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February 2022

An Expanse of Snow for the Mind

One of the things that prevents many people from meditating is their perceived inability to sit still and quiet their mind. It’s completely understandable, given the nature of this fast-paced world and how we have been trained to expect stimulation at all times. It’s not easy to turn off the mind, especially in the middle of the day. If it’s helpful to meditate first thing in the morning or last thing at night, that’s certainly a good plan. The other technique I’ve found when thoughts impede on my meditation is to focus on a series of images or ideas. In this case, a fall of snow. 

An apt idea, as some of us have had more than a brush with winter storms. So take the image of a snowstorm as it nears its end, and the last few snowflakes are falling to the ground. Or better yet, think of a day when there’s a brief snow squall, and then it stops, as if it hadn’t been snowing at all. In those last moments, picture the snow gradually clearing from the sky, the distracting pings of frozen water landing softly on the ground and leaving an airy stillness in their wake, a wide expanse of clarity and clearness. 

If you can, think of your thoughts the same way – they may flurry, they may fluster, they may rage – but eventually they should slow and subside, like the snowflakes. And if it doesn’t happen today, try again tomorrow. Every snowstorm comes to an end, and eventually even winter will limp away. Spring and summer will come again, and the snow will stop; the same can hold true for your worries and concerns. That’s when the beauty of meditation begins. 

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Why I Stopped Watching the Rest of the Olympics

In the Olympic figure skating world, judges are very much aware of which skaters are known for under-rotated jumps (when a skater goes for, say, a triple and doesn’t quite make the full third spin around) and as such they watch those skaters a little closer, judging them a little harsher because they have a history of under-rotation. While judgment is very much on the specific performance given on the day of competition, the entirety of what brought that skater to that point can’t help but play a part in how they perform – and how they are judged. Their past is undeniably part of their present. 

The same thing is at work when the world watches the Russian doping scandal of 2022, wherein Kamila Valieva was discovered to have tested positive for an illegal drug earlier in the season. For a country that was previously suspended for a state-sponsored doping scheme in the 2014 Olympics, it seemed like more of the same. Yet someone somewhere decided that it was ok for her to compete, despite the fact that she had the drug in her system during the time of her qualifying path to the Olympics. True, she did not test positive while at the Olympics, but she tested positive when everyone else around her was competing against her for a spot at the Olympics. That’s how this works. 

The first story that came out to explain why the drug was in her system was that it was a mix-up with her grandfather’s medication. I don’t buy that. If you’re in the running for the Olympics, and you live in a house with a substance that could get you banned, you make damn sure not to take the wrong pill. As for whether such a drug would help or enhance her performance, there is more of a question, particularly when you consider her powerhouse quads – the first for a woman at the Olympics. But when you are dealing at such a high level of performance, and tenths of a point make all the difference, every little thing counts.

When the decision was made to allow her to compete, skaters like Adam Rippon, Tara Lipinski, and Johnny Weir all posted their disagreement with the call via their social media accounts, as well as numerous others. Their reason for being against allowing Valieva to compete was the same as mine: whether it was her choice, whether it was intentional, or whether it was in the weeks leading up to the Olympics – the fact remained that she tested positive for a banned substance while on the competition path. The other skaters who were being tested as they competed did not test positive. How is this fair to them? 

That’s what it came down to for me – the other skaters. The ones who worked through their Olympic journeys without testing positive, without ‘accidentally’ ingesting a banned substance, without the shadow of a history of doping behind them. I could no longer watch them with the same joy and thrill I felt when suddenly I had to doubt about the veracity of how one of them got there. But I’ll leave the rest of this post to people who know way more about skating that I do:

“Kamila Valieva is allowed to compete. What a dark day this is for the fight against doping in sports.” ~ Christine Brennan 

“I am so angry. The ladies event tomorrow is a complete joke. It’s not a real competition and it most likely won’t even have a medal ceremony. So many Olympic experiences stolen from clean athletes who got here without the help of performance enhancing drugs. What a shame.” ~ Adam Rippon

“I can’t condone the decision. There was a positive drug test, therefore the athlete who tested positive, at fault or not, regardless of age or timing of test/result, should not be allowed to compete against clean athletes.” ~ Johnny Weir

“I strongly disagree with this decision. At the end of the day, there was a positive test and there is no question in my mind that she should not be allowed to compete. Regardless of age or timing of the test/results. I believe this will leave a permanent scar on our sport.” ~ Tara Lipinski 

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Moroccan Hygge

Our friends Gloria and Meredith treated Andy and I to our first dinner at Tara Kitchen the other night and it was an absolute revelation. Unsure of whether the giddiness was from the company or the delicious food, it made for an evening of joy that had me scrambling to find out more about Tara Kitchen, and trying out some tagine recipes, starting with this Vegetable Tagine as seen in full here.

The main thrust of flavor comes from the Ras El Hanout, which I did my best to assemble from scratch – about 12 different spices that combine into one magical mixture that you can keep on hand. I made a big batch since I intend to try out several recipe in the coming weeks. Moroccan tagines are the perfect accompaniment to the season of hygge – warming and hearty, comforting and pleasant, and spicy enough to heat things up in the most frigid of winters. When the spices were mixed well together, this was the beautiful result:

Once they hit the heat, all sorts of delicious aromas broke out, and the kitchen was filled with hope and happiness just ready to dance on the tongue. This veggie tagine was a lovely introduction to Tara Kitchen, and I strongly recommend you give them a try. Check out their website here, which comes complete with recipes and items for purchase (in case you don’t want to make your own Ras El Hanout). 

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Ever In Green

The sun has been deceptively stronger these past few days, filling our Western-exposure bedroom with late afternoon light. Just when it seems the winter is getting unbearable, these breaks of sunlight sustain us to the next day, and I can already feel the way the light lasts a little longer every afternoon. We hang onto that hope, with flowers and dreams and fragrances.

Along with an aforementioned floral bouquet, the greens of evergreens have caught my notice this winter – their refusal to give up green living even in the face of the chilliest temperatures is an exhibition in beautiful defiance. The thuja and junipers in our yard have provided not only an outside bit of beauty, but a wonderful indoor display utilizing just a branch of two. I’ve had several vases of Thuja ‘Steeplechase’ in the attic since the holidays – and they show no signs of letting up. They are a wonderful yet overlooked way of bringing the outdoors in – not the dried and brown desiccated skeletons of branches – but the living, fresh and vibrant backdrop to the blandness of winter. 

If you’re looking to clip a few evergreen boughs for indoors, they benefit from a soak in cold water (‘foliage’ and all) as they may be extremely dry. (Being that I don’t have a big vat of water anywhere, I just set them in the sink and showered them from the faucet.) Then I clipped them at an angle and plopped them in their respective vases. There they remain, as fresh and green as the day they were brought indoors. No rose could last half as long

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Dazzler of the Day: Erin Jackson

Olympic speed skater Erin Jackson raced to a gold medal in the 500 meter event, becoming the first US woman to win that medal since Bonnie Blair in 1994 – she’s also the first Black woman to win an individual gold medal in speed skating ever according to the US Olympic and Paralympic Committee. Today Jackson earns one more honor: Dazzler of the Day, for all of the above reasons. 

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A Lingerie-clad Recap for Valentine’s Day

Rehashing some Valentine-themed photos from the distant post is the best I can muster for this year’s faux-holiday festivities for the day of hearts. Valentine’s Day is traditionally a cheese-fest, and while I’m usually here for such nonsense, it’s a Monday in the middle of winter, and we are going to need more than chocolate and roses to raise the spirits. Luckily, Andy is way more than chocolate and roses, so we shall celebrate quietly and happily at home while the rest of the world goes bonkers for restaurant reservations. If you’re celebrating V-Day, good for you – and if you’re not, even better. On with the weekly recap…

Every morning is better with a cider doughnut.

Of coup and sustenance.

Zac Efron, simply shirtless.

A year beneath the Buddha tree.

Lemon cardamom life.

Little roses.

The unexpected delights of love.

Pause for winter meditation.

Channing Tatum’s naked ass cheek.

Olympic Spotlights fell on Julia Marino, Chris Mazdzer, Mikaela Shiffrin, and Lindsey Jacobellis.

Dazzlers of the Day included Christopher Nassise, Karen Chen, Alan Ritchson, Chloe Kim, Ayumu Hirano, Dylan Efron, and Vanessa James & Eric Radford.

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Channing’s Cheeks

Thank you very much to V Man magazine for capturing these shots of Channing Tatum, in service of his latest film no doubt, and if it’s the fun-looking one with Sandra Bullock in a sequin gown, and cameo by Brad Pitt, I’m all in. Channing has given good face here before, and there are links galore in that post so I won’t bore you with them here, here, or here

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Dazzlers of the Day: Vanessa James & Eric Radford

Representing Canada, Vanessa James and Eric Redford are competing in the ice skating pairs competition, and while Radford is one of several openly-gay male skaters in the sport, James is the only Black female competing in this year’s Olympic figure skating events. Check out this article for more on the dearth of Black figure skaters at the Olympics. Today, James and Radford are crowned Dazzlers of the Day for their quick and spectacular ascension on the ice – they’ve only been together a short time compared to other teams, and in that time they’ve made themselves into a formidable pair. 

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Winter Meditation Pause

We wait here and take in a deep breath – all the way in, expanding the stomach and the lungs and the chest, letting the breath push into every last available space before slowly letting it out again – and in the span of this breath we acknowledge the wonder of winter. Almost halfway through the last full month of the sleepy season, mid-February doesn’t always feel like spring is around the corner, but it’s actually not that far off. 

On this day, I find solace in my daily meditation, to which I’ve incorporated one of the activities in Mathew Sockolov’s somewhat-cumbersomely-titled ‘Practicing Mindfulness: 75 Essential Meditations to Reduce Stress, Improve Mental Health, and Find Peace in the Everyday‘. Currently I’m on #14: ‘Energizing the Mind’ – no comment from the peanut gallery, or any gallery for that matter. I’ve been doing one per day, so by the time I reach #75 we will be well into April, which should be a very happy place to be. 

Even in these socially-isolated times, it’s difficult for some of us to find the quiet in a day. Family obligations and care, work and living-space maintenance, and the mere machinations of an average day make true peace and calm feel like an unattainable state, but it’s not. It simply requires the effort to carve out the space of time for it. Designating ten to fifteen minutes somewhere in a day is not as tough as most of us pretend it is, and it is in this little quarter of an hour in which life can transform.

It didn’t happen on the first day that I meditated – and it didn’t happen on the tenth. I can’t even say it happened on the hundredth day, but on all the days in-between and since, that little sliver of calm grew into a more stable and contented frame of mind that I carried with me throughout the intervening times. That’s the real secret and power of meditation – the way it subtly raises the level and peace and calm that is in all the in-between moments – and those moments form the bulk of our lives. 

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Olympic Spotlight: Lindsey Jacobellis

Check out this math: currently Lindsey Jacobellis has earned almost half of the total gold medals the US has won so far. Jacobellis just won her second gold at Beijing which brings the total US tally to five. Lindsey has made an impressive two-decade career as a snowboard cross-athlete, and these gold medals are amazing for anyone to have earned – that she’s still at the top of her game is nothing short of spectacular. (Let me know when Ice Slipping is an Olympic event – until then I remain a happy non-contender.) Congrats to Lindsey on the double gold accomplishment.

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Dazzler of the Day: Dylan Efron

Outdoor adventurer Dylan Efron earns his first Dazzler of the Day thanks to an incendiary Instagram account – a colorful, beautiful, and awe-inspiring collection of exciting photos from his various journeys. It’s not always easy to live in the perceived shadow of a famous sibling (see Zac Efron) but Dylan seems to have found his own path to follow, and his very own inspiration to conjure. 

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Love, The Unexpected Delight

Flowers for Valentine’s Day are over-priced and overly-familiar, two things that should be avoided at all costs. But flowers on any other day are welcome and adored, appreciated for their beauty as much as the unexpected delight they produce. I was reminded of that when Andy returned home from a trip to the market with this beautiful bouquet of lilies and irises, two favorite flowers that transformed the entire house with their cheery visage and intoxicating perfume. 

It wasn’t just the happy connotation with summer and sunnier days that they produced, but the unexpected pleasure of their appearance on an otherwise-unremarkable and ho-hum day. That’s the mark of a good husband: anyone can check the boxes off for a holiday – it’s the ones who check the boxes on all the other days that are to be cherished. 

The soft pink and purple color palette at work eases these mid-February days, when the whole world feels constricted and bothered by winter. Andy and I have been mostly keeping inside, cozy ensconced near the hearth of our home, quietly marking and inhabiting each day as it passes. We watch the elongating light, the way the sun begins making rainbows for longer periods in the bedroom as it passes through the crystal-topped finial of a lamp. Spring feels closer now, almost within grasp. 

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Little Roses

A hint, perhaps, of what magic is yet to come, and very much a reminder of much magic that has been before, these little roses may very well be the scent of the season, or the year. While Tom Ford works his enchantment with this classic floral base in his current trio of Private Blends, let’s look back at the wonder of the rose. 

The effervescent offering of ‘Rose & Cuir’ from Frederic Malle’s line is a fresh and summery take on the classic June rose, even as it lacks some of the leathery cuir aspect a few expected from such a name. For that more complex combo, Malle’s collection also has a darker rose scent for evenings, ‘Portrait of a Lady’, one that really only works in the more bewitching hours. 

Back to Tom Ford, he’s been in the rose garden before, with his gorgeously smoky ‘Oud Fleur’ which is one of the fragrances that brought me into how exquisite, and modern, the rose can truly be. Such modernity moves into a timelessness that deserves celebration. We could use some of that indulgence this year. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Ayumu Hirano

In a thrilling halfpipe routine that left the commentators breathless, Japan’s Ayumu Hirano earned a gold medal in Beijing yesterday, solidifying an ascension to the previous perch of Shaun White. Hirano is crowned Dazzler of the Day for his impressive performance, especially as his second run was ridiculously under-scored and he came back to show the judges who was boss. 

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Lemon Cardamom Life

After conquering my fear of yeast and dough with this ensaymada moment, I turned my attention to a recipe that Suzie brought to us a while ago – a recipe that she has made for us twice already at my relentless urging. It’s a sweet Lemon Cardamom Roll that is simple of ingredient (the only things you may not have on hand are the lemons and cardamom and buttermilk, maybe the yeast if you’re like me) and relatively simple of assembly. The main thing I had to come to terms with in these yeast recipes is the double rise that is integral to puffy and light results. Before that, their appearance can be a little scary, and the first look at how they fill (or don’t quite fill) the prescribed 9″ x 13″ pan had me panic-texting Suzie. 

It’s an exercise in patience and method, inhabiting and experiencing every step of the process, not rushing, and trusting in the yeast and the rise. The mindfulness that can be a part of baking has only just started to reveal itself. It’s something that Suzie has enjoyed for years, and one of the reasons her work turns out so well. 

As for the second rise in this instance, it worked! The rolls spread out and filled their pan, and they weren’t done yet…

Swirls of sugar and lemon zest and cardamom, delineated by a layer of butter, is the perfect embodiment of hygge, and a lovely, cozy, comfort food designed for sharing. And still, it wasn’t quite done…

A cream cheese, powdered sugar and lemon juice frosting is the decadent touch that puts it right over the top. That only three ingredients could lead to such spectacular flavor is a marvel that never fails to thrill me. Baking is good for the soul

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