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June 2021

The Stall & Savor

A week ago as of this writing, Skip and I were just embarking upon our BroSox Adventure 2021. I’ve been stalling and putting off writing about it because I didn’t want to break the spell. Once I’ve written about it, it’s well and truly over. In some ways I’ve been extending and enjoying the fun of it all, living off the excitement and laughter we were so starved for over the past two years. Of course I’ll get to summing up this year’s adventures, and misadventures, I just want to hold onto the memory of it before putting it all down for posterity. 

The tricks we play on ourselves, the way we emotionally convince our minds to play along with whatever gets us through the damn day – I don’t begrudge anyone for what they have to do to make it all work. 

As for the eventual repository of the BroSox Adventure 2021 that I will write up here at some point, get ready for an epic return to form. Part of me anticipated a muted and more mature evolution of our Red Sox trip to start off the summer season. That part of me was woefully and wonderfully wrong. Stay tuned… and to give you a hint of things to come, let’s just say I may not legally be allowed to ride in an Uber for the immediate future. 

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Laughing in the Face of Mistakes

Eradicating perfectionism one misstep at a time

That is my new mantra

It’s quite apt for a period of Mercury in retrograde.

So take this Friday afternoon off and relax. 

Laugh the week away. 

It’s almost summer

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Crimes of a Gardener

Most true plant enthusiasts, if we are being brutally honest with ourselves, have turned to a life of crime at one time or another. Whether it’s the quick clipping of a plant cutting from a greenhouse stuffed surreptitiously into a pocket, or the midnight cut of a lilac branch from a public park, most people who are passionate about plants and flowers have succumbed to the mostly harmless temptation of taking something that wouldn’t really be missed, or might otherwise shrivel away. I always think of my criminal actions when I see the bright blooms of the evening primrose. 

We had a nasty neighbor – well, she seemed nasty to a sensitive child because she had absolutely no tolerance for the foolishness of wicked boys (I’d probably get on quite well with her today) – who cultivated a couple of refined and simple gardens – all of which were right off the sidewalk in front of her house – no gate, no hedges, no impediment of any kind for an ill-intending garden thief who only wanted a small bit of her evening primrose that needed to be divided and cut back anyway. 

The evening primrose (Oenothera) is a reliable signifier of summer – its blooms appear right around the solstice, opening in the bright light of day and closing at dusk. They appear in great quantity, but they don’t last that long, so it’s a trade-off. They will occasionally throw out some sporadic blooms throughout the summer, but this is their main time to show off. The plant spreads quite quickly in a sunny spot it likes, and so I didn’t think our neighbor would miss them, or even know, if I took a small bit from the back of one of her extensive patches. 

Late at night, I snuck into her garden, quickly dug out the smallest of pieces of primrose, and hurried home, depositing it into our backyard garden (not the front because that would be too telling when it bloomed the following year). I’m not proud of this, and don’t recommend stealing of any kind, even if you think it won’t matter or make a difference. Clearly it still weighs on my heart and conscience all these many years later, and the neighbor had long ago moved so there’s no way to achieve any sort of reparation for what I did. Maybe I’m a better person for operating in a more honorable way since then, who knows. I didn’t tumble into a life of crime, and every time these sunny blooms open up and remind us of summer, I’m reminded to be a little better, a little more aware of my actions, a little less, well, criminal. 

As for these Oenothera blooms, they are descendants of that initial brush with thievery, as these plants took off in our garden and have spread reliably and almost invasively ever since. I don’t think our neighbor even noticed. And that still doesn’t make it right. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Quinta Brunson

A hilariously brilliant writer, comedian, actress and producer, Quinta Brunson first came to my delighted attention during her Instagram series ‘Girl Who Has Never Been On A Nice Date’. The thought of her happy shock at the movie refreshment stand will always make me laugh. She’s got a new book out that goes a little deeper, ‘She Memes Well’, and it’s a breath of fresh air from a new generation. Anyone who can make me laugh and think a little deeper about things deserves to be a Dazzler of the Day.

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Imitation of Orange Blossom

The mock orange, aptly named of its convincing approximation of the sweetness of an orange blossom’s perfume, is one of those unassuming and almost weed-like shrubs that only shines at this time of the year, but it shines so sweetly and so memorably that we will put up with its otherwise drab appearance. There are often such trade-offs in the garden. Some of the most spectacular visions and colors – such as coreopsis or evening primrose – are entirely devoid of any notable fragrance. Meanwhile, such plants as the mock orange and Korean viburnum offer potent perfume without any other visual excitement. 

Being that I have a few fond memories of the mock orange perfume from childhood, it is worth it to have a couple plants on hand, even if this magic is doomed to last but a week at the most. Two of them came with the house, and the other one is a nursery specimen. All could stand to have a little extra care, something I’m guilty of neglecting as they are such stalwart souls. 

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Happily Ever Andy

Only Andy and I, and a few select Audi associates, will ever truly understand the epic failure and subsequent journey that was undertaken and endured to reach this smiling point of happiness with a vehicle. As any regular reader will tell you, Andy is all about his car. He has a photo album of every car he’s ever owned or leased, like a proud parent or grandparent, and he religiously researches and keeps up to date on all the latest news about whichever model currently occupies the garage. It’s his passion and his hobby, and one of the three things I looked for in a mate all those years ago. (When we were young and foolish enough to demand such things in a partner, one of the things I wanted was someone who was passionate about something – it didn’t need to be anything that I liked or enjoyed, it just had to be something about which they were excited and knowledgable about – and in Andy’s case that was cars. I still get a kick out of watching him peruse his car magazines and figuring out which car package would work best in any given situation.) 

His last Audi was a lemon of the most sour variety – you couldn’t eve make lemonade with how dangerous it was getting. (The automatic correction thingie almost smacked us into a truck on the Mass Turnpike.) Luckily, he reached an agreement on a new car with the local Audi dealership, so for now things are looking up after a year-long nightmare. His smile says it all, and I have a sleek new ride to work.

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Saratoga Lunch/Movie Date

“This is ridiculous. It’s crazy. I feel like I’m babysitting, except I’m not getting paid.” – The Goonies

The last time I was able to properly hang out with the Ilagan twins was in the fall of 2020, and then we were bound by six feet of distance and masks, while also relegated to the outside yard and garage. It was perfect for a treasure hunt as the seasons tipped into the cozy realm, but like all things in the age of COVID, far less than desirable. 

Luckily, with the restrictions lifting, and the twins more staunchly entrenched in the mask-wearing than most adults I know, it was finally all right for us to see a movie and go to lunch together, so I picked them up from Amsterdam for an afternoon of fun. 

We took the back roads, the way I used to go to oboe lessons every Wednesday for most of my high school years. I still recalled the winding path that led through Galway and on into Saratoga, and we ended up making it to Broadway without the need of GPS. A lovely lunch at The Mercantile was followed by an ice cream treat down the street, and then it was time for the movie.

The first time my brother and I saw ‘The Goonies’ was when it opened and my Dad took us on a rare father-sons excursion. We thrilled at the company and the movie on the big screen, and now I felt a similar thrill taking my niece and nephew to see it. Life moves in such circles sometimes, and I’m not sorry that it does. 

As these kids grow older, I feel the passing of time, especially int he last year and a half that we have all lost because of COVID, and if I indulged in too much ice cream or M&Ms on the popcorn, I’m not sorry about that either. We have some catching up to do.

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The Rugged Rose

Rosa rugosa is the beach rose that so brilliantly survives the harshest of conditions (hello salty sea spray) to reward with these simple but fragrant blooms. They are on the thornier side of the rose family, without a single space on the stem that isn’t populated by prickles, but that kind of toughness is needed when you’re in a daily battle with the harsh elements that their preferred seaside locations demand. 

Happily, this specimen only has to contend with the sun and heat and winds and rains of an upstate New York summer, and the occasional splash of pool water if someone is making extra efforts to cannonball. While a little rough around the edges for a formal garden, I’ve maintained its size and shape with some heavy pruning in the spring, and it’s stayed within its prescribed boundaries rather well for the past five years. It seems to enjoy a heavy pruning, and I love a plant that’s not afraid to lose its limbs in the hopes of growing greater ones. 

I also love its fragrance, which brings me back to Ogunquit and Cape Cod in the best possible ways

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A Financier – or the Pac-Man Ghost Goodie

The almond-tinged deliciousness known as the financier is traditionally made in the form of a small, rectangular cake form, like a tiny loaf of bite-size bread. For this initial attempt, I used a fancier form, which used twice the amount of batter, yielding only six financiers – and luckily that was just enough. That batch was for Suzie and her family in honor of her birthday, and they are amiable guinea pigs when it comes to trial desserts, and happily they seemed to enjoy them. The financier is easy to assemble. Its sweet almond goodness is made richer through the employment of brown butter (which is merely butter boiled to the point of turning brown, imbuing it with a caramelized-like decadence and depth). 

The end result, when I tipped them out of their molds, looked less like the mini-bundt cake I wanted and more like the ghosts from a childhood game of Pac-Man. I like ‘Pac-Man Ghost Goodie’ better as a name anyway, so I’ll see if I can add a new twist to make these more Pac-Man-like. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Andrea Jenkins

Continuing our celebration of Pride Month, Andrea Jenkins is our Dazzler of the Day, thanks to their impressive quest on bettering the world through art, activism, and politics. Andrea’s website offers a more detailed glimpse into their powerful, current, and ongoing legacy:

Andrea Jenkins is a poet, writer and multimedia visual and performance artist, author of two chapbooks, “tributaries: poems celebrating black history” and “Pieces of A Scream”.
 In 2011 Andrea was named a Bush Fellow, and received the Many Voices Fellowship at the Playwrights’ Center and The Cultural Community Leadership Institute Fellowship through Intermedia Arts. Most recently she was published in the anthology Gender Outlaws II: The Next Generation. She has been a part of the local poetry community for several years, earning awards, fellowships and commissions during that time, including the 2002 Loft Literary Center Mentorship Series Award.
She is a Senior Policy Aide to the 8th Ward City Council Member Elizabeth Glidden and serves on the boards of OutFront Minnesota, Forecast Public Art, and SMARTS.
She has one beautiful daughter, Nia, and two equally beautiful granddaughters, Aniyah and Kennedy. Andrea co-curates Intermedia Arts’ Queer Voices Reading Series with John Medeiros, one of the longest running LGBT reading series in the country.

In 2010, she was awarded the Naked Stages Grant from The Jerome Foundation and Pillsbury House Theater and the Verve Grant for Spoken Word from The Jerome Foundation and Intermedia Arts. She is a 2008 Givens Foundation Black Writers Fellow, 2005 Napa Valley Writers Conference scholarship winner, 2002 Loft Mentor Series Fellow and a four-time Cave Canem Regional Fellow. She has studied with many notable poets and writers, including Amiri Baraka, Alexs Pate, J.Otis Powell!, Elizabeth Alexander, Cornelius Eady, Wang Ping, Harryette Mullen, Mary Jo Bang, Nikky Finney, Natasha Tretheway, Major Jackson, E. Ethelbert Miller, Haki Madhubuti, Deborah Keenan, Patricia Kirkpatrick, and Tyehimba Jess. 

“Art serves many purposes; it can heal, educate, entertain, and challenge. Art is a tool for speaking out because it has the ability to transform people. I try to use my art to give agency and dignity to Transgender people and Black people all over the world.” Andrea JenkinsAndrea Jenkins is an out Transgender poet, writer, visual artist, and community activist. She holds a Bachelors of Art degree in Human Services and Interpersonal Communications from Metropolitan State University, a Masters of Science in Community Economic Development from Southern New Hampshire University, and a Masters of Fine Art in Creative Writing from Hamline University.   

Her work has appeared several journals and local newspapers, including most recently, Gender Outlaws: The Next Genderation, edited by Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman, Pear Press, 2010. She has two chapbooks, “tributaries: poems celebrating black history”, and “Pieces of A Scream”, Purple Lioness Productions. 

Active in the local, national and international arts scene, Andrea has performed at HousingWorks Bookstore in New York City, and at Toronto Pride in Toronto, Canada. In the Twin Cities you’ve likely seen her at the Loft Literary Center, The Guthrie Theater, Penumbra Theater, Pillsbury House Theater, Intermedia Arts, The Center for Independent Artist, Intermedia Arts, Patrick’s Cabaret, The Black Dog Cafe, Metropolitan State University, Macalester College, University of Minnesota, and several other venues too numerous to name.

As a visual artist Andrea has exhibited in group shows at: 

-Pillsbury House, Obsidian Arts, “Balls”, September 2010

-Rau & Barber Studios, Kingfield Neighborhood Association, “Thinking Outside The Box”, February, 2010

-Minnesota State Fairgrounds, Curator, Roslye Ultan “Recycling Art”, May 2010

-Minneapolis Institute of Arts (MAEP), THE FOOT IN THE DOOR SHOW’, February, 2010

-Soap Factory, “Soul on Ice: Fifty African American Minnesota Artists”, 2008,

-Andrea serves on several non-profit boards including Forecast Public Arts, SMARTS, Outfront Minnesota, and The Metropolitan State Alumni Board. She co-curates the Queer Voices Reading Series with John Medeiros at Intermedia Arts and works for the 8th Ward City Councilmember, Elizabeth Glidden.

-In 2009 she was the winner the “Power of One Award”, by P-Fund LGBT Community Foundation

-Intermedia Arts named her a “Changemaker”, and Twin Cities Black Pride awarded her the Social Justice and Advocacy Award in 2010.

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A Retrograde Recap

The best way to get through a period of Mercury in retrograde motion is to change your attitude and expectations. If you anticipate some set-backs and insanity, when those incidents muck things up it doesn’t feel as bad. Expecting the worst doesn’t sound like the best way to live life, so it’s not quite that – it’s more of rolling with the punches – the expected punches that life doles out. And so we see something like this peony, drooping from a torrential rainstorm that comes along in June, but captured from below to show its face to the world. Expected disappointment turned on its head. On with the weekly recap…

The flower of an untrue maple.

An old friend named Clem.

The birthday of a bestie in a bonnet.

What a difference a branch makes

Boston x Pride.

The official unofficial start of summer, and summer starts with a song. 

Finches interrupted.

Trying tomatoes twice.

Creamy summer palette.

Lessons in pink.

Dazzlers of the Day included Eli Lieb, Orville Peck, Xander Bogaerts, Rafael Devers, J.D. Martinez, Simone Biles, and Anthony Ramos.

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Lessons in Pink

After decades of trying to bend the will and shade of these hydrangeas I have finally accepted their refusal to be anything other than light pink, and more than that I am embracing such a choice because that’s what they were born to be. Amending the soil with acidifiers and coffee grounds and rusted nails would momentarily yield a more bluish tone, but invariably they returned to purple and then pink, and appreciating a plant for its natural state in its home soil is another valuable lesson that the garden has imparted.

Forcing things, aside from bulbs in the midst of winter, rarely turns out well, and nature will always work around it. A river bends but rarely breaks. These hydrangeas yearn to be pink, and being pink is part of their basic make-up, their interior soul that always finds expression at one point or another. 

It’s so much simpler to enjoy a blooming hydrangea when you embrace whatever shade it deigns to appear as. And who could ever find fault with pink and cream and green? 

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Dazzler of the Day: Anthony Ramos

Second only to the anticipation I felt regarding ‘Cruella’ (more on that later) is the anticipation and excitement I feel about the movie version of ‘In the Heights’ – and some of that glee is due to this Dazzler of the Day, Anthony Ramos. An alum of ‘Hamilton‘, Ramos has also been featured here as a previous Hunk of the Day. Now he is once more set to take the world by storm in what looks to be the movie event of the summer. 

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Creamy Summer Palette

Favoring strong and vibrant and super-saturated colors, I’ve always enjoyed the bright and powerful, as found in fuchsia or chartreuse or neon orange, yet as I get older, and seek out calm in atmosphere and all sorts of interiors, I’ve come to appreciate and enjoy a more subdued and monotonous color palette, particularly place and scenes that employ just one or two colors – like ivory and green. 

That combination has been in full effect these past couple of weeks, as the Chinese dogwood and the climbing hydrangea combine to create this magical effect or creams and ivories against bright green – all of it backed by the varying blues of the sky. 

The bouquets I’ve made of late employ similar monochromatic themes, lending an elegance and simplicity that is easy on the eyes, and calm on the soul. 

Nature knows what she is doing. Trust in her. Follow her examples. She will never lead you astray. 

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Potted Tomatoes, Take Two

Last year Andy and I returned to the world of summer tomato gardening with a couple of potted plants on the patio. They did not all do well, with the larger varieties teasing but failing to complete their fruiting responsibilities. It was the cherry tomatoes that gave us the most substantial bang for the buck, producing buckets of fruit from just one plant trained on a pretty trellis. This summer I vowed to do mostly cherry tomato pants, as the others did not produce as much. 

This week they began their blooming, so we may be back in the tomato business sooner than expected. There really is nothing quite as delicious as a simple tomato and mayo sandwich on a sunny afternoon, especially when the tomatoes come from your own garden.

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