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May 2017

Boston Wedding Anniversary #7 ~ Part 6

After our wedding ceremony seven years ago, our dear family friend Elaine took us out to the Bristol Lounge at the Four Seasons for a wedding lunch. The meal was divine (they are known for some impeccable burgers) but what took it into stratospheric heights was a sky-high/mile-high/heaven-high chocolate cake. It was a multi-layered decadent experience that must have required its own course for how to slice it ~ so high did it rise. It was more than enough to feed every member of our party.

Ever since that moment, when we each took a piece of this decadent chocolate goodness, we’ve been seeking out such sweet salvation, but everything has proven elusively out of reach. Andy has come close a couple of times, but nothing could match the towering magnificence of that cake. It has remained a delicious memory all this time.

For our anniversary lunch, I settled in for an oceanic-slanted treat, beginning with the raw oysters you see here, and following it up with a lovely lobster roll (and truffle parmesan fries). We were slated to have a meaty dinner at Boston Chops later that evening, so I stayed seaside for my selection. Andy went with a spicy chicken offering for his choice. We looked out over Boylston to the Boston Public Garden. The rain had started up again, and our timing worked out perfectly. Not so much for the couple that was also trying to get married. Their party stood huddled beneath a makeshift white tent. (I will always be grateful for the beautiful day we were lucky enough to have had.)

As we were putting aside our napkins, our server appeared with the towering delight you see here. Someone had gotten wind of how much we had enjoyed this cake the first time around, and had been good enough to send out a new one for our anniversary. The Four Seasons has some fiercely impressive customer service, and I have to put out this public note of thanks and gratitude for such gracious and thoughtful gift. (I also sent them a traditional hand-written thank-you note because that’s my style, and it was the least I could do for such a wonderful treat.) We are not worthy, but we will spread word of this goodness as far and wide as we can.

It was a highlight of our wedding weekend, and it was a highlight of our 7th anniversary. Boston has always made us feel loved.

Our stomachs more than satiated, we walked back to the condo to prepare for our evening: an early showing of ‘The Bridges of Madison County’ at the SpeakEasy Stage Company, followed by cocktails in the South End, then dinner at Boston Chops. The perfect Saturday plan…

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Boston Wedding Anniversary #7 ~ Part 5

It swam from the other side of the pond. A trio of ducks was swimming in the other direction, leaving perfect lines of water like three fighter jets, but the swan crossed them without a fluttering of its pristine wings. We stood beneath the shelter where lines usually waited to board the swan boats. They weren’t running today due to the inclement weather.

The swan approached, its majesty and magnificence in full regal effect. These are gorgeous creatures, but can be dangerous too. A swift blow from one of their awesome wings has been known to break human bones.

Andy watched intently as a foolish family stood by the pond’s edge feeding it. A little boy held out his hand, but the swan did not nip. I was more afraid for what Andy would do than I was what the swan might do (and he later confirmed my suspicion saying he would have had to go in after the kid if the swan grabbed for food and ended up pulling the boy in). According to Andy, parents tended to freeze in such moments.

We watched the swan take the proffered snacks unhurriedly and without timidity or trepidation. I herded us along before the temptation to rescue anyone became too strong, because if Andy went in after someone, I would have to go in after Andy.

The swan swam away as we headed in the direction of the Four Seasons, a usual lunch haunt that had special meaning…

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Boston Wedding Anniversary #7 ~ Part 4

I returned to the condo to pick Andy up, and check on the progress of the peony, and by the time we were ready to head out for the annual Cleaning of the Rings, the rain had lifted a little more. It’s been our tradition at this time of the year to have our wedding rings cleaned at the establishment where we purchased them: Shreve, Crump & Low. (It also affords Andy a peek at some dream time pieces that start at about the price of a Boston bathroom renovation.)

Our umbrellas went up and down a couple of times, as the day was still undecided as to what it was going to do. Our shoes were ill-equipped for such dampness, but we soldiered through, and soon we were back in the lobby of the Taj Hotel, where we spent our wedding weekend seven years ago.

Whenever I’m in the area, I’ll poke my head into the Taj, and when Andy is around he’ll do the same. On this morning, it was very pink, but missing the peonies that so splendidly filled the lobby on the original weekend. It was still pretty enough, with loads of cherry blossoms and vibrant hydrangeas to make up for the peonies’ late start.

We crossed the street into the Boston Public Garden, and were promptly greeted by one of our wild friends there. He seemed especially keen on cozying up to Andy, who indulged in some chit-chat and Instagram photos.

Strolling through the garden, we approached the footbridge, near the spot where the swan boats anchored. We ducked into the little shelter there and waited out another wave of rain. A swan approached from across the pond…

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Boston Wedding Anniversary #7 ~ Part 3

We woke to rain. A steady rainfall is not an unhappy environment in which to fall asleep, but waking to it on a day when you want to walk around is a different story. I went back to sleep for a bit, and when at last I rolled out of bed, the rain had subsided slightly. The sky was brighter, though there was no sign of the sun coming anytime soon. I let Andy sleep while I caught up on the shopping I’d originally intended to finish the night before.

The sky seemed undecided on what it wanted to do. I walked for stretches without an umbrella, and then the rain would fall with greater force, forcing me to open it up. Along Newbury Street, others seemed to be having the same indeterminate conversation with themselves ~ half of us held onto open umbrellas, the remainder hurried along intent on ignoring the situation entirely. I paused to admire a stand of tulips in full bloom and fettered with tiny water droplets. Bound with such beauty, they took on an aspect of freshness that might have been missing on a sunnier day.

A rainy Saturday in May can be a dreadfully dreary proposition, especially when one knows how good such a thing would be with just a little more sunlight. To combat this, I adorned myself in cheery colors (buttercup-yellow pants and a wedgewood-blue raincoat) along with a cheery fragrance (‘Vivaciously Bold’ by Diana Vreeland).

All the while, our peony opened up more and slowly lightened its petals. The deep rose of before was ripening into a coral that glowed with every bit of light it reflected. It was a globe of enchanting beauty, with a fragrance that was entirely new to my limited knowledge of the peony world.

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Boston Wedding Anniversary #7 ~ Part 2

Arriving in the rain (because there was no other way to arrive) we hustled into the Hawthorne Bar, just a few doors down from our dinner destination, Eastern Standard. The Hawthorne is one of my favorite spots in Boston, and the perfect cozy spot for a rainy evening. On hand is a unique list of specialty cocktails, along with recommendations for whatever spirits you favor. I continued the Eastside kick I’ve been on of late, and Andy tried out the Hemingway daiquiri once I assured him it did not come in a big-ass daiquiri glass with a rod of fruit sticking out of it. We were equally pleased with our choices.

After our cocktails, and the requisite Instagramming of said libations, we hurried down the street to Eastern Standard. Despite the years I’ve been in Boston, and the years that ES has been around, this was the first time I’ve made it into the place. It was worth the wait, with its handsome interior, and another list of glorious cocktails. My mind was more intent on the oysters you see here ~ roasted for a switch, and amended with breadcrumbs and good stuff to give it just the right slant for a cold night.

They also sent out a pair of glasses filled with sparkling rosé wine for our anniversary, the very best sort of surprise when one is visiting a restaurant for a special occasion. It was a lovely cap for our first dinner, and we piled back into a car despite the fact that the rain was letting up. (Alas, it was but a tease, and the rain would continue into the next day…)

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Boston Wedding Anniversary #7 – Part 1

It began in the rain, but that’s usually an auspicious sign, particularly for wedding-related items, such as 7th anniversaries. We traveled to Boston to celebrate ours, and arrived in a downpour of badly-needed wet stuff. For me, it was mostly an annoyance, and it was so heavy that my Friday shopping plans were put on hold. Instead, we padded around the cozy condo before it was time to head to drinks and dinner.

There were cheese and crackers, and a pear that was just ripe enough to eat. There was also a perfect peony just beginning to open up on the table, left for us by my Mom. Somehow, and often in the most unlikely of ways, the peony returns to help us celebrate this weekend. This one was almost magical in the way it unfurled its color-shifting beauty ~ gradually shifting from the deep pink hue you see here to a range of gorgeous shades that I’ll reveal as we go along.

A special night calls for a special statement necklace. The statement I wanted to make, however, didn’t shout, so I pulled just a few strands of turquoise stones from the pile. It’s so much better than a tie.

As Cole Porter standards played on the stereo, and the light inside became brighter than the fading light outside, and the continuous sound of rain pittered and pattered on the windows, Andy ordered an Uber to bring us to Kenmore for our dining adventures. Our wedding anniversary weekend had begun…

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A Glimpse of Anniversary Adventures

I’ll do a more in-depth chronicle of our recent anniversary in Boston a little later – for now just a tantalizing glimpse of how beautiful the city can be at this time of the year, even when it rains. These petals had to come from somewhere…

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Zac Efron Shirtless Golfing

I didn’t realize that golfing was a shirtless sport.

That certainly shifts things for me.

Previously, the only thing that ever enticed me about golf was the opportunity to wear weird checkered garb.

But if Zac Efron wants to take his shirt off and show me how to do it, I’ll change my tune.

Like he did here.

And here.

And here.

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Pietro Boselli in Tighty Whities

There’s something magical that happens when Pietro Boselli strips down to a pair of white briefs, but you don’t have to take my word for it. Scroll down for some GIFs that clearly exhibit that magic. And then try this link, and this link, and this link to witness even more.

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Now Bring Us Some Figgy Perfume

My anniversary gift from Andy is typically a new fragrance, and this year proved no different. With Tom Ford’s latest Private Blend proving a re-tread of his ‘Mandarino di Amalfi’ I couldn’t justify that price point with something so similar, and though Hermès is my usual go-to spring scent (the wondrous Jardin series by Jean-Claude Ellena remains a vibrant seasonal accent) I was somewhat at a loss as to what to get. (This is a luxurious conundrum in which to find oneself. I can’t recommend it highly enough. I’m lucky to lead such a charmed life, and I am grateful.)

The question over what new fragrance might tickle my olfactory fancy was decided as soon as I took another swing through Atelier’s Cologne Absolue line. I’d tried them all a while back, but fragrance needs to evolve for me. Very rarely does the first sniff or trial run result in instant love. I need to be wooed. Teased. Convinced.

That happened relatively quickly with a few sprays of the ‘Figuier Ardent’ – a lovely twist on the common fig. Slightly fruity, slightly sweet – two things I abhor in a cocktail but eagerly drink up on my skin – this is a slightly watery fragrance as well, which is why it tips into a realm I can eagerly appreciate. Perfect for the crux of spring and summer.

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An After-Anniversary Recap

As Andy and I decompress from a fun, if wet, anniversary weekend in Boston (more on that to come), here’s a quick recap of the week that came before. It’s a cool Monday morning in May, and we wait for the temperatures to match our spirits.

Our annual Broadway tradition is almost in motion, and Mom and I are ready to The Towers at Lotte New York Palace.

The Met Gala is always about Madonna for me.

Happy dirty.

Cherries popping.

Lilac season.

Naked bedlam, white sheets.

Matisse remastered.

Tour Super Trouper.

Naked tour recap.

No thorns here.

A dose of cuteness.

Our 7th wedding anniversary.

An amazing production of ‘The Bridges of Madison County’ at the SpeakEasy Stage Company.

Hunks of the Day included Nathaniel Buzolic, Matt Adlard, and Christiaan Smith.

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Covered or Uncovered, These ‘Bridges’ Soar

Having seen the original Broadway production of ‘The Bridges of Madison County’ not that long ago, I was slightly skeptical about how Boston’s first go at it would fare. It isn’t easy to follow in Kelli O’Hara and Steven Pasquale’s magical footsteps, but with its inventive and evocative minimalist set, and the performances of a stellar cast, I found myself even more moved than the first time around. Like the romance of its star-crossed lovers, the show’s Broadway life was cut short much too fast, but Jason Robert Brown’s compelling score was too beautiful not to live on. The SpeakEasy Stage Company’s production of ‘Bridges’, thanks in no small part to a perfectly-cast ensemble, proves that this powerful work deserves another telling.

The music is romantic and lush in a way that originally seems at odds with its environs, but when one considers that these characters live mostly in their hearts, their landscape suddenly opens up to the expanses that only love could allow. Their happiness and hope soar in the melodies, their pain and heartache crash in unresolved chords, and by the end of the show, there is such a longing for a happy ending that it can only find expression in a few lingering notes.

That kind of extreme emotion must find delicate fruition in the carefully executed characters of Francesca and Robert, who, judging from a few gasps at the initial instigation of their illicit romance, have an uphill climb to win over the audience with what is essentially an affair, star-crossed or not. There is the moral dilemma of this, but a more basic marital dilemma is expounded upon as well, and for those who found the book too cloying, or the movie too depressing, a relatively-happy medium is reached thanks to the music and the setting. Both serve as a conduit for this difficult treatise on love, and both rely on the performances of the three leads. Thankfully, each point of the triangle is anchored by a powerhouse portrayal, and each propels the story into exquisite territory.

Jennifer Ellis perfectly embodies the transformative journey that Francesca goes through over the four days of the story, beginning as a slightly weary housewife, then reaching into her past and a possible future, taking all the pain and panic that goes along with it, to make her choice. That it is indeed her choice makes her an ironically powerful figure. With such power comes a responsibility – to protect the love she has found – in her family and in her possible soulmate – and she manages to do both, as heartbreaking as it becomes. Ellis deftly navigates the tricky turns of Francesca’s emotional arc, with an endearing Italian lilt and wide-eyed wonder at a world that somehow eluded her but has against all odds come within her grasp. Christiaan Smith channels a buffer and younger Clint Eastwood, but emotes quite a bit more with a powerful baritone that reveals vulnerability and the ultimate breaking of his stoic solitude. The thankless role of cuckholded husband can easily veer into villain or victim, but to Christopher Chew’s credit, his portrayal of Bud hovers directly on the line between the two. That you still don’t know who is right or who is wrong by the end is a testament to all three actors. That you care for them so much is a testament to Jason Robert Brown’s music, and a company and production that works on every level.

Spirited, and surprisingly moving, turns by Kerry A. Dowling and Will McGarrahan give both comic relief and layers of complexity to life at the Johnson farm, and it is the love of a town that may tip the scale in Francesca’s ultimate decision. Brown’s luscious score, under the masterful hand of Matthew Stern, helms this majestic musical ship, and it is a credit to director M. Bevin O’Gara that each detail she elicits works to bring it through the maelstrom that occurs when love and passion meet. The set design evokes the stark, harsh Iowa land, but subtle projections and lighting transport the viewer all the way to Italy, over the ocean, and across the human heart. These bridges form the way we connect the different maps of those hearts, and whether that love is the safe and stalwart bonds of a family and a home, or the passionate thrills of an unknown but destined lover, the act of choosing love is always better.

{‘The Bridges of Madison County’ is playing at the SpeakEasy Stage Company in Boston through June 3, 2017.}

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Present Moment Tour Recap

This is the first (and last) tour that documented my wanderings more or less as they happened. It was a rare mix of present and past, as I posted what was in the Tour Book, then followed it up with where I had been in real time. That’s a lot of work, and I don’t get paid for this, but it was a labor of love for one’s last tour. The final delusions must be honored. Respect must be paid. Now, as I wind down one more time, a look back at the places I’ve been.

Everything kicked off at The Illuminati Party in August of 2015. That same month I made the first tour stop to Cape Cod, to visit JoAnn and the Cape Crew, along with the visiting Brits for a weekend of fun introductions. My 40th birthday was part of this tour, and I spent it at the Judy Garland suite of the Lenox Hotel in Boston. It was a definite highlight, and I still have the stuffed lion who greeted us with a bottle of champagne. (The champagne is long since gone.)

The next month brought the first major air jaunt of the tour, as I made my way west to Seattle, and my first return there since the late 90’s. It was better than I remembered it – more verdant, more delicious, more beautiful, more everything. And I got to see the whales.

At the end of September, Suzie and I made our way to Boston for Madonna’s Rebel Heart Tour. Some things are meant to be, as when Andy and I closed out the 2015 season in Ogunquit, Maine. By November, Chris and I were living it up at the Standard High Line in New York.

Knowing that this tour would be a long and extended one, I deliberately took it easy travel-wise for the winter, and aside from a few trips to Boston, there was no real movement until I flew to Washington, DC for a long weekend in April 2016. The following month my Mom and I made our annual trek to Broadway to see a few shows (one, two, three), and the next week Andy and I returned to Ogunquit to start the spring/summer season all over again. Skip and I made it to see another Red Sox game in Boston, and I got back to Albany in time to dazzle at the GLSEN Pride Gala.

My birthday last year was spent traveling to Rehoboth Beach, which turned out to be a spectacular trip for us, and another tour highlight. I’d forgotten the simple wonders and pull of the beach. In September 2016 I was back in Washington, DC before Chris was slated to move to Detroit (where I enjoyed a favorite watering hole and some sweet solitude), and then in Boston and Ogunquit for weekends in the fall. When winter arrived again, the tour stayed relatively stationary between Albany and Boston, but I was merely gearing up for its grand finale.

A lifelong dream of visiting the desert came true at the tail end of winter, as I visited Tucson, Arizona and the wonder of the Sonoran Desert and its Saguaro National Park. Words can’t convey the might and majesty of it. There was enchantment, there was magic, there was wonder, and there was peace. As we turned the page to spring, I returned to ‘Sunset Boulevard’ in New York, and closed a circle in brilliant fashion (with a little help from Glenn Close). In other full-circle moments, a return to Chicago was rife with drama and denouements, and a fitting near-finale to the entire essence of my touring years.

That brings us to this moment. Stops in Boston, New York City, and Ogunquit will complete this journey, and while part of me is sad to see the delusions end (we find our safest comfort in the wilderness of our imagination) I am more than ready to let it go. It’s time. In some ways it feels like I’ve been running since my very first tour in 1995. I’m tired. But more than that, I want to start something new. Something real. Something provocative. Something true.

Until then, may all our delusions be grand…

{THE DELUSIONAL GRANDEUR TOUR: LAST STAND OF A ROCK STAR wraps up its run at the end of May.}

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Our Anniversary, Back in Boston

Seven years ago, on a gorgeously sunny day in the Boston Public Garden, Andy and I had our wedding ceremony. It was an intimate event, filled with some of our favorite things, and it was done in a way that meant the most to us. As is custom, I’m posting the links to that wonderful weekend below, while we take a badly-needed trip to honor all the fun we had. Happy anniversary to us!

Part 1: The Arrival & Accommodations

Part 2: The Rehearsal Dinner

Part 3: The Last Call of a Bachelor

Part 4: The Dawn of the Wedding Day

Part 5: The Ceremony

Part 6: The Perfect Day in the Park

Part 7: The Wedding Lunch

Part 8: The Wedding Dinner

Bonus Post: The Residual Glow of Marriage

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Sibling Non-Rivalry

When twins show their love, it’s a beautiful thing. My brother and I posed like this a few times in our childhood, which makes me wonder how these two will turn out. Their love is apparent, but there is also competition and the occasional squabble. All are necessary parts of growing up, I suppose. For now, we make the most of moments like this, when unabashed affection is easily summoned for the camera.

 

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