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April 2013

The Mayor, The Dog, and Me

The park in which this statue sits is just across the street from where I work, yet even though I pass it any number of times a day, and have for the past eight years, I’ve never had my photo taken with it. Until now. The man depicted is former Albany Mayor Thomas Whalen III. I’m assuming that’s his pooch. (It would be strange for it to be some stray dog that just haphazardly wandered into the pose – not that it isn’t strange on its own to have a dog immortalized in such a manner. This isn’t Disneyworld, or Michael Jackson’s Neverland compound.) At any rate, someone pointed out that he could pass for a bronzed Bill O’Reilly. I don’t think I’d so willingly sidle up to Mr. O’Reilly though. And speaking of bronzed, I wonder if Jerry Jennings will ever get a statue like this…?

 

PS – This was my ensemble for Saturday’s performance of the Albany Symphony Orchestra. I won’t even touch on what the other patrons were wearing, as I’ve slagged off Albany enough this week. Sometimes, though, criticism is amply justified. We’ll leave it at that.

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The Cherry at the Church

This old cherry tree lives beside an old, out-of-commission, slightly dilapidated church in downtown Albany. I don’t pass it as a rule, but it seems every year at this time we find our way on a different path that brings us near it. And then I make Andy pull over so I can get some photos.

It’s in a semi-sheltered area, so it comes into a bloom a few weeks before our cherries start their show. It’s much more immense than any of ours, full of well-earned character, multiple-trunks, and tier-upon-tier of weeping pink blooms. In the midst of a bleak downtown, an abandoned church, and a dreary lot, this tree blooms and transforms the world around it for a few days.

 

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A Week of Gardening, Gays, & Guys

This past week has seen a drastic transformation of the gardens, thanks as much to Mother Nature as to my mother-fucking muscle. My back is on strike, my feet simply quit, and my hands couldn’t pull the trigger on a pair of pruning shears to save my life. But the work got did, the yard got cleaned, and the beds and borders have not looked this good in a long time. After a few years of wild, over-grown and unchecked wilderness, this was the time I took it back. It was a time to be ruthless, and I was. I’m paying for it a bit now in callouses and back-aches, but it was worth it. Onto the previous week’s recap:

It begins, fitting with a few gardening posts, both practical and philosophical, (and just plain pretty) inspired by a great book on gardening and life, ‘The Backyard Parables’ by Margaret Roach.

There was music by Muse, both mad and divine.

I don’t know what is going on with the restaurant bars in Downtown Albany, but they seem to be losing their way. Case in point, this martini at La Serre.

The Hunk of the Day returned with a shirtless vengeance, featuring the easy-on-the-eyes likenesses of Nate Berkus, Trevor Donovan, Jon Bon Jovi, Terry Miller, Alex Pettyfer, and Marques Houston. (And I threw in some Tom Daley in a Speedo for good measure.)

The Lenten Rose wept as honey poured forth from Madonna’s gash… oh wait, I’m mixing up gardening and the ‘Sex’ book again…

As you may have guessed, I saw no reason to include any corresponding shots other than Trevor Donovan naked and in his underwear. Sue me.

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What I Learned in the Garden Today

After two full-days in the garden – heaving and moving four cubic yards of mulch (that’s a freaking lot), transplanting and repositioning certain plants, amending and pruning others, my body and brain are both fried. I’m a little apprehensive of what tomorrow morning will bring after everything I did to my physical being this weekend, but it’s a good kind of pain. For now. And it was not without its rewards in wisdom. Here are a few choice notions that crossed my mind over the past two days in the garden:

  • If I ever write that gay garden porn memoir/guide to life I’ve long threatened, it shall be titled ‘I Should Have Worn Knee-pads.’
  • In a pinch, it is possible to steer a wheelbarrow with one hand and one hip, for emergency wiping of sweat off the brow (and it doubles as good by-stander entertainment too).
  • When push comes to shove, and there’s dirt on the glove, you can push your glasses up with your elbow.
  • Mucus is NASTY after you’ve been breathing in tiny dirt particles all day.

 

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No Further Than Your Own Backyard

Its cover called to me quietly – a gentle nudge of whimsy, like a frog whispering into a Buddha’s ear – only not just like, it actually was a frog whispering into the ear of a Buddha statue. The title whispered too, in a wish and a prayer – ‘The Backyard Parables’ – as if all the world’s wisdom was right in my very own backyard all along, Wizard of Oz-style. Anything that combined gardening and literature, two of my greatest passions, could only be food for the soul. One of the very first books that I learned to love was ‘Country Flowers’ by Lee Bailey. A birthday gift given to me when I turned ten at the end of August, it crept into my consciousness a few months later, as I struggled to locate a spring within that winter, and found one in the pages of a book. In many respects, that book changed my life.

At the closing of his introduction, Mr. Bailey wrote, “One last thing: like most people, I wish I could more often be the person I sometimes am – and I am most often that person in the garden. So in many ways this books represents the best of me.”

Though only ten at the time, I knew exactly what he meant. I told him so in a hand-written fan letter too, on amateurish, lined notebook paper, in what no doubt looked like childish scrawl, and all the more believable because of it. He wrote back to me, indicating his sweet surprise at how young I was starting out in the garden. It fostered a passion both for gardening and writing that subsists to this day.

I’m brought back to that moment because the latest book I read, the aforementioned ‘The Backyard Parables’ by Margaret Roach, has cast a similar spell, and awakened a love for the garden that was, in recent years, weakened by more mundane concerns and worldly living, but which I am working to carve a space for, in honor of what matters, or at least what should matter. I also want to recommend ‘The Backyard Parables’ not solely to those who love plants and good writing, but to anyone looking for a decent journey. In the span of a seasonal year, Ms. Roach proves that gardening offers lessons of life far more resonant than any centuries-old tales, and does so in ways often more moving. With some clever asides both sly and practical, she imparts knowledge while winking at anyone who’s faced similar struggles.

There is a bit of an underlying melancholy to the work at hand, surely one of the reasons I loved it so. Gardens do not live forever, and a single garden can die a million deaths. In just one season, there can be life, death, and re-birth, and where else but the garden can one see that in action so clearly? Confronting such big issues can leave one feeling ambivalent at best. The garden knows that. The gardener has only to listen.

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The Zen of Gardening

With sound-barrier-breaking stereo systems, surround-sound entertainment empires, and ubiquitous ear buds, we are bombarded with noise of some sort at just about every waking moment of the day. I’m not one of those people who wears ear buds – only if I’m on a train or a plane ride or at the gym (which I haven’t visited in two months anyway). The rest of the time – on the subway, in the car, walking around – I leave them at home. Wearing them seems to lessen our interaction with the world. And as much as I like my solitude, I also enjoy some engagement. There was a time during my college years when I had a walkman and headphones with me at all times, buffering the universe with as much Madonna as I could muster. While it gave me a certain confidence (you should have seen my ‘Express Yourself’ strut down Newbury Street), it also removed me from the environment, lending distance and isolation.

I first realized the power of silence about ten years ago, when I went outside to prepare the garden for spring. In the past, I had worn headphones when raking and bagging leaves. It seemed to move the time faster, offering a bit of entertainment while working so hard. For whatever reason, that year I went to work without music, without noise, without a stereo by the back door. In the beginning it was disconcerting. After years of hearing something while working, the silence was, well, silent. But it wasn’t really. My ears just needed to realign themselves with nature. Soon, it wasn’t so quiet. The wind was the first movement, rushing by my ears, rustling leaves and pine boughs, and trilling through brittle grass reeds. The rake was the second movement, slow and uncertain at first as I sought a comfortable rhythm, then regular and efficient as the winter’s detritus made its way into manageable piles. The third movement was comprised of the wildlife – the chirping and fluttering of birds, the chattering of squirrels, the squeaking of chipmunks, and the calling of insects. Forget the quiet, this was an aural landscape rife with variation and noise – the music of nature at full blast.

But beyond that transformation was the more subtle peace that came with the absence of all the man-made music and sensory overload, the filler stuff that occupied so much of the world. It took an hour or two to decompress from that static – and if you fought it, if it felt alien and uncomfortable, it might take even more – but eventually a new calm came upon me. As it does in yoga or other meditation, it takes time to realize a change. That patience is the hard part for most of us. We want instant relief, and we want it now. Anything that requires waiting is rarely embraced. Yet that is the key to the whole concept of finding a zen-like peace in the garden. It cannot be rushed. It will happen in good time, when it’s ready to happen. There is no rushing, no ten-minute workout, no fast-fix that will result in immediate contentment. That sort of thing takes time. The garden is where I learned that.

The thoughts that first crossed my mind were the usual worries – but they passed. Then it was the concern with the tasks at hand, which end to begin on, what project to tackle next, would it be better to do a little of everything, or finish one entire task – and then those too passed as I found a method. Finally, maybe a few hours later, I looked around and felt it: the supreme sense of peace and calm. The euphoric runner’s high, the last relaxing posture, the destination reached before you even know you were journeying. Maybe it’s simply the satisfaction of finishing a full day of physical work. Maybe it’s something more.

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This is Madness

Once upon a high school time, this would have been a favorite song of mine. Its obsessive hooks, its obsessive theme, it all would have proven obsession for a teenager in the midst of too many hormones, pent-up emotions, and beaten-down rage. As such, it may be providing fodder for those currently in the midst of such madness. I’m a bit beyond it now, but it brings me back to those nights, when the world began to open up in terrifying, mind-altering ways, transforming me from a boy into a young man, irrevocably changing me, robbing me of innocence, depriving me of hope.

 
 
M-m-m-m-m-m-m-m mad, mad, mad…
M-m-m-m-m-m-m-m mad, mad, mad…
I – I can’t get these memories out of my mind
And some kind of madness has started to evolve…

Once upon a college time I was a stalker. I knew all the *69 tricks, and the *67 cover stories. I wore black to blend into the night. I was there at your bedroom window. I was there when you left in the morning. I was there when you returned in the afternoon. I patrolled your house when you were gone. I smelled your pillow and left my own scent there. You knew it. You wanted me there as you pushed me away. It was okay. I understood. You needed. I wanted. We never met in the middle. And all I could do was long for you.

I have finally seen the light
And I have finally realized what you mean.
And now I need to know if this is real love
Or is it just madness keeping us afloat?
When I look back at all the crazy fights we had
Like some kind of madness was taking control.
Now I have finally seen the light
And I have finally realized what you need.

Once upon a twenty-something time, I searched for something more. It was no longer enough to obsess. I needed something back. I needed you to give me something for all that they had taken from me. I needed you to want. It was unfair of me, yes, it was. I see that now. I may have seen that then. I demanded it anyway. You cannot escape this life unscathed by the rendering of love. And yes, it cuts both ways, delivering its sweet exquisite joy as it rips your heart apart.

And now I have finally seen the end
And I’m not expecting you to care
But I have finally seen the light
I have finally realized
I need to love
I need to love…

We have done so much damage to each other while dancing this dance, and I don’t think either of us was in enough control to stop it. We embraced our collisions, we matched our pain, hurt for hurt, one-upping the other in manipulation, in meanness, in madness. We were so lost, and we thought if we were lost together it would help us find the way. That never works.

We left each other there, for better or worse. We limped away, too proud to lick our wounds. We were  hurt. We were hurt deeply. Unforgivably. And we deserved it all. We weren’t kind. We weren’t good. But we tried. I have to think that we tried. And in some second act, some faraway world, maybe we’ll make it right, maybe we’ll make it work. Maybe it won’t be madness.

Come to me
Just in a dream.
Come on and rescue me.
Yes I know, I can be wrong,
Maybe I’m too headstrong.
Our love is…
Madness.
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Gershwin & Gatsby

A recent trip to see the National Symphony Orchestra has rekindled an interest in classical music, so when the Albany Symphony Orchestra announced tomorrow’s program featuring a Gatsby-inspired bit of Gershwin, I jumped at the chance to attend (even if Gershwin is not exactly ‘classical’ in the traditional sense). Many moons ago, I actually played with the Albany Symphony Orchestra for one of their concerts, sitting beside my teacher and mentor, Gene Marie Green. She taught me everything I knew about the oboe – and it was enough to get me into the Empire State Youth Orchestra, and a few substitute appearances in Albany and Schenectady.

There’s something very powerful about listening to a piece of music played live and uninterrupted from start to finish, something lost in today’s haste-prevents-waste world. A piece of music is a journey, not to be disturbed or heard in snippets or increments. The only way to see the journey through is to start at the beginning, continue through the middle, and last until the very final note reverberates into silence. It’s too bad so many start fidgeting after only five minutes in. Anything beyond the duration of a commercial break is deemed long-winded. But that won’t stop my enjoyment tomorrow, it will only hinder theirs. I won’t mind the candy-unwrapping or seat-shifting. I will listen to the music, I will hear the words of Fitzgerald, and I will be in heavenly abandon.

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The Gardening Battle Plan

This is the busy time in the garden, the time for the hardest work to prepare the way for the growing season. Like painting, much of gardening is about the preparation – of the soil, of the beds, of the pots – and if you stumble at the start it can be dangerously difficult to right things. On the other hand, a lot of gardening can be forgiving, in the resilience of plants, and their ability to spring back from even our most heinous acts of destruction and apathy. These are lessons everyone should learn.

After gardening at this house for over ten years, I have developed a rough system that works, somehow. This is the first time I have made a list of chores, divided roughly into the following tasks to do:

* Amend
* Prune
* Plant
* Revise
* Divide & Conquer

The Amending involves improving the soil around specific plants. This year, the new redbud (Cercis), the weeping larch, the Kwanzan cherry, the Ostrich ferns, and a Lady’s Slipper orchid all require a little extra pampering. In this case, it’s a bunch of shit. Cow shit. Bags and bags of manure are hauled in from Lowes and worked into the top of the soil surrounding said plants. I prefer this more organic product instead of the man-made fertilizers not only for its environmentally-friendly aspect, but also because it’s more difficult to overdose. Being that it’s mostly a top-dressing, there is little-to-no direct contact with the roots, resulting in no burn.

The Pruning is an ongoing task, but one that must be done delicately as pruning at the wrong time of the year can be disastrous. I am not in any way an expert on pruning, and wouldn’t dare advise on trees, but generally if the tree or shrub flowers, the best time to do so is immediately following the flowering. Which means not all of it can be done at this time of the year. In some cases, like the Japanese maples that are large enough to survive such haphazard hacking, I’ll go ahead and prune away at them any time of the year, but for things like the mockorange and lilacs, I’ll need to wait a bit. The most onerous pruning usually involves the hydrangeas – so many thick stems that need to be cut back individually, and then trying to extract all the fallen leaves from between those dense stalks. Good for the forearm though.

The Planting is the most fun part of the process, purchasing and implementing new friends in the hopes of finding the perfect plant for the perfect place. At this point in the garden, there’s not much room for more, and this year is more a time of cutting back and thinning out, as things have gotten a little too lush and grown in. However, there’s always room for something, and in this case I may try some Lilium among the Ostrich ferns, and pray the rodents don’t destroy them all. If that proves too difficult, there’s always container gardening – something I’ve never given proper attention to in the past. I never realized the impact that containers could have, especially on the patio. They may start out underwhelming, but if cared for correctly, the growth of annuals can be just as full as a five-year patch of any stalwart perennial, and often enough far more colorful.

The Revising is the problem-solving of the garden, done after a year or two of realizing something is not quite right, whether in the excessive growth of a dogwood, or the poor placement of a self-seeded spruce tree. Mostly the revising is about moving things, digging them up and putting them somewhere more fitting. Occasionally it’s about getting rid of something altogether – usually something overgrown or past its prime or usefulness. Sometimes that’s the hardest thing to face, and if at all possible I’ll try to pass a plant along to friends or family before getting rid of it, or plopping it into the more wild area of the backyard to let it fend for itself.

The Dividing and Conquering sounds the most challenging, and it often is. Particularly when certain plants have grown into unruly and extensive groups. Like the Miscanthus. The not-so-aptly nicknamed maiden grass can drive its roots down deep, and grow so tightly packed that only an ax, wielded with great force from high above, can hope to pass through its inextricably-woven system. I’m afraid the same will hold true for the several clumps of cup plants that have seeded themselves and taken over. A charming plant, it can also be overbearing and imposing if left to its own devices, towering up to ten feet, and supported by thick tuber-like roots. If I don’t put it in check now, it will be too late.

Finally, there is The Mulching. I only do a proper mulching every few years, mostly from laziness and partly from a judicial decision that yearly mulching is over-excessive and unnecessary. If it’s not broken down, there’s not always a need to mulch again. (Truth be told, only one year should be skipped in this manner, but I’ve stretched it into three. Sometimes four. Again, laziness.) This, unfortunately, is one of those years that can’t be skipped. Wish me, and my back, luck.

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Dusk & Dawn

A couple of aborted trips to Boston and several almost-planned weekends in NYC have led me to my current state of agitated, wanderlust-laden entrapment, wherein I feel the pull and push of getting away – anywhere away – growing stronger and stronger. An all-too-brief excursion to the Cape went a small way towards alleviating this, but I need greater distance, newer pastures, and better hotel rooms. The allure of travel hangs in the coming weeks, when the spring kicks in properly. Until then I will bide my time, trying to stay occupied with gardening and home improvement, hoping it will be enough. I fear I’m growing bored – and I need new inspiration. In the garden and in the family room. Or in some hotel far, far away…

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Two-Toner

This variety of Muscari may have marked the birth of my love for a two-tone color scheme. If it can be found in nature, it’s usually a safe design bet. Blues – true blues at least – are tough to find in the flower world, and those that do exist often lean to the red side, veering onto the slope of purple. This grape hyacinth is no different, but the juxtaposition of the eggplant bottom makes the top tiers seem a bit bluer than they might otherwise be. It’s a trick that works, and nature knows her optical illusions better than we humans could ever hope to achieve, M.C. Escher notwithstanding.

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Cape Codders at The Lobster Trap

The censored pics from JoAnn’s birthday celebration. You don’t want to see the rest.

PS – Quality Inn my ass.

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Scilla So Blue

Fulfilling a promise made a week or so ago, the blue blooms of a tiny Scilla patch have opened and brought a bit of the sky down low to the ground. For many years I dismissed the tiny early-bloomers like these, not wanting to waste my time and effort on something that would require a zillion bulbs to make the most minor impact. Much more bang for your back-breaking buck in planting a tree or shrub. Yet I did manage to sprinkle a few around in the backyard, and they’ve been coming back and actually seeding themselves in the surrounding area for a couple of years. As time goes by, and winters like this last one bleed endlessly into spring, I find great joy and relief in seeing the first signs of garden life peeking through the brown layer of oak leaves and dead grass stalks.

It has me rethinking my aversion to the little beauties, and I may end up popping a few more in the ground this fall closer to the house. They’re so small and inconspicuous except for when they bloom that they shouldn’t be a bother.

Thanks to the camera, little blossoms like this can take on gargantuan proportions, becoming something quite different as you see in this progression of shots. It makes you realize how something so tiny, blooming in a sea of brown, still has its own power.

Locating a flower in bloom has always been a talent of mine. I can spot the lone lupine along the highway while speeding along at 74 miles per hour. I can pick out the tiny clusters of white blooms riding the crests of the sweet woodruff a whole backyard away. I can hone in on the scarlet banner of a fluttering cardinal flower in a meadow otherwise over-run by Queen Ann’s lace. In the case of the cardinal flower, it’s simply a matter of noticing what’s different. Certain blooms stands out like that. But in others, it takes a trained eye to pick up on the subtle call of the flowers – such as the dangling fragrant bells of the Solomon’s Seal, hidden beneath the variegated foliage, or the inconspicuous chocolate-hued bloom of the European ginger.

So much of life is about looking deeper, peering beneath the surface – and the garden is no different.

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Weep For Me, Lenten Rose

This is the Lenten Rose, Latin name Helleborus. When we first moved into our home, I plopped this into the backyard bed, almost out of a mandatory obligation that one must have at least one Lenten Rose to welcome the spring, but the fact was I had never even seen this plant in person before the blind purchase. For several years, I was unimpressed. The evergreen foliage didn’t fare well in our Northeastern winters, looking ratty and half-dead at the turn of March. It took a year or two before I had the balls to whack off the most decimated leaves and allow the plant to rejuvenate, but once I learned its resilience it made a much better show of things, finally deigning to bloom about five years after planting.

While the blooms are welcome, they are sometimes damaged by the late-winter snows we usually get. Another issue is the way they are held on the stem: drooping downward. It’s more pronounced after the frequent April rains, so unless you’re willing to perform ground-level acrobatics, it’s difficult to get a good view, and a good photo. Since I don’t like manipulating the flowers I find in the garden for photographic purposes, it makes it tough to get a decent shot, but you get the idea. There’s a different type of charm that comes from a rose when it weeps.

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Windmill & Bridge

On Saturday of this past weekend, I drove over to the Cape, just beyond the Bourne Bridge, to surprise my friend JoAnn for her birthday. That particular pocket of Cape Cod holds special meaning to me, as we spent many times at her place on North Beach, talking and sharing and healing. It’s always a treat to return and revisit that part of the past. I arrived long before check-in, so I drove around a bit – both in town, and then further into Falmouth.

The day was gray and overcast, spitting out rain and making most photo ops impossible. I did get these two, however ~ the windmill and the bridge ~ a pair of structural elements that defied the somber lack of color. On Main Street, I ducked into a French bakery to escape the wind and rain, hunkering down at a window table and devouring an almond croissant and, I admit, a chocolate chip cookie. A cup of coffee rounded out the breakfast, and when the rain let up a little I ventured back out.

No matter how much we try to tame her, nature will not be stopped. On this day, she only roared in the morning, and as the hours progressed her agitation diminished, until by three o’clock she was showing some of her blue sky, and it was again time to eat.

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