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May 2013

The Madonna Timeline: Song #92 ~ ‘Revolver’ – Summer 2009

{Note: The Madonna Timeline is an ongoing feature, where I put the iPod on shuffle, and write a little anecdote on whatever was going on in my life when that Madonna song was released and/or came to prominence in my mind.}

One of two new original songs from Madonna‘s third Greatest Hits collection, ‘Celebration’ , ‘Revolver’ is instantly catchy, but just as instantly forgettable. Used to decent effect on the opening gun-filled salvo of her MDNA Tour, with a cameo by a ridiculous Lil Wayne (she should choose her collaborators more carefully), it’s mostly filler, put over by the gun-toting choreography and Madonna’s sassy strutting.

 

My love’s a revolver,
My sex is a killer
Do you wanna die happy?
Do you wanna die happy?

Songs like this remind me that not every Madonna piece must be personal and profound, not every one must tell a story, conjure a childhood memory, soar into the stratosphere, or revisit a broken heart. Even if without ‘Revolver’, there would be no ‘Celebration.’

 

Song #92: ‘Revolver’ – Summer 2009
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A Pair of Midnight Waltzes

He remembers a memory, but it cannot be his, of practicing piano in the summer, while a lawnmower moaned in the distance, and some luckier boy than him was playing outside. A sharp scent of grass freshly-cut drifts in through the open door. It mingles with the stale smell of a dusty living room curtain. He loved the way the outside crept in to change the effects of the inside, and the smell of the house in the summer, especially at night, after it was shut closed again, filled him with  a cozy thrill.

A choice of two, for there is always a choice. And which will you choose? Fate and destiny, unfolding like the Chopin, or the random girl reunited with a one-night-stand? Beneath an almost-full pink moon, and the same starry sky…

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10,000… and Growing

Last week I passed a milestone (for me) on Twitter: I reached 10,000 followers. For my family and friends who think I’m hopelessly irrelevant and not worth bothering about, at least 10,000 other people think I’m at least worthy of being “followed”. Does this amount to a hill of beans? Not really. Does this give me any sort of ego-boost on a day I might be feeling down? Not even. Does it give me a bit of cachet in the social media world? Not likely.

But 10,000 is a decent number. It’s a number that somehow matters. It may not mean much, but it still matters. The hardest thing for so many of us to realize – truly, honestly, genuinely realize – is that we matter. Maybe this is a start. And to think, it only took 10,000…

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Ben Cohen: Shirtless, Furry, and with… Babies?

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I don’t know what this photo shoot is for, but when Ben Cohen takes his shirt off you don’t ask questions. It’s a cuddly cute shot with the smile we’ve come to expect from such an admirable straight ally.

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Madonna’s Bar Mitzvah Boy

As previously noted, I have a strong affection for Vogue Boys. And the boys who dance to Madonna at their B’nai Mitzvah, well, they own a bit of my heart. You may have seen this guy when his video went viral a while back. His name is Shaun Sperling, and from the time he vogued his way through his own Bar Mitzvah, and years later into our hearts, he’s been advocating a life lived with true authenticity.

  

Look around, everywhere you turn there’s heartache,
It’s everywhere that you go.
You try everything you can to escape
the pain of life that you know.
When all else fails and you long to be
Something better than you are today,
I know a place where you can get away…
 

Sometimes the hardest thing to be is yourself. Yet it’s the only thing we should ever be. Mr. Sperling was aware of that at a young age, and today works to make sure that the message gets through to everyone. It takes balls to be so unabashedly who you are, without apology or explanation or excuses. It takes guts. It takes courage. It takes everything I didn’t have, not in any real way. Mine was all apathy and illusion, a desperate disguise, a fervent hope to not be discovered. Sperling had, at least judging from the video, a supportive cast of friends and family who clearly supported and loved him. How else can we so beautifully shine?

Mr. Sperling’s YOUniversity work celebrates “authenticity, self-respect, compassion, acceptance, and making your dreams come true”, and while it may sound a little Oprah-like, it’s not without merit. Sperling is living proof of this. Having appeared on the Ellen DeGeneres show (with none other than Madonna herself), the Today Show, Jimmy Kimmel Live, and Huffington Post Live, he and his viral Vogue video have showcased a gay teenager who went on to do great things. (Attorney, writer, civil rights advocate, performer, and professional speaker are just a few of the hats he wears so jauntily.)

In the end, it still comes down to that video. A boy walked into his Bar Mitzvah, dressed in a baggy suit, to the cheers of his family and friends. He removes the jacket to reveal Madonna on his back, and the opening beat to ‘Vogue’ kicks in. The rest is all carefully-choreographed showmanship, deliciously proud attitude, and vicious Bar Mitzvah chutzpah – a coming-out party of defiant fabulousness. According to Shaun, “the best ingredient for living a successful life is knowing who you are.” The boy who danced on that video two decades ago knew who he was. The man he became knows even more. It’s not always an easy thing to discover, and the world doesn’t always make overtly welcoming gestures, but if you can stay true to who you are, if you can find out who you were meant to be, there are those out there willing to support and love you for it. Shaun is one of them.

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May Flowers

A promise kept by Mother Nature, these flowers linger into the lusty month of May. It is one of my favorite times of the year – when all is hope and promise – and the garden begins its first major flush of bloom. The featured photo is a small group of hyacinths. I planted these a few years ago. The first year of bloom is the spectacular one – with the full head of blooms, looking almost fake to be so perfect. The years that follow settle down into a more natural state, as seen here. I personally find that first year a little overbearing, at least in the plant world. This is the way it should be.

Next up is our cherry tree, a single-flowered variety (the Kwanzan explosion begins a bit later). While the blossoms are simple and small on their own, taken together they light up the sky with bright criss-crossing branches of blooms, presented before the onslaught of foliage, and all the more impressive for it. Examined closely, they reveal details that might otherwise go overlooked: as these age, they will turn the slightest bit pink at the center and edges. It’s a subtle change, usually missed for the quick duration of its stay, coming as it does near the tail end of the bloom’s life.

After the drawn-out winter we had, it’s not just the flowers that offer sweet relief, as evidenced by this stand of chives in the sun. One of the things I like best about this time in the gardening year is how bright the greens are, how fresh they look. For many people, gardening is all about the flowers – how to get the biggest, brightest, and most abundant. For me, it’s also about the foliage ~ the texture, the hues, the shape, the style. The endless variety of life, teeming with possibility, at one of the most beautiful months of the year…

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The Madonna Timeline: Song #91 ~ ‘True Blue’ – Summer 1986/1992

{Note: The Madonna Timeline is an ongoing feature, where I put the iPod on shuffle, and write a little anecdote on whatever was going on in my life when that Madonna song was released and/or came to prominence in my mind.}

Hey!
What?
Listen…

I’ve had other guys,
I’ve looked into their eyes,
But I never knew love before
Til you walked through my door…

The title track to Madonna‘s third album, ‘True Blue’, this was a sugary-sweet pop confection recalling the girl groups of the 50’s, transformed 80’s-style. It was the perfect soundtrack to the summer – and that summer was certainly dominated by this album (such as the hot garage moment of ‘Live to Tell’). My memories of the original release of ‘True Blue’ were mostly of the ‘Make My Video’ contest that MTV had sponsored. The black and white nostalgic clip was vastly superior to Madonna’s own soundstage produced blue-soaked effort, Debi Mazar be damned. The song had greater relevance later in my life, in the early nineties.

I’ve had other lips
I’ve sailed a thousand ships
But no matter where I go
You’re the one for me, baby, this I know
Cause it’s true love,
You’re the one I’m dreaming of
Your heart fits me like a glove
 And I’m gonna be true blue, baby, I love you.

I was sitting in the passenger seat of the car of the young lady who would become my first serious girlfriend, riding to a music rehearsal. She played the flute, I played the oboe, and we both needed someone who played the piano. At the very end of spring we drove across the winding roads of upstate New York, en route to this piano accompanist who would be my only guide as I played some three-movement Handel piece for NYSSMA (don’t even ask what it stands for as I can’t be bothered to remember).

I’ve heard all the lines
I’ve cried oh so many times
Those teardrops they won’t fall again
I’m so excited cause you’re my best friend.

The sun was stationed in the clear blue sky. The trees were lush with that chartreuse shading signaling the start of the season. The grass was already high. I looked over at her hair blowing in the wind, catching the faint hint of her perfume as the wind whipped it around. I don’t know why – as we had always been only friends – but this song came on and I had a premonition that we would one day be more. That day would come that fall, but for now it was just a song playing in the car, and we were driving along with the windows open and the spring air filling the space, and the end of another school year was in sight, and I saw the world open up and become just a little bit brighter.

So if you should ever doubt,
Wonder what love is all about
Just think back and remember dear,
Those words whispered in your ear…

You never forget your first love. We were both so innocent then, so unscathed and unrocked by life. You can never get that back, and if you’re lucky enough to share that time in your life with someone kind, someone trustworthy, someone decent and honorable and good – it makes a binding pact with the world that things might be all right. That would prove invaluable – lifesaving, in fact – later in our journey. She would go on to be one of my best friends, and we survived our break-up and somehow became better, and closer, for it. Whenever I felt scared or lonely or lost faith in people, I looked to her. Sometimes I would call her, in the middle of the night, in sleepless college darkness, just to feel reassured. Sometimes I would visit her and her family to confirm that there was still kindness and goodness in the world. Sometimes it was enough just to remember our time together.

No more sadness,
I kiss it good-bye,
The sun is bursting right out of the sky,
 I’ve searched the whole world for someone like you…
Song #91 : ‘True Blue’ ~ Summer 1986/1992
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