

Lunch-time walk in downtown Albany

Art deco dreams.

Cherry blossoms begin again

Our 11th Anniversary.

Lilacs on parade.

Another Queen returns

Lilac wine.

The return of the Madonna Timeline: ‘Love Profusion.’ 

Ostrich ferns unfurling

And even more cherry blossoms in the sky.

Dazzlers of the Day included Cole Walliser, Jose Antonio Vargas, Kamala Harris, and Ted Lieu.

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Cherry Blossoms in the Sky

These cherry blossoms, daring to bloom at such an early and treacherous time, are always susceptible to wind and rain and the roughest of spring weather, but before they get torn from their perches I usually manage to get a few pictures of their beauty. For this post, I’m pairing them with a song by Air, a gentle way to end a weekend.

I don’t want to be shy
Can’t stand it anymore
I just want to say ‘Hi’
To the one I love
Cherry blossom girl

I just want to be sure
When I will come to you
When the time will be gone
You will be by my side
Cherry Blossom Girl

Tell me why can’t it be true
I’ll never love again
Can I say that to you
Will you run away
If I try to be true
Cherry blossom girl

Cherry blossom girl
I’ll always be there for you
That means no time to waste
Whenever there’s a chance
Cherry blossom girl
Tell me why can’t it be true
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Freshness Unfurled

The unfurling of the Ostrich ferns is one of the magical moments of May. This ever-expanding patch of them has intruded into the new lawn I seeded last year, so they will be whittled down, but it’s fun to watch them unfurl first. I’ll transplant them into the side yard where they can run rampant through the pachysandra beneath a giant oak tree. It’s a shaded and secret space, perfect for the delicate appearance and underlying hardiness of these ferns. 

They will also do quite well in relatively strong sun, which is where this grouping stands, provided you deliver a regular source of water. The more the better, and they will rise in the bright sunlight to over four feet if given enough consistent moisture. Be wary though – if you can’t supply water on the regular they will rust and turn brown and brittle by the end of July. That still happens in the warmest of summers. 

For now, their freshness is indicative of this early stretch of May – all chartreuse and architectural glory in the form of these wondrous fronds. 

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The Madonna Timeline: Song #163 ~ ‘Love Profusion’ – Spring 2003

{Note: The Madonna Timeline is an ongoing feature, where I put the iPod on shuffle and write a little anecdote on whatever was going on in my life when that Madonna song was released and/or came to prominence in my mind.}

THERE ARE TOO MANY QUESTIONS
THERE IS NOT ONE SOLUTION
THERE IS NO RESURRECTION
THERE IS SO MUCH CONFUSION
AND THE LOVE PROFUSION
YOU MAKE ME FEEL
YOU MAKE ME KNOW
AND THE LOVE VIBRATION
YOU MAKE ME FEEL
YOU MAKE IT SHINE

By April 2003 we had been in our home for just over a year, and our first spring traditions were starting to take form. The opening of the pool, the preparing of the gardens, and the general spring cleaning that accompanied this time of the year made for an exciting moment – the release of a new Madonna album added to the energy, but not in the bombastic way most people associate with Madonna, especially in the mayhem surrounding the release of that album.

The final song from the ‘American Life’ album’ to be featured on the Madonna Timeline is ‘Love Profusion’ – fortuitously timed as this is the same time of the year when that infamous album was released. For all the incendiary talk and controversy the lead title track inspired, ‘Love Profusion’ was more indicative of the electronic pastoral that Madonna had conjured with ‘American Life’ – and the classic sonic vibe of her work with Mirwais.

THERE ARE TOO MANY OPTIONS
THERE IS NO CONSOLATION
I HAVE LOST MY ILLUSIONS
WHAT I WANT IS AN EXPLANATION
AND THE LOVE PROFUSION
YOU MAKE ME FEEL
YOU MAKE ME KNOW
AND THE LOVE DIRECTION
YOU MAKE ME FEEL
YOU MAKE ME SHINE
YOU MAKE ME FEEL
YOU MAKE ME SHINE, YOU MAKE ME FEEL

‘Love Profusion’ captured that happily hazy period when spring was ripening into summer, but the evenings and mornings were still chilly. I put the quieter ballads together and played them on repeat to lull us to sleep at night. This was one of those songs – a sweet love song, the kind that always felt like a throwaway to Madonna in the vein of ‘True Blue’ or ‘Cherish’ – where she would perform them on one tour then retire them for decades. (Still waiting on that ‘Cherish’ resurrection…) ‘Love Profusion’ didn’t even get a tour performance, and I’m cool with that.

I GOT YOU UNDER MY SKIN
I GOT YOU UNDER MY SKIN
I GOT YOU UNDER MY SKIN
I GOT YOU UNDER MY SKIN

The lyrics feel lazy, but today I’ll take it for something lighter, and more innocent and hopeful. Back in 2003, we were ready for that, and in 2021 we are even more ready for it. That doesn’t mean it’s particularly special or groundbreaking, but even when Madonna is pleasantly unremarkable, she’s still a joy to hear.

THERE IS NO COMPREHENSION
THERE IS REAL ISOLATION
THERE IS SO MUCH DESTRUCTION
WHAT I WANT IS A CELEBRATION
AND I KNOW I CAN FEEL BAD
WHEN I GET IN A BAD MOOD
AND THE WORLD CAN LOOK SO SAD
ONLY YOU MAKE ME FEEL GOOD

The video for this is one of my least favorite Madonna videos. I almost wish she didn’t even bother, and the less said about it the better.

I GOT YOU UNDER MY SKIN
I GOT YOU UNDER MY SKIN
I GOT YOU UNDER MY SKIN
I GOT YOU UNDER MY SKIN
AND THE LOVE PROFUSION
YOU MAKE ME FEEL
YOU MAKE ME KNOW
AND THE LOVE INTENTION
YOU MAKE ME FEEL
YOU MAKE ME SHINE
YOU MAKE ME FEEL
YOU MAKE ME SHINE, YOU MAKE ME FEEL

Song #163 – ‘Love Profusion’ – Spring 2003

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